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    It depends on your height and build. My sister's 6ft, and has a large-ish bone structure, and she'd be ill if she were a size 8. Honestly, I think how well you look and feel is more important. If you look and, most importantly, feel well as a size 8, then great. How well you are is the important factor.

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    When I married my husband I could ask him at any time of the day what time it was and he'd know. Even he wasn't sure how he did it, but he was spookily accurate time and time again to within 5 or 10 minutes, with no measured external indication. He can't do it any more, though. Downer, huh?

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    People have often told me to "Cheer up, it might never happen" (do they never consider the possibility that 'it' might already have done so? I bet someone somewhere has said that to someone who has just suffered some terrible loss), but I think it's because when I walk around I'm 'in my own little world' and deep in thought and that makes me look serious. However, there are times when I'm feeling particularly mirthful when I walk around with a manic grin which probably looks ridiculous.

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    Yeah, and do you find yourself staring at someone when they're looking in another direction in order to determine whether they are someone you know, and then realise you don't, by which time they've looked around and are wondering what in hell you're staring at?

     

    And like you Raydon, I have just ignored people I think I might know, coz I'm just not sure enough.

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    Face blindness is such a pain. I can easily walk past someone, with no recognition, in the afternoon to whom I've spoken in the morning! My daughter started school in September, so that's a whole class of parents to potentially get to know, but I'm gradually alienating them as I do just that - talk to them and then fail to recognise them within short spaces of time. I just walk past them with no recognition, and must quite reasonably appear distant and unfriendly. I don't blame them at all for thinking I'm unpleasant.

     

    Like Lyndalou, context is another issue. I saw a mum week in, week out at a play group thing for a year, then I saw her out of context and didn't recognise her at all until some time later after having trawled my brain. She was obviously not impressed. There is a family who live exactly opposite us who are really lovely. We don't live in each other's pockets, but there's an understanding between us, because they have similar issues to us. So, these are people in whom we have some degree of emotional investment. Nonetheless, I went to a support group and the husband was there and I simply couldn't place him. Mercifully, he was lovely enough to be unoffended when I was just very honest about not recognising him out of context. I have, however, had people stop speaking to me because I haven't recognised them.

     

    There is another gentleman on our estate who had three different dogs in quick succession (one had parvo virus - despite vaccinations, one had a congenital issue, and the third survives). Because the dogs were different I kept failing to recognise him. I did eventually learn to recognise him, at which point I over-compensated, and I worry that he thought I was flirting!

     

    People whom I know well and recognise immediately still present the issue of me not noticing changes such as loss and gain of weight (unless it's profound), and hairstyle (again, unless it's drastic), and I rarely notice and remember what people are wearing (unless it's highly noticeable).

     

    I don't think it's a memory thing, per se, because that wouldn't account for the morning/afternoon thing, and I don't think it's a visual thing as such, because I'm a visual learner. I don't know what it is exactly.

     

    And I'm interested what people think of my idea of looking at photos to become more familiar to say friends or colleagues or acquaintances to assist in recognising them in different contexts/places that the norm.

     

    If there was a situation which would allow for pre-prep, such as maybe a wedding, then I definitely think photos would help.

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    I found the wikipedia page really informative, Smiley, and it also mentioned the link between AS and auditory perception deficit. I honestly don't think I have APD as a singular and overriding condition; rather, it is a feature of my communication - not a profound one, but an annoying one :huh: .

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    Thanks for your replies, all! Yes, I'll look into APD. Yes, it's better once in conversation, having tuned in properly, althoguh I'm still pretty useless at mental maths and quizzes, even having tuned in. I simply have to have something visual to work things out, although, I think that's a slightly different issue. Oral directions are lost on me almost entirely. So I guess there are two issues - auditory processing and the ability to retain and act on oral instruction. Both are not great for me.

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    Yep, if someone came up to me and demanded, 'What's your name?', there would be several seconds within which I would genuinely not know what is my name. I understand the words, but I can be unusually slow to process them, particularly if they form instructions or directions.

     

    One question which always has me non-plussed is, 'Did you have a nice time yesterday?', because even if it was something highly significant like a wedding, I find it hard to dredge up what happened yesterday quickly enough to respond in a socially typical way, and end up looking really slow, which in fact I am. That is partly to do with aural processing, but also because my long term memory for events is more efficient than my short-term memory.

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