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My first post and its straight in at the deep end! A bit of background for you as Im new here might help so........... I am a single mum to 3 children, 7 yo with asd (dx 2 years ago) 5 yo NT daughter and 3 1/2 yo son with asd traits (no dx as yet) My poor daughter really is piggy in the middle bless her. At te moment we are struggling with my eldests aggression. I can see what most of the triggers are (mainly not getting what he wants/people not doing what he wants/things not working like they should and sometimes there just seems to be no trigger) My daughter knows her brothers ways but obviously if she doesnt want to play with him she shouldnt have to. This will result in him hitting/pinching/biting/scratching and most recently spitting at her. When I intervene I get the same abuse. No matter what I try he becomes fixated on attacking her. Its heart breaking to see her so scared of him. My youngest has also started to copy his brother now which makes handling the situation twice as hard esp being on my own. He wont go to his room to cool down etc it just fizzles out eventually and its like it never happened. But I find myself becomming a human shield whilst the red mist has decended. I've removed his favorite toys, treats, privilages and tried reward charts but he doesnt care. Ive sat and talked to im about it (not easy as he struggles with communication/understanding etc) used social stories, pec's and he just replies with "I like hitting" or "I want to spit" What can I do? The holidays are fast becomming unbareable as not one day goes by without one of these incidents (though they vary on severity) Thanks