starting to feel angry

[jools]

ok.....so G had his observation yesterday and the lady from cahms was very supportive saying she could see traits from all sorts of things.

 

yesterday i was happy and relieved that i'm not paranoid and making it up.

 

today i'm feeling angry.......angry that school has never given support when i've asked for it, angry that i've been fobbed off by so many people in the past and made to feel paranoid and over protective, angry at myself.....maybe if i'd been more forceful things could have moved a bit quicker, angry that although cahms are supportive this is probably just the start of a battle with school

 

i know i'm not the first person to feel like this but its horrible isn't it!

[CarerQuie]

((((((Jools))))))

 

So often professionals would rather believe that its parents with a problem,rather than kids with special needs.Just harness that anger for any future fights.xx

[baddad]

((((((Jools))))))

 

So often professionals would rather believe that its parents with a problem,rather than kids with special needs.Just harness that anger for any future fights.xx

He wasn't right about much, but Mr J. Lydon hit the nail on the head when he sang (?) "Anger is an energy"...

May the force be with you.

L&P

BD

[lil_me]

<'> I Know all too well how you feel jools, at least you have never given up and are being listened to now

[tizzmeclare]

Hi Jools,

 

I know just how your feeling, my son was 9 before we finally got a diagnosis of AS, even though his traits are so bad and have been since he was around 2 and a half.

 

I just felt so Bl***y responsible for not pushing things faster in the last couple of years since he's been in school (home educated since y1 - school didn't work) and so angry with the school, when finally they did start to do something. I felt that so much time had been wasted, when I and the school, e.t.c could have been doing something.

 

Anyway what I wanted to say was, Carer Quie and baddad are absolutely right, don't get negative, but use that energy as a positive force.

 

tizz

[Zemanski]

It's a very natural reaction - first comes the initial relief that you were right after all and now someone is listening

 

and then comes the reaction to all the stress and abuse you and your child have suffered - not nice at all; I cry and rant alternately

 

take it easy and give yourself time to recover if you can - you can put all that anger to some good use when you've had time to take stock!

 

<'>

 

Zemanski

[jools]

thankyou for the replies........i will definately use this anger in a positive way.

but not today......lol

today i'm feeling very tearful

i feel so stressed about everything.......i think i need a drink or two (but will wait till tonight....honest)

i'll be fine tomorrow when i've got it out of my system.

 

woke G up this morning to find him lying in a bed of sick so he's off school today and i'm staying off work.......would normally ask mum over if any of the kids are poorly but i think we both need the day off!

 

G's caseworker from cahms came last night along with the specialist teacher who i met on monday......she said again that he needs help at school and must get it asap.

she has said she needs to discuss strategies with the school senco.

also if he gets a dx of asd they can then arrange for someone to talk to us and the school about the best way to go about things

they also asked me to fill in the connors rating and left a copy for school to fill in today and they will collect it tomorrow. because its near the end of term they want everything hurried along.

i know its good its all being hurried along but at the same time its a bit scarey.

i've had years of being brushed off and i think i'm still a bit amazed someone wants to help

 

i'm just so glad i can come on here and rant and you know why i need to do it.....lol