Hi there fellow members.
I am new to theforum, and was lead to it byseeing the post about mis diagnosis.
About me - a mum of 3, my son has Asperger diagnosis since 6(now 15), and my eldest daughter has just been dxed with Adhd. The little one is fairly NT, we think.
I also happen to work in CAMHS.
Hving got thedrift of some posts, i do have alot of sympathy with the ones who feel blamed/judged fotheir child's behaviour. I have sat listening to experienced professionals talk quite judgementally about parents.
One even suggested that those seeking ADHD dx want DLA.
(Quite a tired, non evidence- based opinion and v. unprofessional).You probably won't be surprised that i don't confide in her or any of my colleagues, as there is a dominant group led by psychology, who refuse to see anything beyond attachment, when faced with ?asd/adhd.
Also the ones WITH children are as judgemental, smetimes worse.
I do get that a difficulty with parent/child relationship can cause complexity,BUT to label/dx with Attachment Disorder is clumsy and potentially damaging for a child, who then has to carry it around for life, based on s
purious evidence and at times, an opinion from someone who is biased against 'medical' diagnosis.
When my daughter was dxed, she was relieved, and my son has an understanding of his difficulties, especially at school.They were dxed by very experienced psychiatrists.
My advice for people who think theirchild has ASD(or other), is to ask what the professional background of the clinician is, whay experience they have in ASD, or related condition/formulating or dxing.
Finally, most people have some issues with our parenting, and some have had mental health problems, CAMHS professionals included -but some sit in judgement on others who are just being honest and asking for help.
By the way, I do have a laugh with people i see, and can't be doing with po-faced tense atmospheres.