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Thank you Spam! Am so sorry for delay in responding, only just got picked up your reply. Firstly I should say that we have already moved my daughter once to an alternative school (for other reasons) so an loathe to do it again. She has had a slightly better week in that she has been assigned ‘library monitor’ (at my suggestion) and has had positive feedback in how helpful she has been. She has enjoyed this but it is becoming apparent that the separation from her the rest of the class is creating a psychological barrier. To the point where she doesn’t want to go outside and play. i have emailed the Head/SENCo saying they whilst being given a short term job is all well and good, it doesn’t help my daughter long term. There needs to be a proper strategy put in place to support her , particularly in social situations. This has been pretty much been swept under the carpet. Sadly she is also recounting tales of other children being unkind to her now either to her face or behind her back.

Newbie here so forgive me if I ramble on! My daughter is in Year 5 and for as long as as we can remember has shown 'ASD' traits, eg impulsive, bossy, loud, insensitive etc. After raising our concerns with the Head (also SENCo) she agreed with us and brought in a service to observe DD in the first instance. Disappointingly because they concluded she is able to 'manage' her behaviour in class their support is not needed. HOWEVER she is struggling massively on a social level. Whilst she doesn't mean to be unkind her brutal honesty has obviously created friendship barriers and is now at a stage where her classmates actively avoid her. In her defence she is also incredibly loyal and can show great kindness but they just 'don't get her' and she doesn't have the level of self-awareness to see how her behaviour causes conflict. She is very lonely, spending most breaks on her own or 'doing jobs' for teachers - utterly heartbreaking. I feel let down by the school, its as if unless there is an impact in the classroom, they are not interested. However I now have a daughter who has gone from having a unique happy sparkle, to one who dreads going into school and says everyone hates her. Surely there must be resources in schools to support these children in developing social skills? I do as much as I can to talk with her but she really doesn't want to hear it from me as a parent Desperate for some advice please on what I can realistically expect the school to do.