loulou Report post Posted May 19, 2005 Hi everyone, I've been into Kai's old school today, to see his record, after the Head told me that there was nothing in it that i didn't already have. Yeah right! I photocopied 11 pages off stuff i didn't have! I've just been reading through it and it's really made me cross. There's alot of things i was never told about and also i don't agree with some of it. I know it's too late now, because the damage has been done, but i'm fuming . There's a "self esteem" check list that has been filled out (i suppose by his teacher), so they were obviously concerned about him, but i was never told. There's also an IEP that i was never told about. There's a report saying how he would refuse to go into the dining room and one day ran out of the school. I wasn't told. That's really upsetting. It also says how he would not sit with the others at registration and would sit behind a table The worst thing i have just read is a report saying how the school has been trying to take relevant and purposeful action to meet Kai's behavioural needs in school. What have thay done to meet his emotional needs? Nothing. I am sooooooo angry at this school. I know i need to get over it and move on, but i'm really struggling with this. My poor little man. No wonder he can't understand why any child would actually like to go to school. Loulou x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hectorshouse Report post Posted May 19, 2005 Good on you for getting them anyway, it is absolutely your right to see these, and by all accounts its a good job you did. Parents are meant to be included in all IEP's being devised, what advice have they sought with regard to the 'behavioural issues' have they been in touch with the EBD advisory teacher? or the Autistic Advisory Teacher? most behavioural issues our children come from the lack of understanding, empathy and acknowledgement of ASD and then you get behavioural issues, resulting in huge emotional problems ... God the more I read about what our children have to go through the more I want to I keep reading things here that are exactly the same as what my T has had to endure, before christmas last year after his 2nd unofficial exclusion he came home and told me he wished he was dead .... OK am taking deep breaths, trying not to scream but when will all this end! HHxx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
annie Report post Posted May 20, 2005 (edited) Hi Loulou, You have every right to feel angry, I would feel like that too. We are supposed to send our children to school, which is meant to be a safe and caring place, yeah right No wonder so many people decide that they would be better off home educating. Annie <'> Edited May 20, 2005 by annie Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kazzdt Report post Posted May 20, 2005 (edited) Hi Loulou This appaulling. We've been very fortunate at our primary school. They haven't always understood Sam but we've worked together every step of the way. You've a right to be upset by this and and far as the episode of him running out of school goes, they were way out of line. Sam threatened to run out of school once and the teachers had me in to talk about what action they could take he did, (restraining him etc) It's a serious issue if any child does this, the parents should always be informed. Hope you can just put the past past behind you and look to the future. Thinking of you <'> Kazz Edited May 21, 2005 by kazzdt Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Carol Report post Posted May 20, 2005 no wonder you are angry - how disgraceful - you mustg be so upset reading about him runniong out of school & never being told - and an iep you didn't see - how incompetent ((((((((hugs)))))) Carol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jericho Report post Posted May 20, 2005 I don't blame you for feeling angry. Poor Kai too. Thank goodness he's now left that awful place. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
