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Hi Aviemorticia I have ordered a couple of Sarah Hendrickx's books - thanks for the recommendation. Looking forward to reading

Dear Aviemorticia I'm sorry if I sounded a bit negative but I can't see an easy way out of my situation. Also I can't go into too much detail here, not because of strangers, but because I think somebody at work knows I am on this forum (and therefore knows my position). Without giving too much away, the biggest problem (for me) is that I have 3 children to support, have been in the same routine for 4-5 years and the last change of job (and relocation) was a huge upheaval and so stressful that I hoped I would never have to go through it again. I have noted your links and will take a look

Hi, I was particularly interested in the redundancy guide but easier said than done. Although you make some good points, many will not work for me. 1. Redundancy means I can't pay the mortgage or afford to run my car. (have you seen the cost of public transport in London lately?) 2. I am too old to be employed elsewhere (given the current climate) and nobody else would touch me with a barge pole 3. I am skilled in a particular professional field 4. Redundancies are already happening in my field so finding another job elsewhere in this field is totally out of the question 5. I am terrified and resistant to change 6. Redundancy would put me into a spiral of depression as I won't know what to do (I have been there before and I could not cope) 7. Redundancy would eliminate all that I have worked for This list is far from exhaustive I know I need to prepare myself so any help would be useful

Hi pinklaces34 I'm an Aspergers Dad. When I was 28, I still had no idea why I was "different" and had trouble making friends. I think my daughter could be on the spectrum. Like you, I find sitting in front of the computer at the end of the day calming and relaxing. My wife could be stressing out doing household chores and sometimes gets a bit mad, though she is very understanding of my condition. I read "An Aspergers Marriage" and "22 things a woman should know about men with Aspergers" and it's opposite: "22 things a man should know about women with Aspergers" (sorry can't remember authors).

Sounds like autistic traits to me. I wonder if this is also hyperlexia

The "D" usually stands for "Difference" but this word does not have the same connotation in "ASD". Perhaps we should make up a new meaning to "ASD". Autistic Spectrum D............ answers on a postcard please

This is a difficult one. Hospitals are generally busy, busy places with crowded waiting rooms and staff rushed off their feet often doing the work of 3 - 4 people. This means hospitals cannot make allowances for every possible individual's needs. Although I sympathise with you, did you not know that hospital waiting rooms are crowded and noisy? If you have to go through this again, perhaps you should plug your ears to muffle the sounds slightly or an iPod and just look around and take note from which direction names are being called. It's not much difference really from boarding a crowded train or walking through a busy shopping mall. Would you complain to the management of the shopping mall and request they make it a silent zone to suit you? Knowing hospital consultants like I do, they do not have time to read a whole set of casenotes before they see you: they just read the appropriate referral letter from your GP or referring doctor. If your conditions are not mentioned in the referral letter, the consultant is not going to know, let alone give you special treatment. S)he just does not have the time. Ok, there is no excuse for this consultant shouting at you but remember, you do have the right to request a second opinion from someone else. If you have problems with accents then you know that you need to sharpen up your listening skills and focus. It is easy to apportion blame especially when you had a bad experience but - had everything gone well and smoothly, would you have written to the hospital to express your satisfaction and gratitude...?

Hi there I have a peculiar relationship with sound. For example I can tolerate particular types of LOUD sounds but not others. And I notice there is a correlation between this and stress levels. I cannot bear the sounds of babies constantly crying LOUDLY, yet I can easily tolerate (and enjoy) the sound of a Harrier jet taking off or the sound of the older InterCity 125's at start-up (noise levels well in excess of 120dB). I used to love the noise of Concorde in the days when one was allowed to visit the viewing platform at Heathrow. I like my music up loud at home (if I could get away with it...) or through headphones but can't stand the loud noise of the TV which happens to be near where I'm sitting at my PC. I can listen to loud music from my PC or iPod through headphones but cringe when the adverts come on the TV. Although my tolerance to loud music doesn't wane when I'm tired, my tolerance to the TV or babies crying encessently is dramatically reduced. I tend to hear all sounds at the same time (e.g. clocks ticking, the buzz of flourescent lights, people talking etc) but am to some degree able to filter out what I don't want to hear - unless I'm doing hard study whereupon ALL noise is a distraction.

Sounds like you have heatstroke. Rest, plenty of fluids and keep cool. Good luck with the interview - hope you get the job...

Hi girlracer76 May I also add the following... you mention that his reading and spelling is well above his age but what is his reading comprehension like. Does he understand what he has read?

Evening all Having worked through further "life discoveries" of late, I have found a name for my fascination with numbers and poor comprehension - (but I know I am dyscalculic which is completely separate from my fascination with train/bus numbers during the 1980s). I never realised until recently that improving social skills plays a big part in improving reading comprehension. I really don't "get" literature, I can't make inferences etc. Any ideas for improving reading comprehension apart from improving social skills...?

Hello Emma I went to reply to your post yesterday but got distracted so wasn't able to Probably a bit late now but how did you get on at the doctor's today?

SmileyK you need to "let go" of some of this emotional "baggage". This is choking you and stopping you from moving on. Work on one small thing at a time...i.e take baby steps rather than trying to tackle everything at once.

Hi SmileyK Yes, anxiety can certainly take over our mind and choke our free thinking. Negative thoughts and beliefs become imprisoned as the mind profiterates. Something I've been trying to do for years is to "let go", i.e. to "free the mind" of obsessive, negative thoughts. Does anyone have the answer?

Marriage works for me...and my wife. Although I am not officially diagnosed what I have makes no difference to her as to who I am. I am still the same person she married. Don't let any professional tell you that marriage doesn't work if one person has AS (or whatever)