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    It's nice to be looked after and it's also nice to be wanted/needed. But it is not good to be dependent on somebody else.

     

    I feel this can be a sign of vulnerability and people might take advantage. For example, somebody might be nice to you and want to be your friend. But they only do this if they want something from you and then they dump you afterwards.

     

    I am very wary and distrustful of people unless they can prove to me they can be trusted. This was (and still is to an extent) why I didn't make friends. I was used and bullied at school and quite gullible. But living on my own for many years kinda toughened me up as I had to learn to survive out there in the world full of unknowns and people ready to make a killing.

     

    It is better to be independent in life where you can make better choices

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    I have an obsession with collecting model trains (as a throw-back to my interest in the hobby) and books on things that interest me - many of which are expensive text books that are too valuable to give away. The model trains I hoard away as collectors' items (which one day I might build a model layout) which represent an important era in my youth when I got interested in trains and collected numbers etc, but most of my books I read and refer to from time I also had this thing about buying lenses for my camera: i.e. finding a "need" for a particular lens and buying it. But like my books, my lenses are always there for when I need them and I can certainly justify every purchase.

     

    But, many women like shopping (whether it be for clothes, shoes, makeup etc) - I can't see this as just an AS thing

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    Sounds like your elder son is showing his frustration/anger/disappointment etc by a show of violence. It could also be his way of gaining/showing power over the youngest one. Perhaps he doesn't like the word "no".

     

    You know that he cannot be rewarded for violent behaviour and you need to take control.

     

    Does he watch violence on TV (some cartoons definately show violence) or play such games on a portable games console?

     

    Also my question on what he eats/drinks/snacks on still stands...

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    Hi girldave

     

    Yes social awkwardness, difficulty initiating/maintaining conversations, difficulty interpreting social cues etc are hallmarks of AS. Does your sister really have no idea about current trends/pop/fashion etc or is she just not interested? This can be another typical trait of AS but of course there are some NT people who aren't interested either. But perhaps this could be to do with her naiveity - how does she dress?

     

    As you're going to be living with her, having a little understanding about AS will help you to cope with her eccentricities better. But she is at an age where she is responsible for herself so don't feel you should take on the responsibility yourself. By all means give her help/guidance etc and be there for her.

     

     

    You will find a lot of help/advice on this forum and feel free to introduce her to us if she so wishes.

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    Yes I have days when I feel "Aspie", especially when I'm forced into any kind of social situation that I cannot deal with

     

    My mood goes up or down and how I feel depends exactly which part of the mood cycle I happen to be at the time which in turn is dependent on what I am doing and how I feel about myself/others. But I don't consider state of mood as being an "aspie thing" as everyone's moods can change from time to time.

     

    I suppose it comes down to how an individual wakes up in the morning and perceives their day ahead. Also how much sleep that individual's had and whether s)he bounds out of bed with a heightened sense of energy or whether s)he can't bear to get out of bed due to sleep issues, agarophobia or something that might happen on a particular day or something that s)he might be worried about

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    I have decided what to do now and have narrowed down a list of foods which I will eat regularly over the coming weeks. Some I eat already but perhaps not enough of which means my GI tract is already "primed" for what I am about to give it.

     

    I have my goal and target weight - so time will tell as to whether I can keep going.

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    Sometimes Darkshine I do wonder how you stay alive...:lol: :lol:

     

    Good how you can be so honest about this.

     

    At minimum, you could survive easily off the following (that is if you like any of them):

     

    liver

     

    oil-based sardines

     

    eggs

     

    whole milk

     

    fruits of the season

     

    garlic

     

    tomatoes

     

    cheese

     

    natural yoghurt

     

    red wine

     

    99% cocoa

     

    water

     

    You already know that snacks such as biscuits/junk food etc are bad and just empty calories which the body doesn't need. I was initially surprised when you said you were slightly overweight - I had visions of you being thin and weighing probably no more than about 7 - 8 stone. At least you keep these to a minium

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