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Hello everyone, Just so angry and upset as the statement our k has now ,implies a lot of 'mother reports' even though they have evidence from hospitals and doctors about constipation and soiling, basically the school have implied if we don't see it, it does not exist. so our k hides and witholds his stools and the overflow soils his underwear but not enough to go through his trousers just his pants. I took him to the doctor last week and k would not let him look (ks bum was sore, equivilant to nappy rash) anyway i managed to get the doctor to look when we all went into the toliet and he saw how ks bottom was. I have tried to get an OT onto this but no joy. I have gone through ks statement and found no mention of any strategies to get him to wipe himself, no referal even to the autism unit to ask about help in getting him to change into his PE clothes and quite frankly they believe its because i have not brought a PE kit in, its been a year since he had his PE kit and he never wore it anyway. I brought in two pairs of plimsolls and he refused to wear them. So i took them home. He was not changing into his PE kit, since i took the PE kit home he has been willing to do PE provided he does not have to change. Recently as last week he refused to go in on Thursday as the teacher last week (he has a different teacher for PE on thursdays) tried to get our k to take his shoes off. If i force k to wear a PE kit he refuses to go in, so what do i do ?. In part 6 of the statement all its says regarding changing of PE kit is this. Strategies to encourage k to engage in Pe and physical activities in school eg social stories good home/school liasion to ensure any anxities k has around changing are recognised and expectations are clear any issues around sensory sensitivites are considered. Good home/school communication eg home school book so that learning can be supported at home and any issues dealt with to reduce k anxieties. (k forgets letters, homework and his diary) He struggles with homework so leaves his book and does need reminding (frequently) to get his book. Apparantly his continued lateness and absences have made an impact on his learning. No kidding, he complains he does not get the help and has even said so to their Educational physcologist and that has been mentioned in the report inclosed in the statement. Its so insulting i really feel like i want to scream and go running to the nearest solictors, i can act on ks behalf and it would not cost anything provided we have proof of our incomings and outgoings. Can anyone advise on how to get a child to wipe himself at school. When we asked him why doesn't he do it he answer is i cannot see my bottom to wipe it. Even though i have told him he has to keep wiping till his mess is gone. Basically they see K as lazy (lacks motivation) and say its his attitude thats the main problem. I could scream. I have phone footage of how k is and they refuse to see (tribunal don' allow video footage. Just because its not a problem for k (he just sits in it) the school think its ok. I am just so angry. This is second time around for us and its so frustrating. I know its not an educational matter but a social matter yet he still needs help in these areas. I want him to stay at mainstream but he needs more support in basic care of himself. Should the school be employing this,even though its not an educational matter, its still support he needs. We have all told k he needs to wipe himself but he won't unless he gets help. The school thinks its k pulling the wool over my eyes and doing this for attention. I can think of other ways rather than putting up with a sore bottom, wouldn't you agree ?. I think this statement is boardering on disrimination of some kind. I never had this problem with the eldest one. Best wishes to you all, thanks for reading. sarni