joybed Report post Posted October 22, 2008 Following my thread could DS2 have ADHD school have highlighted some concerns regarding my daughter as well. It was parents evening last night and the teacher is pleased with Piers progress and said he just needs time to settle down. However she said she was concerned as Lydia hardly ever talks in class. She did say that in the last few days she has become a little more chatty with the other children but only when she doesn,t think another adult is listening or watching. If she catches an adult watching she stops what she is doing and looks down at her feet and sucks her thumb. If a teacher trys to do one to one work with her she willl not look at them and says she doesn,t know the answer. The teacher says she has a close friendship with 1 little boy but tonight they ran out of school together and he touched her she pushed him to the floor and said she didn,t like the way his breath smelled and not to touch her and she is now not his friend. i feel so sorry for the little boy. We have noticed that if children talk to her she acts as if they are not there and blanks them completely but will talk if the mood takes her. She is just the same at home, she is a bit of a stroppy madame at times. The most worrying thing for me is that she has begun to soil herself after being fully toilet trained and has been prescribed laxatives just like her big brother. Also tonight she asked for a DVd on and was insisting i let the credits run until her favourite character had been on as she always does but when i started it I had done it wrong apparently and she tantrumed for ages, didn,t like me, i never listen. She is also totally obsessed with Take That (the band) can,t fault her as so am I but isn,t this odd for a four year old, she knows there names, all their songs watches the DVD every day and shows an interest in there childrens names and where they live. I think she is just extremely shy and stressed at starting school but she also says she likes school. I am also beginning to think i am a little paranoid and am sure my GP will diagnose Munchausens by proxy any day soon. Am i worrying unnecessarily. Feel free to call me anything that appears to fit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Clare63 Report post Posted October 22, 2008 I would not say your are paranoid of course you are worried anyone would be. What did the school suggest you do next ? <'> <'> <'> Clare x x x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Enid Report post Posted October 22, 2008 Oh Joy, these kids, there is always something to worry about, you`ve got me at it now, my 6 yr old has been prescribed laxitives for exactly the same reasons, I`ve been thinking things are not quite right for some time, but burying my head as school havnt said a word, but the signs are there! Oh god Just think to your self, well I`ll be more experienced this time. Enid Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cat Report post Posted October 22, 2008 I think that I will call you a concerned parent with a great deal on their plate. If I had any concerns then I would have to know - but that is me and we are all different <'> <'> Cat Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
joybed Report post Posted October 23, 2008 School havn,t suggested anything they are just happy to watch and see how things pan out, they said the same when they expressed concerns regarding Piers. They are just of the view that they are only little and just settling into school, they are also one of the youngest being born in June. Of course this could be true. However I am not sure what is happening at school, when my older boy went there it was a different headmaster he retired when M was in year 4 and was relaced with a young head and it is first headmaster post. The old head recognised m had a problem straight away and he was diagnosed and statemented within 3 months, however their is a child in Piers and Lydia,s class with global develpoment delay and he is repeating reception this year. He is not statemented despite his mum really pushing for this and she says the head takes so long to fill in relevant forms get in touch with the LEA etc and is generally not happy with him and another mum i know with an ASD child in year 5 is also not confident in his abilitys either. I had no problems in the last 2 years of Ms education there but his statement was up and running and i became good at negotiating with the LEA if they wanted to reduce his support. Will just wait and see for now, have Piers speach therapy appointment booked which i self referred for and at the moment I am just spendind time with them all letting them know they are loved and making them feel secure. We are also going down the star chart route, toileting for Lydia, getting dressed for Piers. So watch this space. DH is concerned but happy to blaime any behaviours they have on Marcus they are just copying him or are stressed because we live in such a stressful house, of course this could also be true so will queitly watch for a short time but I too am the kind if person who wants to know so we can put in place appropriate strategies. However i am concerned that if i push for assessment Dh will blame me for his children having problems and this may just push him over the edge as he is depressed at the moment and feels life is just awful, however he refuses to go to the GP and just mopes around beign negative all the time. So great fun in our house and they wonder why i am stressed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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