Ben's Mum

Thanks everyone for your replies - I will check out the other thread when I get more than a few minutes! We have decided that for every meal we will have some form of potatoes ( I don't think that we have found any that he doesn't like yet) plus bread and butter, at least then he will be able to eat something. Having read what you have written Ben doesn't appear to be that fussy!!! He will also quite happily eat the same meal time after time - we always used to give him microwave lasagne for sunday lunch and he had no problems with that but we were concerned about him not getting the right kind of food so stopped. Knowing that fussy eating is part of the problem will help - we believe that Ben's Asperger's is mild and don't want to automatically put everything down to his "condition" and we are still finding our feet. Thanks again Ben's Mum

Oops! I should have added that Ben was been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome a couple of months ago and has not yet been assessed further (we are waiting for an appointment with a Speach and Language therapist).

Hello, I could do with some advice. My son Ben (8) has some very definite food dislikes, however, my husband does not want to make different meals for everyone (he is the home maker, I work non-standard hours) so occasionally Ben goes without a meal. At first mealtimes used to be a battlefield and we would often see Ben sat in front of a cold dinner for ages, this was before he was diagnosed and we were trying to stop him from being so fussy (as we then saw it). However, I am now concerned as the food he will consistently eat is the stuff that is not good for him and we need to get him to eat some healthy food. He understands this and can go for ages eating everything we put in front of him but then it all goes wrong for a while. Should we just let him eat what he wants when he is going through a fussy phase or should we just have him miss an occasional meal? I also have a 5 year old NT daughter and I am expecting baby no. 3 in August so we don't want the younger kids thinking that they can develop bad food habits but I also don't want to punish Ben for something that he just can't deal with. I am really struggling at times to know whether I am doing the right thing - am I being too hard on him or too soft? Where is the balance!!! AAARRRRGGGGHHHH!!!!!! Ben's Mum

Hello, I am new to both this forum and to Asperger's Syndrome. My son, Ben, is 8 and was diagnosed with Aspergers syndrome a couple of months ago. We are still waiting for him to be assessed to see where he is on the "spectrum". We are still learning how to help Ben but at least we now have some idea as to why he has always been a little too different. I have been reading this board for a little while and finally decided to register and get a bit more involved. Thank you for your help and advice so far. Ben's Mum