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    :lol:

     

    I have never watched anything on dogs and autism.

    I am not a dog lover or even a dog liker.

    I've never heard that dogs can cure autism..what a strange idea. :wacko:

     

    I am, however, of an academic turn of mind, and a teacher.

    The generalisation I objected to was the statement that you had debunked an entire theory based on one boy's reaction to one animal in his home. I felt you needed to provide more evidence to back up such a declaration.

     

    If you are now stating that it just didn't work in your son's case, that I can understand and agree with.

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    Bill Pertwee/Sean Pertwee :lol: oi got all muddled in my little head, didn't oi!? It's Sean Pertwee, of course... I think Bill Pertwee was the bloke who played the warden in Dad's Army (?)... Maybe a brother of Jon or something?

     

    William Desmond Anthony Pertwee MBE (born 21 July 1926) is an English comedy actor.

    He is a distant cousin of former Doctor Who actor Jon Pertwee, being second cousin of Jon Pertwee's father, screenwriter and actor Roland Pertwee.

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    I think we have debunked the theory dogs help autistics to communicate better !

     

    Sorry, but that is a huge generalisation.

    Many of us have worked long and hard to develop an understanding of autism as a spectrum with enormous variety and combinations within it. Our children are all individuals, with individual needs and preferences and sensitivities.

     

    Merely because this specific situation didn't work out does not mean that it proves your hypothesis, and for some autistics dogs have proved extremely useful in enabling them to understand and develop awareness of another's needs.

    You will need a lot more evidence and data before that statement can be proved.

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    We're just back to the old saying 'Walk a mile in my shoes'

     

    Every one is human and prone to grumpiness and rather snappy remarks when they are tired and overwhelmed and feeling guilty that they are not managing as well as they think they should. (are you listnin' BD? ~This is me 'fessin up! )

    Each of us is different and finds different sorts of pressure unbearable, some of us can cope on little sleep and cat naps, some need 8 hours to function. Some mourn the perceived loss of the future they dreamed for their child, and some just wonder where the new path will go.

     

    One of the difficulties that B has is that AS is all he has, no other learning issues. So when he kicks off or doesn't manage a 'simple' task, he is often met with exasperation or irritation. He also looks older than he is.

    My friend's son is Downs; happy, smiley and will be about 3 all his life. Her challenges are very different to mine, but her son is happy in his world most of the time and people accept his disability.

     

    But sometimes it's hard for a carer who is at a bad time in their lives to look at someone else and be generous, and accept that it is as hard in a different way for that person and his/her child.

    So all you can do is step back and give them room to breathe and get their balance back, and accept that the comment wasn't truly aimed at you but was a product of the other person's distress.

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    Cerne Abbas giant is one of my favourite hill figures, so when B and I were on our way to Somerset, I detoured and B's eyes nearly popped out of his head!

     

    In times gone by. he was who the young village wives used instead of IVF, you had to sleep alone on a certain part of his anatomy if you wanted a baby.

    It was amazing how many times this appeared to work.

     

    Nothing to do with all the local village lads keeping an eye out for anyone trying this solution of course. :lol:

     

    Ah, the joys of being a folklorist.

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    B has been to cub/scout camp 5 times, twice it was with other troops that made a much bigger group.

    I had to get him once because of an accident, and once he fell out with another scoutmaster who happened to be the man in charge. So despite his leader being OK about him staying, he got sent home.

    He loves camping, he's done several survival nights with a sleeping bag but no tent, and he particularly likes all the feral activities, firelighting, cooking with food on a sharp stick.

    It is scary every time he goes on something like this, but each time it's easier and he has such a wonderful time.

    Well done us all, parents and children, for taking a risk!

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    Everyone is Dr Who fans in this house, even OH whose Dr was William Hartnell! :o

     

    B doesn't really care which actor plays the Dr, he was delighted by Daleks and very keen on watching the 'confidential' bit afterwards on BBC3.

     

    G has disappeared up to her room to hide her broken heart at the thought of losing her Doctor.

     

    No real spoilers yet, but there was a rumour that James Nesbitt wanted the part. :sick:

    After this, there's going to be a looonnng break with a few specials thrown in, and the next series is in 2010.

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    Just to add a curveball here, I'm a primary school teacher.

    Around 8 and 9 seems to be when an enormous number of Nt children go through an argumentative, bargaining phase that often ends in a paddy.

    Not to say that our ASDs don't. but my son has always been more reasonable about rules than my daughter.

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    I cut Ben's hair earlier and then he got in the bath. I made myself a coffee then sat at the computer. I forgot he was in the bath, in fact I forgot it was Saturday and thought they were all at school, and then heard this distant yelling and was wonderng what it was... and realised I'd left him in the bath and it took me a few seconds to remember what day it was etc. Think I'm going mad!!! This must be a bad sign of something or other :lol:

     

    Weird.

     

    Flo' :D

     

    Read yesterday's party thread.

    You must be exceptionally receptive to vibes, and there must have been a South wind blowing.

    You caught my poor parenting amnesia virus.

    Sorry.

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    hev brought k last time, and we went to the playpark with or without children.

    I don't know if bid is bringing any, but we won't leave you all on your lonesome, honest.

     

    Oxford meetup...good idea!

    I would come, and if oxgirl wanted a lift, she could have one door to door.

    Or pub to pub if she preferred.

    How about it mel?

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    I know what you mean though, LizK.

    B's school have been very supportive and adaptable after a poor start in his first term. They recognised that things weren't working and listened and got advice before they decided anything.

    Y8 has been fantastic for almost every day, supply have slipped up on occasion, but that has been dealt with fairly each time by the real staff!

    So B is happy, achieving and calm at school, doing the homework and coping well with things he finds a challenge.

    When you read of other people struggling against everything, with little or no support, and having to make their own hope because none is being offered, and whose children are stressed and unhappy because of the ignorance and wilful disregard of others, it can sometimes make you cautious about posting how good thigs are for you and your child.

    But you are shining a light at the end of a long tunnel, showing others that what you have is possible.

    If one school can do it, then all should be willing to try and achieve the same.

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    Bard, Soraya's train doesn't go to Brighton, but if you catch the Hove -victoria triain you could travel up together

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    xxx

     

    Thameslink to London Bridge, then ordinary train to Greenwich was the way I was thinking of going, because of the closures.

    There's a cafe at LB called Paul's that sells delicious and expensive French pastries. I could wait there for hours....only if necessary you understand.

    I'm sure we'll work something out.

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    Bad bad mum

     

    I forgot boy in bath

     

    he's been in there for about an hour and a half.

     

    Now

    can

    I

    spell

    it?

     

    Golgofrinshian

     

    hard to know really

     

    I think he'll have to do without a shave tonight

     

    ( visions of Sweeny Todd )

     

    PS spelled it wrongly, HHGTTG

     

    The Captain is the ablutophiliac captain of the Golgafrinchan Ark Fleet Ship B. He likes to bathe with his rubber duck (he spent practically the entire time he was captain of the B Ark and as much of his time on Earth, a total time of over three years, as has been documented in the bath) and has got a very relaxed attitude towards everything. The Captain also has a fondness for a drink called "jynnan tonnyx". His personality was based on Douglas Adams' habit of taking extraordinarily long baths as a method of procrastination to avoid writing.

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    I've never been in a chatroom, is this what it's like?

     

    Shall I bring some mead to Greenwich? Is alcohol allowed in the park for medicinal purposes?

     

    We rustics often picnic on the South Downs on a clear, brisk day. Pack a llama with a picnic and off you trot. And you can take alcohol because we're near Glynbourne, so if it's good enough for the rich and famous then it's fair for the rest of us.

    I'll ask Mumble. It would be a shame for me to be deported from London by Boris.

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