Going out

[caren]

K is 6 and ASD now for last 3 months or so everytime i get him dressed i get tears and total heart broken little boy as he does'nt want to leave the house ( might add though he's fine once out) but we both end up getting so upset cause he's so heart broke that i end up upset , Is there anyway to make it easyier please ,i'v explained whats happening where and who we are going with but the minute i get the clothes its starts

 

thanks

[butterfingersbimbo]

oh no what a nightmare! sorry i cant offer any advise, but it just made me think about when el was younger and she would strip off whenever i got her dressed to go out......i wonder if it was cos she really didnt want to go anywhere? she can still be a hermit now.....unless its something she really wants to do..... <'>

[caren]

thanks K strips all time to not sure if its the clothes he really dislikes or going out

[butterfingersbimbo]

i know el had big problems with clothes but i wonder if its a combination of the two?

[Clare63]

DS hates clothes so will only wear pants and jogging bottoms no top, also hates going out probably cause he knows he has to wear more clothes, even in the cold of winter he'll refuse to wear a jumper or a coat, was a nightmare when we went ski ing last year....never again !!!!

 

Clare x

[shortie]

Going thru the same thing with M at the moment,she doesn't want to go anywhere,not even in the garden which is something she usually loves!!got no advice but glad i'm not the only one!!!

[caren]

thanks all , think maybe its a clothes thing roll on summer when shorts are ok

[cmuir]

Hi

 

My son was exactly the same, only he was extremely aggressive and would lash out, throw things, become very abusive, etc. I realised that this was happening more or less the minute I said 'let's go out". Didn't matter if it was places that I thought he'd love ie the zoo, etc. He was anxious and that's why he behaved so badly. I wrote him illustrated social stories to show exactly what we were going to do. I also let him know what would happen if he didn't like it and wanted to come home. My son's speech appears to be very good on the surface, but I had four specialists tell me they thought he was having difficulty understanding. A lot of ASD kids are able to process visual information much better than verbal information.

 

It wasn't a miracle cure, but this definitely helped. I did have to persevere - Robert would go through stages of being really interested in the social story (we'd take it wish us to he could remind himself what was going to happen/where we were going), others times he'd try and rip it to shreds (I laminted them!!!).

 

Having said all that, I don't try to do lots of things (ie some NT kids I know are always going on daytrips and are never in!). I've accepted that Robert is more comfortable at home. We do try things, but I don't push it.

 

Robert also runs around the house in his birthday suit. I think it could partially be a sensory thing, but suspect he's far more comfortable running around like that.

 

Best wishes.

 

Caroline.

Edited April 10, 2007 by cmuir

[venus]

hi, my son is exactly the same, he will be 6 in a couple of weeks.Since last september he has hated going out,admittedily he does get car sick so that has not hepled but it is not the only reason. He will scream, shout, hit out and go mad and more often than not we give up and stay in, but we do make him go out sometimes as we also have a 3 year old who loves going out and also i worry that if they never go out that they will then get too scared to go out. My son like yours has a great time when he is out so i think it is just the thought of going out that worries him, we have tried explaining what we are going to do but it has made no difference.He actually wanted to go to the seaside on Easter Sunday and got dressed with no hassel and was fine in the car and he he had a great day and even gave me a big hug to say thank you but whether we will be able to do it again soon i don't know.He definately prefers to stay at home where he is comfortable and can do his own thing.

[krystaltps]

C went through a phase of not wanting to go out. I got him out of this by rewarding him with a small toy, or sweetie if he came without fussing. Unfortunately it has backfired - every time we go out now, he harps on and on about his sweet/magazine/treat. So, be careful what rewards you offer.

As for the clothes thing - we're the opposite, we dread summer. C will only wear fleece-lined tracksuits, he last wore shorts at 18 months, and will only wear a t-shirt for PE at school. So, come summer, he is too hot and simply refuses to change into something cooler.

Edited April 11, 2007 by krystaltps