Bard
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Dont do trifle. I got individual trifles for S's 5th birthday party, all the kids hated them except for one, who ate everyone else's.... well you can guess what happened....
you live & learn.Better than my daughter's 6th, when half the girls wouldn't eat cake or icecream because they were worried about getting fat.
A bubble machine is a staple at our parties, and lots of fruit, strawberies, grapes, melon cubes etc to balance the iced gems and chocolate brownies.
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I'll be getting the Docklands light railway. It's good that the ship will be covered - I think DS2 would scream the place down if he sees a ship again. But then he might scream seeing the tent
Something is bound to set him off anyway! I'm not sure what train station I'll arrive at yet - I can't seem to get the journey planner to work!Well you can be our rallying point then!
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You were bringing it because Baddad took it upon himself to humourously insult my need for over-organisation by suggesting we all syncronised watches
; as you don't have a watch, you were going to bring a Grandfather clock. However, a cuckoo clock, if we arrange to meet on the hour, could be useful!!!! Or maybe you can get there first with a giant stuffed cuckoo and we'll all be able to find you!!!!As to Alice, perhaps we should all bring a flamingo and set up a game of croquet in the park
Oh no!
I'm a vegetarian, eco-aware, Friend of the Earth tree-hugger.
No tormented fowl in my life, stuffed or otherwise.
Cruelty to humans however....
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Sorry for the confusion Mumble, I was just saying that as an unencumbered adult it will be easy for me to meet almost anywhere.
I do have 2 guinea pigs, and a cat.
None of them are attending our meetup as they are all Sussex homebodies and don't like to travel much.
Unlike TheNeil's globetrotting cavies.
I don't think either of them are making it to the London meet.
And I have yet to find someone who will lend me their Grandfather or Mother clock. At this rate it will have to be a cuckoo clock. As I have forgotten why I'm bringing it...I feel more like the White Queen in Alice every moment.
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My husband has just been dx'd with Aspergers. I'ts a releif but I've got lots of different emotions going on at the moment. I've heard that relate can do counselling for an asperger/non asperger relationship but we're nowhere near the 2 places that do it. Where do we go from here? How can I understand him more and how can we work out a way to live together (with our toddler & baby) happily?Any help would be great x
I just thought I'd add that for years I was the main breadwinner, and OH stayed home with the babies, and worked from home.
He was fantastic with them when they were tiny, because of the lack of emotional involvement. Let me try and explain.
He never got cross or angry when a baby cried, even in the night. He knew that they needed holding, stroking, feeding and all the rest, so that's what he did. He never felt incompetent or like a bad parent, because he accepted that if something hadn't worked, you just tried something else. He walked everywhere as he doesn't drive, and took the baby with him. He is very intelligent, and enjoyed studying his children and their ongoing development.
He is finding teenagers harder to handle, but we're managing. I do all the people interface stuff!
Because he's consistent, reliable and calm, my children accept him for who he is and the qualities he possesses. They love their dad the way he is.
However, they will step over him when he's lying on the floor reading in order to ask me a question, even if I'm already doing several things at once. That can be annoying!
Your babies will love their dad whether he has a dx or not. That is one of the scary things about parenting, the children of alcoholics, bullies and addicts love their parents too. Go to Relate or councelling or support group if they help, but a dx doesn't change the man you married. He's still the same person.
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What do I do about discrimination when the person whose job it is to act against it is the one causing it in the first place?
We tar and feather her, tie her to a pole and take her to the accommodation office.
Then she can put your case with eloquence.
If my boy is in your situation in a decade's time, I can promise that his response would have been more aggressive. She either does her job or finds one more suited to her lack of empathy and intelligence.
I think your supervisor is right, let him take it higher. Print this thread for him.
You see, it's not just you. This woman will continue to ###### things up as long as she is allowed to get away with it, for years to come. I am cross for you, but also on behalf of those for whom she may distress and infuriate in the future.
On the plus side, your supervisor seems keen to keep you! You're obviously his kind of student. What are you reading/researching?
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stick with something a bit further but highly visible?
Would be my vote, but I'm not bringing children, wheelchairs or the guinea pigs so wherever we meet will be easy for me.
Sorry they're still being insensitive, inconsiderate pigs about the accommodation Mumble.
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I like the idea of meeting by the giant tent, highly visible, less crowded, and if it's raining we'll have some cover.
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The person who posted the original comment which sparked this off, meant no offence and has apologised twice, so perhaps it's time to move on.
Agree to both statements.
Moving on.
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It wasn't/isn't me
I've been blamed and not been able to explain that it's not me. This doesn't make it my fault.
Sweetheart, I know it's not you being a stinky H & S hazard.
And it still isn't your fault.
So do you want me to stop off at your college on my way to Greenwich?
Or shall we get tanked up and visit afterwards?
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Came home after a horrible day at work, and a horrible day courtesy of B who has a 2 day exclusion and a part-time timetable for next week ( and it was all going so well..) and a sad daughter who hasn't got an invite to the after prom party that her friends are going to, and the cat was sick on my feet.
So after a while, I thought I'd see how you were, and the Dodgy LEA thread was the last straw.
The Brighton line trains get into London Bridge, and it's easy to get to Greenwich from there.
All I need is a meeting point, and if I'm early, I'll just bring some marking to keep me occupied.
In my wheelbarrow.
And as you've now taken the blame for the cigarettes Mumble, I am free to use my fire extinguisher as I see fit.
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when im looking at residential schools i keep seeing high fuctioning autism,whats it mean please?thanksI think it's often used as an alternative to AS.
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Feeling worried now...how many of you other than hev hate teachers?
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I did think that we had resolved this, I wasn't objecting to a rant or even a rave, merely the accusation that we are all liars and criminals.
I feel the same way about the opinions that all parents of children on the spectrum are liars who make up excuses to cover up their poor parenting skills, and that their children are just badly-behaved and spoilt.
This is a haven where we can express our fears and concerns, so it hurts to have prejudiced, negative generalisations thrown at you when you are looking for support and encouragement.
No one is refusing others the right to have an opinion, but surely expressing it in a forum means that it is acceptable for it to be challenged.
I thought elun1 and I responded rather well to provocation, feel free to disagree.
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It's good to be able to write the truth to an audience that understands.
Many of my friends find our relationship incomprehensible, and I find all the mind-games they play with their partners equally strange.
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That's easy
All from the Greenwich brewery:
Week one: Chocolate beer
Week two: Coffee beer
(sorry - I don't do coffee!)Week three: Raspberry beer
Week four: Old smoked beer
Well Mumble, looks like I'm going to have to bring my wheelbarrow to Greenwich!
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Right-handed, poor gross motor skills but exquisite handwriting and an amazing artist.
Sucks his left thumb when stressed or sleepy, so that hand is often out of service!
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Thank you so much again and very sorry for my moans, as I know you all have enough on your plates to deal with. Cheers Di
Yes, I do.
Then I read your post and feel rather embarrassed that I even have the cheek to feel hard done by.
How on earth are you managing to stay sane? So many people have a piece of you.
I don't know how you would choose to relax, but by God you've earned it.
No answers, just admiration.
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"an asperger marriage" by gisela something (sorry its late) plus there are other books now I think.Mr pearl deffo on the spectrum, but his loyalty, straightforwardness, integrity etc make up for the irritants.
Agree, 21st anniversary coming up in July, partners for 24.
Been close to murder several times, but never divorce. he was like this when I met him, married him and the more I learn about AS, the more I understand him. Why would I want to change the things that attracted me?
All marriages are tough, but he's never been violent, dishonest, unfaithful or a liar...or any one of a thousand elements I would find harder to live with than AS.
Sometimes the lack of emotional support is distressing, then I meet someone with a possessive and jealous partner who won't let them breathe and I'm grateful for the freedom to be myself that he gives me.
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Oh dear, I would hate to upset him...
I'm afraid my low sense of humour came from spending my day in a crowded classroom full of children, mostly boys, who have no filter between their brains and their mouths.
I have to stay straight-faced from 8-5, so after hours I can become a little crazed.
Apologies for lowering the tone everyone!
Exercise is wonderful for stress relief, I do Tai Chi, walking and gardening and it helps a great deal with life in general.
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I copied your post, because so much of what you wrote reminds me of my son at 9.
He is learning to read my signals, so some things we can control together.
he talks over anyone who is talking
he will talk until he has said what he wants to say!
he prefers little eye contact as he says he forgets what hes saying when he looks at me.
he will use the wrong facial expressions at certain times.
he has no friends that can be called proper friends.
he has little facial expression.
he eats and chews anything he can...in school this is a big problem.
he fidgets and will try his best to find a book to read instead of sitting on the carpet nicely at school!
he takes forever to do simple tasks.
he cannot cope if he has a blank piece of paper to work on, but can produce some work when the page is structured.
he is unaware of authority and consequences.
you have to call his name at least 5 times before he responds.
he is very clumsy and doesnt appear to know how close to get to people.
he is very poor at catching, throwing, kicking a ball.
has no idea how to work as at team.
he wanders round at football and doesnt care about the scoring golas part of it!
he just doesnt seem to have the knack of what to say or what to do when hes with his peers.
he much prefers teachers company and calls them friends.
Lots in common!
Except...
he loves archaeology, history and cats.
But I could also list an equal number of positive and appealing qualities that he possesses, as I bet you could about yours!
Keep in touch, there's lots of help here.
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im asking for a large battered sausage as well
You're a one you are, can't see to post because I'm crying with laughter...
Does Baddad have a large battered sausage??
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One place you could ask for help or guidance would be your local special needs school.
I went on a one day course at my local school, as a teacher in mainstream. All the staff there were trained in how to handle children appropriately, and they were very helpful to those of us that weren't.
They might be able to suggest some training or where you might find more practical help.
I'm impressed at your forward planning, maybe you won't need it...
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When my friend got divorced, she was heartbroken and needed lots of TLC. She felt very lost and unloved because he had been a very dominant, high-energy guy and she was bewildered that it had all gone wrong.
After a few months she found out that her TV had channels other than Sky Sports, she could have a lie in on Saturdays instead of mountain biking, running or watching him play one of his many sports.
She could eat curry, hang her exquisite needlepoint on the walls without comment, paint her bedroom lavender, go to a film without explosions...
It was when she booked herself a holiday painting in watercolours in Northern Italy that she suddenly realised that she had got her life back.
It sounds as if your road to recovery will be much shorter, make sure you enjoy it to the max!
He's not ex enough. When does he move out?