SallyAspie Report post Posted November 10, 2008 Does anyone have experience of being a parent with AS? I'm guessing that in some ways it could be a good thing as kids need routine like aspies and we're good at sticking to rules etc. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Delyth Report post Posted November 10, 2008 Hi My partner is an 'Aspie parent' - our children are 19yrs, 9yrs and 7yrs. He struggles to fulfil the parent role in many ways and it is a serious concern for us if ever I should not be able to look after the children, but I do not think this is because of AS in and of itself, but possibly because of the way he has adapted to having AS and NOT adapted to being a father. You mention two aspects of AS - the routines and keeping to rules. For my partner, his 'rigidity' in these matters make for quite a difficult and stifling family life at times, so he works very hard to try and NOT let his need to keep routines become more important than meeting the ever changing needs of those around him as they grow and develop. I think in general, some element of routine and predictability is good for children if the routine serves their current needs, but if not, then the routine can get in the way of life. Some routines help, and some hinder. It's making these judgements that my partner finds difficult. My partner is not good at sticking to house rules - so our house rule, for example, of 'shoes off inside please' is often ignored by him. Best wishes Delyth Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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