call me jaded
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I've found a nicely chilled rose, so
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Day One in the Big Brother House.
Mr Jaded has woken with a tummy bug, cramps and a headache. Jaded is back on the school run for the middle two.
I meet my friend in the playground and she gives me some Jersey Clotted Cream Fudge as a thank you for having one of her children the previous day whilst she lived it up (in Jersey, of course) and her husband waited for England to get beaten at cricket. She is looking more jaded than me and tells me she is going home to sleep.
Handing in my youngest son to nursery, I realise I have completely missed the fact that he was supposed to bring party food. I go home, pick up my purse and go to the corner shop, then back to school with food (throwing in the fudge as the offering seemed a bit paltry) and home again. The Entrocalms are working and Mr J is demanding 'fresh' orange juice. Palm him off with some long life stuff.
Work out why the washing machine isn't working: water has seeped down the back of worktop onto the power switch. Haul ASD Dear Son off the worktop which he has been standing on to clean the windows. Clean an amazing assortment of gunk from behind the washing machine, change the fuse and connect it to a different power source and put on the first load of the day.
Tidy up. Feel Mr Jaded's brow. Make sympathetic noises. Could I possibly stop DS from playing? He's making too much noise.
Take ASD child and baby to Tesco. My eleven year old insists on climbing inside the trolley. The baby insists on walking. We load up twelve items. At the checkout my son gets out of the trolley. He is now shoeless and tries to push the trolley up the supermarket. I stop him from doing this and insist he puts on his shoes. We get back to the car. DS thinks he should be in control of the trolley. I grab the baby and the bags from the trolley and load them into the car. DS seizes his moment and canters across the car park with his trolley, giving it a defiant extra push so that it runs into the kerb. I park it properly and spend 15 minutes strapping DS into his Houdini harness.
The promised outing to the park is still on. The baby wants to feed the ducks. Quack, quack, quack, quaaaacccckk. DS is really annoyed with me for making him do various things in the supermarket but takes against the baby and we walk to the pond with me as the baby's body guard. The ducks are too overfed from Sunday to bother swimming to us, but we throw our bread on the pond anyway. DS spies the Nature Trail and sits in the top step. I explain we have the baby and the buggy and there are too many steps (it's a steep and narrow path). We reach an impasse for a while. DS is crying. I change tactics and offer lots of encouragement. DS responds. Once moving he remembers he is cross with the baby and again I am the shield.
The playground is empty. The baby likes the swing, but then wants to go on the baby slide. Jaded gets a go on the slide too, because DS is still annoyed. Time for home.
Mr J has chewed an entire packet of Entrocalms and decides he feels well enough for a haircut so that he 'doesn't look like a terrorist'. He takes the baby. DS has lunch while I deal with the shopping and the second load of washing. He forgets to be annoyed with anyone.
Bliss: 20 minutes to surf the net. There has been a hilarious misinterpretation of something I wrote in an email and someone (who was not at the meeting where I discussed this) has gone off demanding action without checking with me first. I spend the entire 20 minutes contacting people to explain. This involves admitting to everyone that my nursery school child hoovered up a bowl of water and blew the electrics at home. Nothing whatsoever to do with the school at which I'm a governor. Fortunately the situation is retrieved without too much damage, except to my reputation (which is already tarnished).
Mr J is not well enough to do the school pick up and take them swimming. I note the fudge is unopened in the nursery and wave at my friend as she comes into the playground as we're on our way out. 'Have you been asleep?', I ask. She nods.
At home Mr J has got the pressure cooker out and is making a tagine. We make Thank You cards for various teachers, TAs and Nursery Nurses. Feed everybody, do a boy's bath night. Miraculously everybody is in bed by 8pm. Mr J goes to work.
And that is Day One of my DS's summer holiday. Every single word true. I'm behind with the washing.
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I have moments of lucidity where I realise what a cr@p mother I am. Specially to the baby, whose first proper sentence was 'Mummy, you've got mail' and doesn't know more than two nursery rhymes.
Jonathan, please don't think I'm patronising you, but my guess is you've not yet met the right person. If it's any consolation I was knocking 30 before I met the fabulous Mr jaded and had given up looking.
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The LEA have said that there is no school in our area that can meet his complex needsThis is the green light to go and look at schools regardless of the expense. My son starts as a day boy at a NAS school in September.
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I'm sure I read somewhere that they've identified a gene for religious belief. My family certainly hasn't got it
Perhaps we got the autism one instead 
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Do you have a school in mind? The LEA are not allowed to do anything more than give a list of schools. They can't recommend any of them. Some of the independent schools (the NAS ones for eg) are still going for another week or so. Any chance of going to see one or two of them?
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Just been watching the live feed on E4 and reading the text messages. About half of them are supporting Eugene - 'he's lovely', 'I want to be his girlfriend', 'Eugene to win'. The only other one who's getting lots of messages is Anthony. He's very popular for being himself [Eugene].
In previous years the one who got the most messages was the one who won.
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Had a phone call only last week to say my son had attacked a member of staff. It's the pits.
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I took my son's current special school teacher and son to his new school today. His current school have struggled to teach him much in the last couple of years. He is very difficult to engage. She observed for half a day and has made a couple of comments in the car as I took her back to school, one of which was 'I wonder what they will have achieved with him by this time next year?' She seemed shocked at what was expected of the teaching staff, especially as they only get four weeks summer break. In her defence the new school starts with one-to-ones for all pupils. He's possibly getting a male support worker, which he will love. I'm now soooo excited about September, though realise it will be quite a shock for my son, who took himself off to bed an hour and a half early tonight.
Anybody else looking forward to September?
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I've deleted this, as I don't have time to re-write to give a fuller perspective.
Good luck with the school today.
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Is he worried you might talk about his diagnosis?
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Have you had an apology for the bruises?
My son's 'rages' disappeared once we changed his diet and my NT daughter's mood swings are much more stable too. Seriously I used to have scars on my arms where he used to attack me. Have you done GFCF?
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Long, long delay with my son's VOCA from CAP but at last our Dynamyte is here. We are starting in the summer holidays. He is already a PECS user. I have been trained on programming. SLT has just gone on maternity leave and our cash strapped PCT is not replacing her. Could ask for someone else, but they won't do anything until September when my son starts his new school which has their own SLT anyway (yeh!).
I'm now looking for some structured activities lasting 15 minutes twice a day to get us going and my mind is a complete blank. Has anybody got some websites or a book that they can recommend?
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'Oh he's got lovely curls. They're wasted on him'
Always from an old lady with a perm.
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Schools flouting abuse checksMichael Shaw and Dorothy Lepkowska
Published: 15 July 2005
Children are at risk of abuse in the majority of boarding schools and many special schools, according to a hard-hitting report by eight independent government watchdogs.
It found that schools, both private and state, were improving but were still unable to protect the most vulnerable young people.
Children in special schools were being hurt by teachers using unacceptable force to restrain them, said the inspectors. Young people said some staff did not know how to control them without causing pain.
Physical control techniques were sometimes used as punishments, said the inspectors, when they were intended to prevent injury, serious damage to property or a severe breakdown in order.
Some teachers were also unable to spot the children being abused or neglected outside school, particularly those with special needs. The inspectors said that the quality of child protection systems and training in schools was variable.
The Commission for Social Care Inspection visited all 555 state and independent boarding schools. It found that 60 per cent did not meet all the national minimum standards for child protection. Around 40 per cent of residential special schools also failed to meet these standards.
Read more in this week's TES
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My community paediatrician who looked at me as if I was mad when I mentioned fish oils
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I gave up! Call me a quitter.
Knowing what I do now, I would take a break and then do a reduced dose.
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It's all very well (possibly essential) to have some professional sparring and competition, but I suspect SRM was guilty of complacency in what had become quite a lucrative career for him. For that I think he needed to be struck off. Besides he's in his seventies, it's hardly cutting short a brilliant career.
The two other CPS expert medical witnesses have also been disciplined.
There is a website, Parents Protecting Children, which campaigns for wrongly accused parents.
http://www.parents-protecting-children.org.uk/
They are looking for people who have been wrongly accused of MSBP to take part in some research (look under News).
Being trained in Child Protection issues I have always taken the precaution of running whatever alternative therapies I do by my GP and get the go ahead ('It won't do him any harm'). When we start the GFCF diet my son became very withdrawn and tentative enquiries were made from his school (good for them!). I was able to say it was with my GP's consent and the matter was dropped. At his next annual review the school whole-heartedly endorsed the diet (I did not ask them to) and now encourages other parents to try.
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Yes, unfortunately. What about a smaller dose?
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I suspect Sir Roy was very credible as a witness. This from the Telegraph in 2003 gives a good insight.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/opinion/main.jh...02%2Fdo0202.xml
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I think you need to point out to them how conflicting the two targets are. Is a SLT is going to be there? To be honest the not saying no doesn't sound like a target any SLT would condone at this stage. And anyway, what is the educational value of this target? It sounds like something an irritated teacher has put in.
Sorry, no help, just a rant on your behalf.
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Yes they can say it's normal if there isn't a problem. The last time I spoke to them the result was showing inconclusive on casein because the person's diet contained very little dairy.
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Forgive me, for this is going to come across a little blunt.
It doesn't really matter what the ratio is IMHO, because what you need to know is if it's a problem for your child. So unless you send the test you'll never know.
I also recommend that you phone the ARU if you get inconclusive results, because they can only send out positive results that are within a Standard Deviation (i.e. 95% certain of being right - it's a long time since I studied statistics, think that's right). Put it this way, they can tell you more over the phone.
Hope this doesn't offend.
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Ooops! I guess that was a bit patronising, then.