lisa35 Report post Posted June 10, 2008 Just sat watching my wonderful son, hes making a swing outside from the tree to my shed, very ingenious I feel so sad for him, whenever he tries to invite kids they make some excuse, he is alone such a lot.I asked him if he minded and he said hes just got used to it He has so many wonderful qualities, I just hope as he gets older other s see them, he is my star, wonderful lad. Do your kids have more friends as they get older? Also, hes been told cant go on end of term trip to cruddy flamingo land (well, we ll be the ones telling him) because school policy is if have had expulsions, etc, cant go So up to us to tell him, I told them in no uncertain terms he wont be in school that day, and Ill probably keep him off day after - why should he have nose rubbed in it! Hhes loosing it school as he cant cope,even with 1;1, we re curently awaiting hope ful placement at a school with specialist provision. Sorry, turned into a rant x feeling a bit blue for him Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tally Report post Posted June 10, 2008 Lisa <'> I used to have friends as a child, but they've all gradually fallen away and I haven't really managed to make any friends since I moved 5 years ago. Most of the time I am OK with it, but I do sometimes wish I had friends. Mostly though, I wish I had a friend to do things with, rather than for the company. This attitude might be why I have found it so hard to make friends, but I haven't worked out how to think differently. A lot of autistic people do better when they get older because they learn more and more about how to be with other people. You also mature and feel more comfortable with the way you are and come across more confident with people. Adults are generally better at accepting difference than children, which also helps. But sometimes, the differences can become more pronounced, and adults who do not accept them can be more cutting than children. Most autistic adults I know have a small group of close friends, and no one else, and this works well for them. I'm sorry to hear your son can't go on the school trip. Maybe you could treat him to a day out somewhere he would like. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lisa35 Report post Posted June 10, 2008 [ Thanks for the reply, I am going to take him somewhere 9Flamingo land sucks anyway! ) Im also going to let him have the money we get back to buy some lego( which he ll love!) He is so much "nicer" than most people, if that makes sense, has such wonderful attitude, no hate in him, is non judgemental, so compassionate (sounds ironinic I know when diagnosed aspergers/autism) He s a better person than any adult I know, the eternal good samaritan! x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
elun1 Report post Posted June 10, 2008 <'> <'> Lisa. O doesnt understand the concept of friendship at all but W just diagnosed with aspergers does and it hurts when they find it so hard. He has a couple of 'friends' but he struggles with this too. As he gets older we are growing much closer somehow. He loves adult company and would chat with (or at!) you all day Sorry got to go, take care x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shnoing Report post Posted June 13, 2008 Do your kids have more friends as they get older? It seems to be easier once you're 30 or older. For the children, it seems to be easier to make friends with someone who is 'wired' similarly. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bikemad Report post Posted June 13, 2008 Just replied to a thread 'alone again' didn't see this one sorry-im also hoping things l improve when my lad is older cos basically it is me n him 24/7 more or less cos he wont go out, has no friends etc. It is so hard isnt it too see them so alone...((hugz)) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
