vikstar

Hi with my daugh ter i worry about Not being able to live independantly Being outcasted and alone That she wont be able to form a loving relationship That she will never be able to have kids ( not as in have them but to bring them up care for them ) To progress into further education hold down a job Not to full fill her ambitions she has as a young teenager Vikki

Thanks for all your advice Lancslad what you wrote was very very intresting and true especially how i as an adult can irror her aggressive behaviour even when im not trying to . What frustrates me the most is kate lack of acceptting any ###### help whats so ever we have bee offered ot physcologist support also young support workers she is so rude and unwilling to cooperate she thinks the whole world is against her and havind AS seems to make the world ohate her more i think its its a kind of parnoia ,its like make up she wears it as a mask call it her face because she believes she is disgosting ugly vile and honestly not just as a mother she is a beautiful girl . Has anyone eve read any thing about body dysmorphia and AS sorry going of the topic a bit but these things make her aggression worse if her hair isnt just right make up it the wrong colour . I love her so so much but she pushes and pushes me so far im scared that ill snap one day xx

How do you deal with aggressive out burst especially when its aimed at you . Im struggling with my 131/2 year old daughter she has aspergers dcd gad and is pretty depressed a the mo started her periods about 6 months ago and was aggressive before then but at the moment she has become reall bad hitting me her little sisters screaming shouting throwing her self about lashing out at doors wall anything that she comes in contact with . All the time she has done this its mainly been in the home enviroment as she says she cant do it anywhere else as she needs to keep the pretense up of being " NORMAL " . Shes never happy at the moment im guessing its the whole teenage years added hormones etc must be so difficult plus the added difficulty of having aspergers . Im not fully confident that she accepted that she has it and blames me alot by saying " its your fault im like this you made me be born " Sorry turned into a mini rant but i want to do the best for her and im getting to the point where im a bit scared of this aggresion xx

We had this issue as well to the point kate wouldnt go to the loo for a poo at all anywhere else but home . She still not great at 13 but we have had a few breakthroughs with things like using a certain toilet .taking her own toilet wipes nice smelling toddler wipes instead of loo roll not cheap but did the trick ,visual aids to explain the process and finally tonnes and tonnes of praise and encourage ment . Are the school willing to help with this or are there issues with them regarding wiping etc i know some schools can be strict about helping kids on the toilet xx

Thanks for all your replies ill be using and help info i can obtain to keep myself going xx

Hi im new here to . like you i have a daughter who has been diagnosed with aspergers and am alos going through the outbursts aggression .suicidal thoughts as well and am feeling a bit bewilded by it all at the mo especially the aggression towards me . hopefully we can offer support to one another xx

Hi everyone im vikki and im a mum to an aspie girl who is 13 and a half and currently also going throught the process with my 7 year old daughter . Have come here for support and help as having an tough time of these teenage years with my eldest and would like honest opnions and help .