robert7111a
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I'm always up for a game of chess with anyone (Darkshine...?) and although I may not be quick, I certainly do not take all day.
Castling does not always make sense as it puts your king in a vulnerable position at the edge of the board if your defence isn't sound.
When I was a kid (and in my chess club), we were always taught to castle early. But if your chums weren't around to defend you, then you were on your own...and at the mercy of your opponent.
I often enjoyed exchanging queens early... made the game more exciting as to who would queen a pawn first
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Are you on any medication that can suppress appetite? Do you ever actually feel hungry? Are you better at snacking throughout the day rather than trying to eat everything in one go at one or two meals? Is it the presentation of food or what's in it? Do you look closely at the ingredients? Sorry for the 20 questions...
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I love chess and used to be really good at it years ago when I was at school and ran a chess club. But I don't know if it's just cos I'm out of practice or my brain doesn't work the way it should, I seem to have lost the plot.
Yes, I start well with a clear goal but seem to lose it along the way as I make stupid moves. It's like I start in quite a confident manner but get lost as the game gets more complicated. I think it must be the loss of neurones as one gets older - those connections in the brain become fewer. I see chess a bit like reading, I understand all the pieces and how they move in the same way as I understand letters and can read the words on a page. But I lose my way, lose strategy and literally lose the plot in the same way as I can't understand actually what I'm reading - i.e. the plot of the book
Playing speed chess - well, as it doesn't give you time to think (or rehearse in one's mind), it is easy to make wrong moves - in the same way as saying the wrong thing in a conversation
Interesting topic Darkshine...
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Working in a box with no windows so can't see what's happening outside...but I heard the weekend will be a washout. Perhaps we'll get our summer in midwinter
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I'll have to wait until tonight but yes anyway...
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A lot of the time I don't know what to do
Nor do I
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Good for you !!
You should have more confidence in yourself gal
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Yup I take your point Darkshine (but your choice of words: i.e. egostistical is a bit of a mind bender this time of night!
, :lol)But a photograph can tell a story, help us relate to a past event in life or capture a mood/character if the setup/lighting is right along with some spontaneity and creativity. The photo doesn't have to be technically correct either.
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Stretch marks are normal during puberty, getting chubby or having borne a child. Which of these refer to you? This then guides options for you. Are you fit and in good shape? Then you have absolutely nothing to worry about. Are you slightly chubby? Then a sensible, gentle weight-loss program might help which will further boost your confidence. But certainly don't do anything rash (like surgery) without seriously doing your homework! If you generally take care of yourself, dress well and good makeup (or lack of) makes you feel good about your body - then you have nothing to worry about. Don't be swayed by everything you read/see in glossy mags etc...
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I forgot to add, the fact that you've decided to share your pain A-S Warrior says something about you. You are a man of great courage and clearly, you have a lot of friends on here.
Although not the same circumstances, I have been there, grieved, brooded, you name it, I couldn't eat, sleep...do anything.
But you will find the girl of your dreams...
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Is this a serious question requiring a serious answer?
How many people don't have the inner thigh wobbles?
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Hi A-S Warrior
I was, sort of in your shoes in my late 20's which help catalyst some very negative things that I won't mention on here. Basically I fell in love with a French girl and although I believed she loved me, the relationship ended when she returned to her homeland. I grieved no end because in my mind, she had died (i.e. left me). At the time, I was 2 years into clinical depression and this was the first catalyst that made things worse
A few months later (whilst still brooding over this French girl), I met another (English) girl through work. At that time she was going out with a violent boyfriend but was too scared to escape from the relationship. Over the next few weeks, we spent a lot of time together in and out of work, huddled on my sofa/bed at home, sharing secrets and really falling in love with one another. One day she came in and told me she had the courage to finish with her boyfriend which opened the gates to what was to be a few months besotted relationship. We were so besotted with one another and spent as much time as we could together - she even took me to meet her parents.
Then after about a year after we first met, I found out she was secretly meeting with her ex (violent) boyfriend who in my mind was brainwashing her in believing that they could get back together. The long and the short of it was just that, she made up some lie about wanting to go and see a priest (to get cleansed) and stay at a monastry. Our relationship suddenly ended.
This was the next catalyst to send me to my very lowest ebb (3 years into clinical depression) and I won't tell you what I did next.
It was all final when she came round to collect some of her belongings and get into her ex boyfriend's car. I look back and wonder what sort of life she must be leading, trapped in some violent relationship. I was at the end - the very end.
I know it's a clique A-S Warrior but time is a great healer. I eventually got over this girl and after remaining single for some years, met my current wife which has completely changed me.
It can be done, you will meet someone else. Trust me!
Best wishes
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Mods...sorry I posted this in the wrong section. Could you please move to the relevant section - thanks
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Dear all
From my experience, some people internalize their distress through feelings of low self-esteem, hopelessness, helplessness, sadness and anxiety whilst others internalize their distress through aggression, anger, destructive and rule-breaking behaviour
What are your thoughts/experiences?
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I'm not clued up on supported living. Do you live in a type of care home or do you have your own room/flat within a block? Do the staff knock (and wait) before they come in? This seems to defy common decency and respect, not to mention a breach of privacy. Is there somebody you could complain to?
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This keeps going OT (which is great!) and so I just want to steer it something else and add to the no. of posts.
Seems very quiet on the forums lately...
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Sorry guys, I feel the urge to hijack this thread
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Few people like seeing themselves in photographs. But yes you are right in a sense Darkshine in that a camera only really "sees" people superficially, i.e. their face, their visage and not their true "inner self" or their mood or feeling. One can only make inferences from that person's facial expression, what they are doing at the time and their surroundings
But it can be done given the right circumstances. That person should be in their element, doing what they like doing best and using the best lighting and ambience for that situation. Also depends on that person's ability to relax and ignore the camera. Doesn't come easy for some.
If somebody had to take a photo of me, I would really have to be holding a camera and shooting something nice, like a nice person or seascape for example.
Could you not, for example capture yourself on camcorder sitting perhaps on the floor of a disused warehouse, listening to your favourite music, swigging some beer or whatever takes your mood?
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Darkshine
I like to capture things "as is" and would like more opportunities with people. Posed shots are fine but they don't show the real person. Also, most people don't feel relaxed posing for the camera. Candid shots or capturing when people are unaware are usually the best ones and often show people in their element. I recently snapped some teenagers performing a tribute "Jedward" dance - (all but one were unposed) and sent them the pics. But often if people "know" a camera is pointed at them, they feel anxious or under pressure
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I would never play to a room full of anybody whether they were the most distant stranger or the closest friend or family member.
This was exactly my problem. I could never play to an audience as I would become a nervous wreck and lose all confidence. But surely this isn't just an AS thing (or is it worse with AS)?
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matzoball
I had problems posting my response so will try again.
I'm sorry if you are offended by my posts but in no way am I insinuating that you don't live in the real world. I'm sorry if you feel that way.
I have been in employment for 30 years with many large organisations and I know the real world too. The world of employment has gone from bad to worse in the last few years with more red tape and legislation and I have only commented from what I see with my own eyes.
I do all this for a living and have seen many unfortunate things happen to employees over my time. I understand this is a really sensitive debate and don't want to turn this into a personal argument. I'll respect your opinion if you respect mine.
I hope Soraya, your son can get over this and settles down in a happy job.
The world of work is very cruel these days.
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Robert hopefully our lives are long and the time will come around for us to pursue our passions.
Our lives may be long in chronological years (me and you are about the same age) but the work that we do may shorten it somewhat especially now we all have to work longer
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Do you find a camera makes things safer? Like being removed from reality? Behind a shield?
Absolutely not. Photography is my escape, it's my main hobby, it gets me out and it makes me happy. It's one of my few pleasures in life. I feel closer to reality when I'm behind the camera and forces me to focus (both in the literal sense and camera sense). Having a camera makes me look more and often I see things/detail which normally I would not see. As LancsLad says, there is a kind of that psychological "feel good" factor unless I'm photographing something critical (i.e. one chance) whereupon I get very nervousActually the more I think about it, yes I suppose in a small way, it's like being behind a shield if for example, I'm out snapping people unaware. But being behind a camera is not all good; some of my lenses are large(ish) and get me noticed (which is undesirable at times and often got me into trouble)But most of my photography is capturing history rather than creative. If I really got myself together, I would like to do more "people" photography but this thing called work really does get in the way
A-S warriors fun guides to life (episode 1) *disclaimer* for entertainment only.
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and how about:
How do I justify my next lens purchase to my wife? (cuz lenses are expensive)
When do I say enough is enough and stop taking pictures for the day?
And what is the answer to "how long is a piece of string"?
Why does tomorrow never come?
What is the longest word in the dictionary?
How can you tell when you've realised you've done well chatting up a girl who then turns out to be a bloke?