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oh baggy there was i thinking we had so much in common,sense of humour,love of charity shops,contempt for baddad
then you ruin it all by saying eurovision is a positive 
Well I'm with you hev, especially as the Powers That Be bumped Dr Who!
And I like charity shops, we have posh ones round our way, full of prize winning novels read once, and other people's " last seasons" wardrobes.
I'm more intrigued than contemptuous of BD, can he really be as distinctive as his posts?
I might bring him a laptop, in case that's his preferred method of communication.
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10!
So when she's 16, like my daughter...
And she forgets to buy you a birthday card
like my daughter...
You won't have a leg to stand on!
I got a home-made chocolate cake, and the promise of housework done for three days!
Guilt is a wonderful tool, so we won't tell on you.
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Don't mind either date, but I feel sorry for DMB if he has to run a marathon or something the next day.
Durham to London is a long daytrip, what if he falls asleep and ends up in Inverness?
If Bagpuss hasn't booked accommodation, then maybe we could change to 14th, but if she has, then it'll have to be the 7th.
How old will your poor, neglected forgotten daughter be on 7th?
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We don't say odd, we say uniquely individual.
(Apart from the fact that unique individual is a tautology ) Did you see the programme last night discussing the etymology of 'normal' and suggesting a new definition?
OH is a Linguist and a Philologist, and a book editor...
A pity he doesn't do social!
Last night was daughter's 16th birthday, didn't see any TV.
As my birthday was on Sunday, I am even rounder now, due to excessive consumption of cake x 2.
Many exceptional people are born in May!
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sorry don't mean to bore you with my prbs.
No way! No how! Not going to happen!
Not bored at all, but I'm a technoclot who types minutes per word. I remembered that I had described B's CAMHS appointment before, so I found the post, thinking I'd copy it to you rather that wear out my index finger.
Then I realised that I'd been answering you anyway, so I wondered what else I could do to help.
Sorry you're doing that Cat in the Hat juggling thing whilst standing on your ball...hope your family settles down and comes through the rough stuff.
It gets easier because once you've worked out triggers and how to avoid meltdowns where possible, things run more smoothly. They don't grow out of it, you grow into them, so to speak.
You adapt because they usually can't, and that makes for better understanding.
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Hi
Due to the fact of my son's child paediatrician referred him to CAMHS due to possible Aspergers, please could someone advise me of their experiences with their children when they were being assessed for this and the diagnosis procedures.
My son's appointment is coming up next month to CAMHS.
Many thanks.
Di xx
Hi Di30,
You asked this question on the Help and Advice forum at the end of April.
Are you just casting your net wider to see if there are others out there who might have missed your first post, or are you looking for other, specific, info that you didn't get the first time?
How can we help?
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It's great to feel I can go somewhere where I won't feel the odd one out!
We don't say odd, we say uniquely individual.
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I can make any saturday, so the 7th July will be good for me! Just hope it's not too hot - my kids don't do too good in the heat! I'm looking forward to it - getting excited too. It's great to feel I can go somewhere where I won't feel the odd one out! How are we going to recocnise each other if we aren't all wearing pink hats???? I think we should make up name tags for ourselves - just in case we get lost!!!Well, I'm a short, stout hippy from Hogwarts carrying a Grandfather clock and a fire extinguisher.
I am hopeful that Baddad will be equally easy to identify..
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Mentor can mean different things, so if you're not sure, go back and ask for an explanation.
I work in a primary school, and the schools in my area have invested heavily in Learning Mentors, linked to the Every Child Matters document.
Learning Mentors are in-house support, a carefully selected, trained TA who works with individual children who are vunerable to build self worth, anger management, social skills family issues etc. Like a councillor/friendly ear. Ours is wonderful, and has worked brilliantly with children from 4-11. She handled my son's visits to Secondary, preparing him for transition.
The support is targeted at the individual child's needs, for as long or as short as necessary.
Teacher tends to nominate child. It's not linked in any way to the child's academic ability.
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I don't do social - setting a date may have me thinking up plans to walk/run in the opposite direction.
It's OK Mumble. Bring a good book, headphones and an MP3, a pair of dark glasses.
When you think you are beginning to overload, retreat for a while and we'll just let you go!
Remember, you're with people who find this sort of thing easy to cope with, no waffling about rudeness, making you participate or trying to get you to be the life and soul of the party.
Just be you.
I once spent an afternoon in London with a hat. A gigantic black and red checked top hat with a torso and limbs attached. B had had enough and pulled my hat over his head down to his shoulders. Due to the restricted field of vision, he also walked with teeny tiny steps and spoke infrequently in a muffled voice.
I won't attempt to describe feeding the Hat a milkshake with 2 straws taped together so that they would reach...
So come...I can find the hat if you need it!
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I don't know your family, but I would echo what SM22 said, choose your plants with a care, some are mildly toxic, some can cause irritation when crushed or collected.
lavender, honeysuckle, evening primrose, old varieties of rose, hyacinths, bluebells, jasmine.
I love them all, but the sap of evening primrose can be an irritant, all my old roses have serious Sleeping Beauty thorns.
I've got a sensory garden, perfumes for day and some that are more heavily scented at night.
Non-invasive bamboo for the sound and a safe place to hide. Wild strawberries and violets as groundcover.
lambs ears( plants!) that are soft and furry to touch
Honesty with seed cases you can hold up to the light and look through, mint grown around and in the lawn.
B's stone collections are very tactile, and the feathers he finds go into lengths of copper piping in the hedge.
His pine cones are used as mulches in my pots, and the interesting twisted bits of wood are in a logpile full of beetles and woodlice.
Can't afford a water feature yet, but we want a rock with a trickle of water, or a bubble fountain.
We've got several home made mosaics with a range of materials, pebbles, tiles, mirrors, glass...
wind chimes and wind spinners in locations that mean they're not jangling all the time.
It's a huge amount of fun, you can change your mind easily, it really doesn't cost a lot and it is always developing.
Think what you want in your garden, what matters to you and the children. Sound, sight, touch, taste, wildlife...
B and I sometimes pitch the tent and sleep out in the summer, cooking on a hibatchi type BBQ.
Daughter watches us communing with nature and shudders with horror from the safety of the electronic heaven that is her room, but even she can be found in the garden on a hot, sunny day!
I love my garden, and I hope yours gives you pleasure.
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Down to 7th and 14th of July...
At Greenwich...
So far it's Mumble, hev, Kathryn, Bard, Bid, Lya of the Nox and possibly Baddad, MichelleW, Bagpuss, Flora, ...who else is out there?
beginning to actually look possible now, it's getting exciting!
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Yup, I'll vote for Greenwich - and July!
K x
7, 14, 21, 28
Pick a number!
So far it's Mumble, hev, Kathryn, Bard, and possibly Baddad, MichelleW, Bagpuss, Flora, Bid...who else is out there?
Good call on Greenwich by the way!
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Agree, I'll have finished all those annoying teacher things by then and we'll be running wild, with beans in our ears. July is better for me too.
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So now we're down to dates.
ALL SATURDAYS HEV!!!
30 June, 7, 14, 21, 28 July, 4, 11, 18 August.
21 July is the first Saturday in the Summer holidays.
And I don't own a watch, synchronised or not. You'll have to use telepathy or a bugle to rally me.
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No, never.
I used to observe parents with children clamped to their legs, or walking to heel, with green-eyed envy.
Mine used to trot off, oblivious to where I was. If I couldn't keep up, or got caught behind someone else I was filled with panic at the thought of what might happen.
He would invariably stop when he wanted to tell/show me something, and be incandescent that I was not walking to heel. Not afraid, but cross when I wasn't where he wanted me to be.
The concept of getting lost was alien to him.
If I got 'lost' in the supermarket, we had a deal. I would go to the bakery counter, and if I found him there, we would have a treat for being sensible. It was the furthest place from the doors, and the one place he would stand and gaze hopefully for ages.
No, he never seemed to do it on purpose.
Now he just shouts 'Keep up old lady' or sometimes ' You're not very fit are you?' as he strides ahead.
He's good with traffic, it's Stranger Danger he doesn't get.
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Mumble, you sound better and better.
Likes castles and the beach, doesn't do pink...
If you like books, then it's a perfect match!
I'll be easy to spot, how many Aging hippies from Hogwarts can there be on any one day at Greenwich?
And whatever Baddad's on, he can bring some to share.
You sound more and more like an extra from Alice Through The Looking Glass every time you post here, Tunbridge must be a wilder place that I ever imagined!
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My vote is for Greenwich too please, lots of stuff to do and cover if it rains!
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Well, that's three of us sorted.
OI! WHERE'S EVERYONE ELSE?
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And due to extreme poverty, my diary is clear for the whole of August.
No jetting off anywhere, no birthdays either.
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My NT daughter calls the look ' Mum's thousand yard stare'
It's apparently a reference to sniper fire that she picked up from her Grandfather.
We know the look well!
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Imagine a small weeping icon here.
( I don't know how to do all those clever picture thingies)
B and I are booked into a Roman farm archaeological study day on the 9th.
I can do Sat 2nd, 16th, and 30th in June, and any Sat in July except 7th.
sniff...
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B tends to tell it like it is...pc or not.
He once asked a boy at school ' Why is your mum so fat?' and the boy was very upset.
His mum was a 22+, so to B it was a logical, unemotional enquiry, along the lines of ' Why is your hair blue?' that he asked a Brighton punk a year or two ago.
He knows that some of the things he does and says annoy people, and he often doesn't know why, so he has always looked to me as an interpreter.
He recognises the hand signal that means stop now, don't talk, and I will explain when we are on our own.
I explain clearly and without euphemisms, and I don't get cross. Once he understands, then I expect him to try and remember...and often he does.
He doesn't have much empathy as such, but he's learning how to refrain from personal comments about people...slowly. He used to stare at details that interested him, which was disconcerting if it was on a person!
I tawt I taw a puddytat!!!
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Wow!
A thread tailor-made for B!
How thoughtful; here is a list of the ginger Tom cats he has known.
Orion
Throgmorton
Gingernut Smallsqueak
Cinnamon
Feste
Predator
Macavity the mystery cat
Raffles
Popocatapetal
The Mogster
Other names available by colour and sex. He remembers every cat he has ever met, and their personality traits.
This skill does not transfer to people however.
He worked through 100 non-consecutive trouble-free days at school to win his own little ginger tom cat, and it's the best �30 I ever spent.
Enjoy!