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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team


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  1. Coping strategies guides

    Hi Aviemorticia I have ordered a couple of Sarah Hendrickx's books - thanks for the recommendation. Looking forward to reading
  2. Coping strategies guides

    Dear Aviemorticia I'm sorry if I sounded a bit negative but I can't see an easy way out of my situation. Also I can't go into too much detail here, not because of strangers, but because I think somebody at work knows I am on this forum (and therefore knows my position). Without giving too much away, the biggest problem (for me) is that I have 3 children to support, have been in the same routine for 4-5 years and the last change of job (and relocation) was a huge upheaval and so stressful that I hoped I would never have to go through it again. I have noted your links and will take a look
  3. Coping strategies guides

    Hi, I was particularly interested in the redundancy guide but easier said than done. Although you make some good points, many will not work for me. 1. Redundancy means I can't pay the mortgage or afford to run my car. (have you seen the cost of public transport in London lately?) 2. I am too old to be employed elsewhere (given the current climate) and nobody else would touch me with a barge pole 3. I am skilled in a particular professional field 4. Redundancies are already happening in my field so finding another job elsewhere in this field is totally out of the question 5. I am terrified and resistant to change 6. Redundancy would put me into a spiral of depression as I won't know what to do (I have been there before and I could not cope) 7. Redundancy would eliminate all that I have worked for This list is far from exhaustive I know I need to prepare myself so any help would be useful
  4. Dealing with being a grown up as an adult with aspergers

    Hi pinklaces34 I'm an Aspergers Dad. When I was 28, I still had no idea why I was "different" and had trouble making friends. I think my daughter could be on the spectrum. Like you, I find sitting in front of the computer at the end of the day calming and relaxing. My wife could be stressing out doing household chores and sometimes gets a bit mad, though she is very understanding of my condition. I read "An Aspergers Marriage" and "22 things a woman should know about men with Aspergers" and it's opposite: "22 things a man should know about women with Aspergers" (sorry can't remember authors).
  5. repeating words..... please help

    Sounds like autistic traits to me. I wonder if this is also hyperlexia
  6. Autism - a Disorder?

    The "D" usually stands for "Difference" but this word does not have the same connotation in "ASD". Perhaps we should make up a new meaning to "ASD". Autistic Spectrum D............ answers on a postcard please
  7. This is a difficult one. Hospitals are generally busy, busy places with crowded waiting rooms and staff rushed off their feet often doing the work of 3 - 4 people. This means hospitals cannot make allowances for every possible individual's needs. Although I sympathise with you, did you not know that hospital waiting rooms are crowded and noisy? If you have to go through this again, perhaps you should plug your ears to muffle the sounds slightly or an iPod and just look around and take note from which direction names are being called. It's not much difference really from boarding a crowded train or walking through a busy shopping mall. Would you complain to the management of the shopping mall and request they make it a silent zone to suit you? Knowing hospital consultants like I do, they do not have time to read a whole set of casenotes before they see you: they just read the appropriate referral letter from your GP or referring doctor. If your conditions are not mentioned in the referral letter, the consultant is not going to know, let alone give you special treatment. S)he just does not have the time. Ok, there is no excuse for this consultant shouting at you but remember, you do have the right to request a second opinion from someone else. If you have problems with accents then you know that you need to sharpen up your listening skills and focus. It is easy to apportion blame especially when you had a bad experience but - had everything gone well and smoothly, would you have written to the hospital to express your satisfaction and gratitude...?
  8. Hi there I have a peculiar relationship with sound. For example I can tolerate particular types of LOUD sounds but not others. And I notice there is a correlation between this and stress levels. I cannot bear the sounds of babies constantly crying LOUDLY, yet I can easily tolerate (and enjoy) the sound of a Harrier jet taking off or the sound of the older InterCity 125's at start-up (noise levels well in excess of 120dB). I used to love the noise of Concorde in the days when one was allowed to visit the viewing platform at Heathrow. I like my music up loud at home (if I could get away with it...) or through headphones but can't stand the loud noise of the TV which happens to be near where I'm sitting at my PC. I can listen to loud music from my PC or iPod through headphones but cringe when the adverts come on the TV. Although my tolerance to loud music doesn't wane when I'm tired, my tolerance to the TV or babies crying encessently is dramatically reduced. I tend to hear all sounds at the same time (e.g. clocks ticking, the buzz of flourescent lights, people talking etc) but am to some degree able to filter out what I don't want to hear - unless I'm doing hard study whereupon ALL noise is a distraction.
  9. heat exhaustion? :(

    Sounds like you have heatstroke. Rest, plenty of fluids and keep cool. Good luck with the interview - hope you get the job...
  10. problems with literacy

    Hi girlracer76 May I also add the following... you mention that his reading and spelling is well above his age but what is his reading comprehension like. Does he understand what he has read?
  11. Evening all Having worked through further "life discoveries" of late, I have found a name for my fascination with numbers and poor comprehension - (but I know I am dyscalculic which is completely separate from my fascination with train/bus numbers during the 1980s). I never realised until recently that improving social skills plays a big part in improving reading comprehension. I really don't "get" literature, I can't make inferences etc. Any ideas for improving reading comprehension apart from improving social skills...?
  12. How to deal with doctors

    Hello Emma I went to reply to your post yesterday but got distracted so wasn't able to Probably a bit late now but how did you get on at the doctor's today?
  13. emotional rollercoaster ride! ;(

    SmileyK you need to "let go" of some of this emotional "baggage". This is choking you and stopping you from moving on. Work on one small thing at a time...i.e take baby steps rather than trying to tackle everything at once.
  14. perfection pressure on myself! :(

    Hi SmileyK Yes, anxiety can certainly take over our mind and choke our free thinking. Negative thoughts and beliefs become imprisoned as the mind profiterates. Something I've been trying to do for years is to "let go", i.e. to "free the mind" of obsessive, negative thoughts. Does anyone have the answer?
  15. Marriage

    Marriage works for me...and my wife. Although I am not officially diagnosed what I have makes no difference to her as to who I am. I am still the same person she married. Don't let any professional tell you that marriage doesn't work if one person has AS (or whatever)