Bard
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Hi another question for you all i hope you can help me with my son had an initial observation with ed pshyc on 20th Feb because of his behavioural issues, should i have had a meeting with her also? or some form of written report? all i have recieved from her is a quick phone call which she was prompted to make by parent partnership is this the usual outcome of an EPs observation and what other input can i expect from her.Thanks again for any replys Mrs Fussy
The Ed Psych was due to see B and observe him for a full day in school, then meet with me after school on the same day for my input.
Unfortunately, when she arrived, it was a day that had gone wrong before registration, and he was in isolation.
Not as bad as it sounds, he was working in the Deputy Head's office quite cheerfully. We've already agreed that exclusion doesn't work well as he enjoys it.
So she met me for my contributions, listened well and asked relevant questions. She had already met with Tutor and Senco the same day. We discussed what I wanted to be provided as support, and what the school had suggested. She then met and observed B three days later.
I got a written copy of the report 4 weeks after our meeting, and it showed that she had taken on board everything I had said, and made clear and helpful suggestions.
I've signed permission for her to have further involvement, and I have evidence that the school is already implementing some of her strategies and ideas. B has no learning needs as such, it's the spaces in between!
She's going to keep in contact with me and the school, and I feel much more confident that the perception, support and general help offered to B is going to be much more appropriate as a result of her involvement.
I know I've been lucky with the school and the staff. They are good people.
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We don't throw stones at OUR neighbours in Sussex.
Next thing you know, you'll be raiding over the border to steal water.
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So what about London?
Would that be easier? Brighton is about an hour out of Victoria or London Bridge stations, and if you're coming from the NE, would you arrive at King's X? That adds cross city time as well.
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Water??????????????I sure there must be a punchline somewhere?
Nah, he's just from Tunbridge Wells.
Their idea of living dangerously is sparkling mineral water...or a trip to Brighton.
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Oh, that's fantastic news!
Please tell C thanks for the info. My AS boy doesn't care, but his sister, NT 16 is obsessed with Pokemon and has been for over 8 years. She has the details of the first 150 in her head, and can draw them all perfectly.
Pokemon and her brother linked! I can't wait to tell her!
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Yes.
B doesn't seem to get cold.
Caught him playing in the snow several years ago. 7.30am in his pj bottoms and bare feet. It could have been worse. He gets too hot in bed, so doesn't wear pjs!
It seems to be quite a common trait in many AS children.
He overheats quickly in warmer weather, and his tolerance drops, and his temper gets shorter, and .....
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Drusillas is fun but MEGA expensive!
Brighton is lovely but very crowded, the Festival is on at the moment. It's got some great cafes and restaurants, and there is Park and Ride, but the beach is the wrong sort, unless Mumble likes pebbles.
You build cairns instead of castles.
You're right BD, it is rather young and Bohemian...
I can see why outraged of Tunbridge Wells would find it a little disconcerting!
I haven't got the right sort of outfit for Tunbridge, don't they stop you at the borders and check for labels?
Or London, so Mumble can circle us in disguise, and decide if she wants to get closer...like being at a Safari park.
Don't mind really, it's all in my quarter of the country.
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One of B's passions is cats. He knows the name and characteristics of every cat in our neighbourhood, and new arrivals make a bee-line for him.
The obvious choice for us was to read 'All cats have Asperger's Syndrome' which he enjoyed and understood.
He relates his AS to his brain being wired differently, and can explain some of the positives and negatives that relate to him. He doesn't see it as a disability, more a difference that requires understanding and thought.
He was relieved to find out at 9 that he wasn't just evil incarnate, there was a reason for the Krakatoas that happened at school.
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And if we meet in London, I might not have to bring the wheelbarrow for Mumble.
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I've got maps of London and Reading...
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Perhaps it's your inner Clunge Ambler expressing itself
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but I might need some help once I got to the train station and I wouldn't want to be a burden on anyone
A burden?
I have no intention of carrying you, so I'll just bring my trusty wheelbarrow.
As for Manchester...it's got about 3 main railway stations and people talk funny so I'm not surprised you mislaid yourself. I lived just outside the city for several years, and found new ways to get lost every time I went there.
Personally, I have maps of everywhere I have ever been, or am likely to go. I am known for my amazing sense of Geography, and my appalling sense of direction.
A meeting anywhere south of me would involve passports.
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Everything Baddad has said to me in the past now means dirt after reading this. I don't think I can stay here anymore. I can only leave this and hope a bit of sanity gets through.Don't leave Lucas, debate and clarity is impossible if there are a restricted number of opinions available.
I really think that this is a valuable discussion, and you have ideas and perceptions to contribute.
Like Baddad wrote
I hope you will continue to be an active partcipant on the forum. I've said many times that your input and insight is greatly valued here by myself and every other member. That does not mean I will waive my right to disagree with you because you do not recognise my 'ethical' or 'moral' validity to do so.
Disputing an argument is not rejecting the individual that makes it.
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All the chat about the Oxford meet, especially you DMB, made me homesick.
So I drove up and had myself a fantastic day wandering around my old haunts and finding all the new stuff that has happened since my last visit 5 years ago.
Thanks!
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Mead.
Home-made is best, and I have a production line going in the garage.
Every girl needs a hobby....
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Do you know what I have found one of the most interesting, hopeful & rewarding things about joining this forum? Reading the posts of such thoughtful, adult Aspies as yourselves. You are awesome. J is clever but much less articulate about describing what it is like to be him. Reading all your varied experiences of being "differently wired" is giving me such an insight & helps me understand what he may be feeling so much better than I used to. Thankyou.
Total agreement from me.
And that goes for Mumble, Badonkadonk and the rest as well. Your ability to express and explain things is impressive, and an immense asset to all of us.
It not only helps me understand B better, but it enables me to think of how I can deal better with the world having to interact with him.
Thank you
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J used to hit babies.
We werent very popular in the village.Well that's interesting!
B is gentle with babies, toddlers and visibly different children, Downs, CP, wheelchair etc.
He used to get into trouble at Primary, because he would treat everyone in the playground the same.
So if you annoyed him, he would hit out, whether it was a year 6 or a 4 year old in reception.
It was as if he couldn't see the difference, because they were all running around and playing in the same way.
When he got to Secondary, in Sept, his first fight was with a Y11 who pushed him.
I think the 6'2 Y11 was more startled than anything else.
We're working on it!
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I've just read an article in our local rag about the setting up of an Asperger support group.
On what planet can this possibly be considered helpful?
Break out the pitchforks and let's get going!
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Peppa wrote:
Also been hearing about school action and school action plus on other threads, dd's nursery teacher did mention these when dd got dx, but im not really familiar with them and how it applies to dd, so any info greatly appreciated.
An IEP has different levels.
It should set specific targets for the child to achieve within a given period of time, in our school, it's 4 months.
We write and review IEPs in Oct/Feb/June
School Action means that those targets can be met with in-school resources; teacher, TA, learning mentor, Senco, LSA etc.
School Action Plus means that the school has to obtain help, resources or skills from professionals outside the school; ED Psych, S & L, Physio, Behavioural support, and the rest of the merry band.
SA+ sometimes requires extra funding.
Hope that helps with the jargon busting.
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This is in no way meant to be a disagreement with anyone else who is attempting to encourage their child to socialise or make friends with other children. Every parent/child relationship is different, and I would not presume to judge anyone's efforts on behalf of their child.
My boy is 12, and has limited social skills. He can get aggressive.
He enjoys Scouts, and they are flexible about his attendance and participation.
Yes to woodcraft, making bird feeders, campfire activities, learning how to ...
No to team games, very unstructured activities which are peer-lead etc. Some weeks, he looks at the programme and doesn't want to go, especially if school has been stressful or exhausting.
If he begins to lose it, I get a phone call and I pick him up without fuss from any of us.
He loves Kayaking, hill walking and archery, all fairly solitary with minimum contact with others, but has little understanding or tolerance of team games.
I usually let him choose to interact or not on his terms, except if he goes deep purple at others and yells or hits. Usually, if I'm there, I can spot the oncoming storm and take pre-emptive action. If I'm not, he is beginning to learn to walk away.
I've always loved that quiet, happy , playing by myself part of him. He tells me he doesn't need friends, and I'm happy to take that at face value as he seems content.
He can spend hours, literally, in an art gallery or a museum. He is never bored.
Which reminds me, he's been playing in the bath for an hour... time to go!
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Your AS should be a consideration, just as any other special need would be.
You are being more distressed than many NT's would be because of it.
Bard - your suggestion sounds great fun!!!!! - might just get me into a bit of trouble though!!!!!
I could wear my secret ninja costume, I'd look like a short, round humpty-dumpty attacker.
You could be innocently in your room, posting. Listening for the screams.
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Please do.
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Mumble wrote:
I want to know how a NT would deal with this situation, so I know how (if at all) to approach it or whether I'm just being over-sensitive.
I go with pearl and pumpkinpie.
As an NT with a high sensitivity to smoke that makes my eyes water and gives me sore throats and a cough, I would be very annoyed indeed. I would not tackle such an irresponsible, indifferent law-breaker.
They are flouting the rules and invalidating the hall of residence's insurance policy by ignoring a H & S rule.
I would complain to the residence offices, or write if I was a more sensitive individual who wasn't spoiling for a fight.
I think you have been incredibly long-suffering, this has been going on far too long.
By now I would have invaded the smoking room ( what indulgence!), with a fire extinguisher.
Several times.
Come to think of it, there's a bank holiday coming up and I owe myself a birthday treat.
Say the word, and The Extinguisher is on her way.
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I don't know how old your son is, but we use the bbb.co.uk/schools dancemat typing skills for years 2-4 to support ICT skills, and it's free.
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Well, I want to meet Mumble, and Mumble likes the idea of London, Reading and Brighton.
There's lots of good parks in London, St James for birds, Hyde for rowing, Regents for the zoo...
Baddad, I agree, Tilgate Park is fun too, on a dry day.
And it needs to be somewhere with good public transport links, so everyone has the chance of getting there.
Cotswold Wildlife Park is really far west for me, not a daytrip, so as I'm broke I'd have to sleep in the car.