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There is a lot going onI'm doing the right thing xxits more his understanding of things like he calls everyone nd everything mummy or apple... so it shows he has not understanding of the wrds nd he only says things when asked to. Thank you nice to hear I

Im happy that someone has listened but feel really bad for feeling happy lol... my emotions are all over the place lol Could It still be asd if he has good social skills?? Xx

I have wrote a few posts before about my struggle to get my health visitor to listen to my concerns.... But today we have had a break through finally she sees it appropriate to refer him on to a pediatrition, i have arranged SLT to come and see him. Hes had his 2 year development assesment today and was average on the social and emotional side ofit but behind in his communication and fine motor skills. My children's worker is disagreei ng with the social and emotional outcome as HV dint ask anything about concentration... it was just basic does your child say hello... will he talk to strangers... does he worry if ur not there. So just thought Id share with you I seem to have smashed at least one of the bricks outta the wall between us and help Xx

Hey dylan is 2 thank you for your words of advice I am determined not to get fobbed off i will let you all no on any progress thank you xx

She didn't come due to the snow being bad... he can speak words but doesn't really understand them we don't think... he has a habbit of pointing for things or dragging me throws super duper tantrums because he can't get his point across its hard to watch. Its not just his speach theres other things like being inaproriate with strangers trying to get there 'boobies' out highly embaressing... Nd walking over to strangers in resteraunts or play centers nd trying to sit on there knees or sumfin, he has no fear and i mean none at all... he will hug you but on his terms nd wen he wants one he iis very forceful n in ur face with it..... Hes a very loving little man with a huge personality though. My mum has spoke to hv nd voiced her concerns but it dusnt help tht his dad is as useful as a chocolate fire guard nd dusnt see wats going oon. Yeah he goes to playgroup n will play alongside others but he goes from one extreme to other from shying away to pouncing on them basically. I don Xxx

hello everyone, well today i nave my childrens worker coming out again to see my LO and im very nervous as the last time she was fantastic but once she spoke to my HV things got change and a few porkies were told by my HV she said she had sat and had a full convo with him and understood every word he said and that he concentrated for 20 mins on one thing... i dont no what she is talking about i struggle understanding his speach and im his mummy he can say two clear word thats it. But not in the correct content like hd calls everythin and everyone mummy. HV also told me that she was concerened about referring him for a assesment as she sees no issues with him that I think is because she sees him every blue moon and spends about half an hour with him. she told my childrens worker she would do his 2yr assesment when hes two and half but then rang me day after and said il come day after his birthday... i just dont really want to be told fibs to and messed around but fingers crossed i am changing my HV soon... has anybody else had this or something like this happen??? xxxx

will your local job center help you? or if you have one social work xx

i think my childrens worker can send him to SALT i have tried before to speak to doc and he sent me back to my HV its like no1 wants to make the move and be responsible for refering him xx

it comes to that should say :s xx

well just looked online and found out a 2 year old shud no at least 50 words be putting sentences together like 'daddy kick' no 5 parts of there body and some colours... how on earth that HV is not concerned i do not no.... he nos words but they dont mean anything to him and at the most he nos 15 thts pushing it, does not no his body parts sept his nose coz i say get ya finger out ur nose haha, sentences are copied and have no understand as to what he is saying he would say 'dylan kick' as that be what he heard from us and colours pffft not a chance yet... why dont people listen nd when it ###### to his 2 year review it will probs say things like can he say a sentence... well yes but the question is dus he understand it. sorry if im ranting im getting all worked up as it is very obvious to me that there is a speech prob xx

thank you, i feel guilty and worried that i might be fighting and he might not even have this or anything at all... x

im going to go to my child worker tomorrow and see about SALT see what she can do for us thank you evryone you have pit my mind at ease i felt like i was going mad xx

no hes not had a propper speech assesment hes not seen them since he was about 11 months and he had not long been babbling then, so they said give it awhile but then iv never heard or seen from them again. and when i ask that was the answer i got i dont no wetha he can or not i will have to speak to him, i can understand wanting to do his 2year review first but the time it takes to get an appointment she will have time to do while i wait to see the paediatrician wudnt she? xxx

yeah i speak more then i sign its just useful i find to have absort of back up plan, i think im going to swap HV we have seen a speach and language therapist about his eating but got told they wudnt be able to do much for his language as he is already saying sentences... i have resorted to filming him and his behaviours/speach to show her but still she just brushes it off xx

aww thats really good that your getting help and moving forward =) he isnt at the min no im a little scared to leave him and i no this might sound silly but im worried they wont 'get' him and understand his way of communicating were as i see and hear him everyday exceptnwhen im working and hes at my mums so i understand him. we go to playgroups though and i have friends with children so he gets time with other kids (not that he enjoys it haha) xx

he is 2 in january so i no hes young but i used to work with a boy who was 3 and had been assessed, some professinals just no how to work you i think. i mean i new u cud before 5 but she got me doubting myself xx

oyeah iv also been told that they wudnt do nything with him coz of his age and they dont normally assess till the age of 5 but this is untrue right? xx

wow thank you for the support and kind words we use makaton with him i alwaya have luckily even tho the HV said not to... so im just going to reenforce my words with signs, do u think this is the rite thing to do. i will not give into her and will get him help that he needs to make him able to live his life to the max. one thing sshe says is coz he walked when he was 1 is that children either do one or the other fast walk or talk and the other one takes longer but its been a year now and we still not got very far speach wise. xxx

thats what dylan does the things hes says are things hes said from the start like what is it, juice please ninner mum dad mamma, loubie sit (thats thedog) but they are things iv always said or try and make him say, he does not just say things that he hears once or twice and to get him to say names i have to say come on lets shout daddy, she does seem to be very much the book says and it is really getting to me because all i hear from people is this is your first child and trust me you do not want him to live with asd!! and i say i no i dont want him to have it but u have to face the facts and i would sooner no sooner rather then later. so i can get the help in place that he needs. do you think im expecting tomuch with him being so young? xx

i mean i trust childrens workers judgement, and yes dylan drags me to things instead of pointing or asking xxx

hi, my health visitor said because she heard him talking she doesnt think he needs it, my childrens working has rang HV and expressed her concerns i trust her judgement as her two boys live with asd and she stayed for 3 hours to watch dylan not 20 mins so she seen more of what he is like, he is having his 2 year development assesment on the 29th of jan and HV said if anything flags up she may think about it. he does speak sentences but the child worker thinks he is just parroting me as he doesnt say juice please when hes thirsty just when i tell him to say it, and the things he does play wise are thingsi do with him all the time, he doesnt laugh when hes playing with toys or in games such as peep bo, he does give eye contact and cuddles but on his terms. i dont have other children but my friend has a little boy 4months older then dylan and u can have a full conversationwith him and have been able to for a few months. dylan did not start babbling till be was 9 months ish so this is were my concerns started really xxx

wise words thank you... xxx

aww thank you your story gives me hope, im just so fed up off people not listening and basically judging me because im a younger mum, and hes my first so they just fob me off. im so pleased your such a strong person now =) xxx

well yesterday my child worker decided it was the correct thing to do to refer my little boy for assesment but then spoke to my health visitor and she said no we stuck now coz its her that needs to refer him... what to do now im at the brick wall again!! got so many people telling me different things x