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    I'm not sure children in these cases will actually be locked up along with the offenders. I think it just means that they will be kept supervised in a secure part of the facility, and only then if there are no other suitable services, although I could be wrong about this. The article does mention a few times that the child cannot be taken into custody unless there is significant evidence to suggest the child is at risk of harm. If the child's parents are dead or in hospital, it still means they are not around to take care of the child and the police would have to act accordingly to ensure the child's safety.

    As much as I dislike the police, I think they are doing the right thing in this case given the resources they currently have. Plus the law may have changed since this article was published - it seems to be from 2009

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    That's a good idea about those who feel a little more nervous bringing a friend, squeeg. I would be happy to meet one or a few people on my own too but I would just like to make sure that the meet ups are as safe as possible. I'm wondering if there's a way to make this thread hidden to non-members, too? That could certainly help filter any unwanted people turning up to the meet ups.

     

    We could post photos of ourselves, yes, but as you say some people may feel uncomfortable doing this. I personally wouldn't be against it, though. Maybe we could create a private Facebook group or something similar for the meetups?

     

    I definitely agree that structure to meet ups is essential. I think the best way forward with this is for attendees to all make suggestions for what we do and the best dates for them and we can vote for our favourites. What does everything think about this?

     

    Ground rules are another essential, I think. We don't want a lot of disagreements breaking out during the meet ups, after all.

     

    I'd like to keep this all as democratic as possible so everyone feels involved, so the more ideas brought to the table the better :)

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    Hey, I'm in the North. I'd love a meet up, but I just noticed that it's quite possible some would be apprehensive about meeting up because of age/appearance issues. I'd see why maybe a 15 year old female might not want to meet up with a 30 year old man (for example, not necessarily true), especially if they had never physically seen this person, as opposed to general discomfort in meeting others that they only met online, despite their similarities. If there was any way to resolve this, I think more would feel more comfortable about a meet up?

     

    Yes, I can see how people would be concerned about this. I think the best way to resolve this is for there to be quite strict rules for potential meet ups, for example a minimum limit to how many people can attend. I think a minimum of 5 people might be good, but I'd like to hear others' thoughts on this. Meetings should always be in a public area - not, for example, at a member's house. A balanced ratio between the sexes would be ideal too if possible - I can see people being worried about a meet up with, say, 4 males and 1 female, for example.

    The problem with this though is that too many people attending a meet up could be quite a daunting thought for some people. I myself would be a little apprehensive about meeting up with several strangers at once :/

    I would love to hear other people's ideas on how we can get this to work

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    Do you know if anything has changed in the care home recently? Like the routines, redecoration, a lot of new staff etc? Perhaps something like this has affected Glen's routine. I hope he goes back to how we was in the first 8 months soon

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    I'd like to do what Mihaela did and list some positive points of my AS, along with some negatives.

     

    Positive traits

    • Intense loyalty to friends
    • Strong desire to help others
    • Creativity
    • Attention to detail
    • Heightened sense of love (This does mean I feel the hurt more if a relationship ends or if I'm rejected but the feeling of love when a relationship works is so worth it!)
    • More open-minded - The questioning, analytical nature of my aspie mind makes me consider several different options
    • Honesty
    • Very quick learner

    Negative traits

    • Can be naïve - This makes it easier for people to take advantage
    • Social anxiety
    • Easily stressed - Can make me say things I regret
    • Feel uncomfortable around most people
    • Emotional pain often manifests as physical pain
    • Occasionally atrocious attention span (try saying that after 20 pints)
    • Not great at small talk

    You win some, you lose some. Must focus on the positives! :)

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    Humans can be annoying, and I hate it when people wake me up from sleep. someone woke me at three am once for a lousy wrong number, the nerves! like i dont have enough to deal with insomnia and not sleep starved anyway.

    Animals can be annoying too to be fair. The amount of times I've been woken up by flying-rat seagulls is unreal

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    No rhyming in this one. I'm such a maverick. :rolleyes:

     

    The ache begins to gnaw beneath my ribs

    My shoulders are petrified

    An icy knife glides across my lungs

    Oxygen released

    I cannot breathe

    For I need you

    But I do not know who you are

    Who are you?

    Where are you?
    How will we meet?

    Time keeps me begging

    Snatches away my treat just when my teeth sink in

    I am hurting

    I am bleeding inside

    This longing

    It will kill me

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    Germany today is vastly different to Nazi Germany. It is much more progressive. Germans try to remove as many aspects of Nazism from their culture as possible these days, such as rarely using 'Führer' for 'leader', instead preferring 'Leiter' or 'Leiterin'. Modern German has many loanwords, mostly from French. It doesn't surprise me that the French are so reluctant to adopt loanwords - France is becoming quite right wing.

     

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    ^^This. Getting into the 'us and them' mindset is so unhealthy. To me, if an aspie instantly dismisses all neurotypicals as bad then they are no better than an NT being prejudiced against autistics. Neurotypical people are individuals, just like aspies. You get some ######, but also a lot of good ones. Just like you get some ###### aspies as well as good ones. We also can't expect NTs to change if we're so resistant to changing for them. We all have our foibles, but sadly from what I've seen a worrying number of aspies seem incapable of admitting they were wrong and blame everyone else for it. Those who do this should try stepping back and actually trying to think about how their actions affect other people and how they would like it if they treated in the same way.

    You know what I would love? An end to all the hatred between NTs and ASD people. That goes both ways.

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    I would email CS as soon as possible and say that you are extremely dissatisfied with their efforts so far. How long has it been since you first contacted them? Three months? Have they actually done anything in that time? When I sent a complaint to them they said they take complaints very seriously, presumably as it will damage the image of the business, so hopefully it will act as the kick up the they deserve.

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    I've heard of this happening on several forums. Why is it deemed acceptable to keep old members' personal information by not giving them the option to delete their accounts? Seeing that old members cannot delete their accounts make me very concerned about what is being done with my own personal data as an active member...

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    KalamityKat if your eccentricity is mild enough that a diagnose is unnecessary, do not get one. Although discrimination against all sorts of things is illegal, it still goes on, the law is sidestepped.

    On no account ever get a diagnoses for any condition that could cause you to be discriminated against, life is hard enough for young university graduates seeking work, do not make your situation worse.

    Youth and enthusiasm will help you, eccentricity should be kept in check, as best you can.

     

     

    People do not discriminate against the condition, they discriminate against traits of a person. Kalamity, the discrimination will likely be worse if you don't get a diagnosis.

     

    Have you shown your parents the results of your AQ tests? If not, it might be worth showing them now. You could also sit down with them and discuss your reasons for thinking you have AS rather than just 'general eccentricities', especially seeing as most people who were formerly seen as 'eccentric' in the oh-so-revered 20th century and beforehand would be likely to receive an AS diagnosis now. If you can persuade your parents to let you see your GP, it might be very useful for you to get a diagnosis - as you are a minor, you are entitled to so many more forms of support than you would be as an adult. I can see you're a very intelligent young lady so getting support now may be useful in achieving your full potential.

     

    As someone who went through childhood and adolescence with AS, I'd like to give you a piece of advice: Try your utmost hardest to stay positive about things and never forget who you are. I spent a lot of my younger years being negative and pessimistic and trying to be someone I'm not and at 23 years old I've realised that it is a habit that gets harder to break as you get older. I am striving to be more positive now, even if I do have the occasional slip-up and regress into Moaning Matt. And it does feel so much better. You can achieve so much more if you're feeling positive. I see a lot of potential in you and would hate for it to go to waste.

     

    I wish you the very best of luck with life and encourage you to enjoy your childhood and adolescence as much as you can! Remember - only you can make yourself become the best adult you can. No one else can shape you, even though they will try. Good luck!

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