Waterboatman

My concise posts take a little time to think through, and are only edited during the write, once posted thats it. Spell checkers help a lot. I am hoping not repeat my mistake of taking things so seriously and getting annoyed and upset. This for my part is my only intelligent conversation I tend to have.

"nippy sweetie" has got it in one. I stayed with my parents all my life, even when I was working and earning good money. It has its hazards, last one in the nest looks after the parents in their old age. Where I lived had its problems, noise being a major one, drove me quite mad at times. But in short ASD's need support from people who know them. On your own, you run the risk of having no one around you who understands you!

Laddo I am not hostile, just annoyed. I do not like people going on about vegetarianism its a stupid compromise between having a broad unlimited diet and being a 'vegan'. I have been a vegan, its really quite a boring way to eat, I was young, I saw vegetarianism for what it is. I have never been a member of the 'fluffy bunny' brigade, but for a time I was very 'Buddhist'. So there you have it, a reason. Laddo I would rather you did not become a complete vegetarian, largely as I am is I think ok. All life has its value, who can say wether a tree has a soul or not. So living true to life is the best way forward.

Thanks dotmarsdotcom for your posting, a breath of clear air through the above 'rantings'. I am in a upswing, my life is like that, I shall feel more able for a few days. Then down again, what will fail next? With little money life is simpler, one does not have much. Its quite around where I reside apart from hearing the parrot next door swearing all the time, the walls are thin. Never mind. I used to live on a boat, a really bad mistake, trying to have somewhere to live and money left to live on, I only recently reluctantly applied for benefits, at the time of buying the boat my live expectancy was not very long. 'Normal Types' have their uses, really is this a real definition, I never use it myself. I do however classify people into a variety of types not very consistently, i forget quite quickly, I have never recorded these definitions. But in short people vary quite a lot, many types and fusions of types, ASD being a very wide spectrum, with people who may or may not be part of it.

Milhaela the best that I can say, is that I do not need to prove anything, vegetarianism is a recent invention and all its supporting data is written by the same 'fluffy' type people who came up with it in the first place. You are a convert to it, albeit when you where young, its about the same age as my grand mothers conversion, she had the sense to ensure that her children had fish in their diet, so not so extreme. Otherwise shall we agree to disagree. I see no point in pursuing this further.

I have been largely trapped in my bungalow due to my declining condition and not being able to get my wheelchair outside on my own. The council are out of cash so can't help even though I have told by the 'money' that I qualify. The housing association will not do anything without an 'OT' from the council. Result nothing is going to happen for a very long time. AAARGH, enough, bought ramps, waiting for the last to be delivered, courier is 'Yodel' someone somewhere has been playing games with the delivery. Now my drivers car is off the road and the folding ramp I ordered is horribly awkward and largely unusable, trying to save money I bought the economy version, would have been cheaper to go straight for the 'premier' version. Now somehow I have to find the money to buy it. I am on basic ESA after a year, I survived ATOS, but most likely will have to wait for my PIP assessment before getting any more money. My brain between depressions and being clobbered by a new pain killer, is sought of useable, would love to use it, my hands are largely stuffed as well, so typing can be interesting. I shall try in future to leave a ranting here, and avoid getting into pointless arguments. For the record, I am a third and final generation vegetarian, not a convert. I do not support the theory behind vegetarianism, and do not support veganism either. Where specific extreme diet standards apply, the local populations have 'evolved' to support the diet. It is not wise for the general population of these isles to have anything other than a broad unlimited varied diet. Those afflicted with ASD may or may not have compromised digestions, so must be careful not to exclude important sources of essential fatty acids. I am almost of the mind that vegetarian promotors should be hung. Enough damage has been done.

Mihaela! Really! Enough. Vegetarianism and worse still veganism are not sensible ways to eat for anyone! I know too well the downsides of silly diets. Humans are like pigs omnivores.

All life forms should be respected, but all life consumes another one way or another. You can love other life forms and still eat them. It should be noted that vegetarians consume cheese, milk and eggs, these come from another life form, modified and kept for the purpose. For milk a calf must be born, removed from its mother early, cattle are as intelligent as horses. Try to eat only free range, humanly reared creatures. Enjoy your bacon, if it does you good, on no account stop eating it. I think there is only one rule that needs to be obeyed. 'Try to do no harm'. Trees, wild flowers need respect too. So as an enlightened person, I see no reason for anyone to be a vegetarian, eat vegetables yes, but enjoy your flesh. I too spend most of my time in bed and eat about 800 calories daily.

An aid to memory, if you can afford it, is a smart phone such as apples Iphone which is my main assistant in life, alarms to eat during the day, calendars with alarms for appointments, and map applications so I do not get lost anymore. As for finding things, I tend to put everything similar together in boxes or draws and always return items to their correct place. My wheel chair has old wearable pockets thing hanging on the back. It's hard for anyone to stay focused on something that really does not interest them, being paid to do it helps, persistence and it's possible for me to adjust my brain setup, normally next day I can do it without fuss. All things are learned stratages to cope, having too is the most important. A good diet rich in essential fats is important to maintain healthy brain function. If your skin is dry then most likely you are not consuming enough of these essential fats, these are not easily optained with a compromised digestion from anything other than animal or fish based fats.

No expert on this or anything really. But here goes. I assume your fairly young to have a diagnoses such as this. Myself I have always just been plain odd, accused of so many varying and strange things over the years, such as being a 'manic depressive'/bipolar? The bad schooling we are subjected to, is the most likely cause of many diagnoses such as yours. When thinking of bringing new life into the world, its best to be sure that one can afford all its needs, one of which is to completely avoid the state school system, which is not fit for any child. As to managing self, difficult, only real control is what goes in and where you rest your head. Food, avoid being a vegetarian, even more important not a vegan. Myself I am a third generation vegetarian, that really did not help, old style relied too much on cheese and nut based products! Not good. Ok one can still be a vegetarian, but one has to have sensible levels of animal fats, butter, full fat milk and cream, cheese in moderation as it does not have enough of the correct fats. Vegetable and nut oil is really quite useless, ok in small quantities, but can be a source of problems. Varied diet, if not sure of getting enough, then do as I do, l use powered "Cow & Gate Infant Milk for hungrier babies" it has a "teddy bear" on the front, this ensures that all my blood tests show nothing lacking there, keeps my skin in good condition and helps with my joints. I use caffeine as pain killer, in quite large amounts, real mud coffee and bean approximately 24 to 30 grams of bean per day. I frankly do not care if it kills me. Quality not Quantity! Its up to you, growing old is no fun, older one gets worse things tend to get! So if your medication makes you feel good, but is killing you at the same time, just hope your end is quick and not lingering.

Akunin, I live in a quite area apparently. A terraced bungalow in an over 50's area. I have just had escorted 'trick-or-treat' children at my door! They did not knock very loudly and as my bedroom overlooks the door, I stayed put and very quiet. Previously I lived on a canal boat, ok if your fit and strong. And its possible to get housing benefit for them. If you can cope with trains passing, ducks making a racket, odd noises from fish, and be able to hear boats coming before they collide with your boat, its the only way to get a really quite place for a couple of weeks before finding another. Its possible to find very quite spots. Moving early just as the sun rises can be so calming if your engine is silent. As for land I seriously doubt you will have any luck, it was hard for me to get rehoused, I am seriously disabled becoming dependant on a wheelchair, living in an unadapted bungalow. I too am sensitive to noise. But I settled for the first 'it will do' place as soon as I got on the priority housing list. The non priority list, means you have to bid for properties no one else wants, no good for me and no good for you. Other than that, sharing with another is really your only option.

alexontime you puzzle me. Others I have looked at were understandable, maybe I misread your postings. It helps to be clear. Your last post in CAPITALS is better. When things have gone wrong before when talking to someone, I have said "shall we start again". Its best not to use "masks" they have a habit of falling away or being seen through.

The dogs are a prop, people are not surprised by dog walkers. Maybe you feel safer with dogs with you?? Also exercise such as that is sought of addictive! Filling time with a fixed activity. Are you fit? How about using that time doing something useful for others? Gardening is a very good time filler, endless units of 3.

Big animals that will tear the house apart if they do not get their walk?? Expensive things dogs. Could be worse, could be horses, harder work and much more expensive. Complain not, what has to be done has to be done. If re-home-able a solution? Anyway it's a problem, and they can be very good reasons to do something, what would life be without it's problems?? Dull and empty.

Mihaela I am a single focus type, whatever I do is my interest. I am better at doing things for other people than myself. Better at making tools than the final thing. I am good with money, if it's not mine! I watchef my mother go from a very intelligent "Mensa type" with good memory to just a shadow of her former self.

Different generations, differing ways of seeing the world. I have lived as just plain "odd", no diagnoses in my childhood and to be honest I do not think it would have been helpful. Not taking 'cold remedies' is really quite sensible, they mostly contain paracetamol, dodgy stuff that, too easy to overdose at lower than the listed amounts. Effects of overdose are pretty nasty. Tolerance to the toxins generated vary a lot with age, general health, and ASD?. I just cough and blow my nose, the cold will be over soon. I used to love walking, rain or shine, better in the rain, fewer people. Clears the head. Never timed mine. People talk of masks or acting, never used one myself. What you see, is the real me, I just come alive if I have something to do, focus.

"Laddo" Your new here yourself, my profile is quite complete. From being a very strong individual, capable of lifting another, to a wreck that can not bare its own weight. All my joints are affected. Do I really need to say more than that? Aspergers is a diagnoses I would not otherwise bother with, its a diagnoses and as such means extra benefit, something a increasing disabled body with no other current diagnoses, needs. Don't get old, life was never fun, this however is far from fun.

Both parents dead, cared for the last until her death. After the death of the first my father some twenty years ago I suffered deep black depression, I destroyed my diary after that and have not kept one since. My mother died at home in her own bed some five years ago. Grieve lasts a long time. At times like these people stay away or are silent, although as an ex carer and still strong I was asked to lift an elderly neighbour. I hit alcohol, heavy drinking runs in the family. I now annoy by hardly touching the stuff. Life changes after bereavement, you were quite young, nothing is quite the same again. To relax, best I know of, is a cup of strong sweet tea. A really good anti depressant as well. Alcohol does not work, I was told that by someone 'who knew', I too now know. Its a truth that one can not accept until one is ready.

I am not a rigid as you, meal times and not eating otherwise is a very old informal rule, this rule has saved me from nasty blighters at school trying to feed me a laxative in a half 'MarsBar'! As I have to control my weight, I am not heavy, quite light really. An alarm is used to signal time to eat. I have yet another bout of 'Cold', messy annoying. Best practice is deal with the mess, ignore the rest and carry on as normal, well as normal as possible. Flu? is more serious, not sure if I have ever really had it! If you have it, without anyone to help, its time in bed mostly sleeping/feverish without food and water, until one feels better. If you have it I trust you have support. I am myself completely useless, a total waste of space and time. You most likely just like me, need something real we can do. Without something, what are we. People are more defined by the people around them, without that circle there is nothing but inward looking disgust at self. Normal people say go out and meet people, socialise. !! More than two others and I can melt down, children terrify me, they are absolutely horrid. Older children or young adults can be worse. I rarely leave my house except in the company of someone who is taking me out and will help with my wheelchair.

Life is a circle, for me quite empty and with no focus, my days are completely empty. A carer myself up to nearly five years ago, for my mother. Now I need one. Nearly fifteen years ago I worked in the computer industry. Now being what I am means I have no friends of any description, family do not really want to know, I have some support when they feel like it, and then none when my life really gets bad. Its not as bad now? At least I have a reasonably quite place to live, have most of my costs met, and will know soon if they will be completely covered. I was retired, but being what I am, that which I had was easy pickings for the circling vultures, such pleasant people when you have money. Now a bit more than pennies, though not much more. I know I am not unique, there are only so many throws of the genetic dice.