Jazzy Report post Posted March 3, 2013 Hello all My son aged 20 has just been diagnosed with Aspergers. He is lonely and spends a lot of time alone in his bedroom on his computer. I wonder if anyone can advise as to how he can meet with people his own age who have the same interests as him. He is quiet and finds it diificult to socialise as when in the company of groups of people he finds it difficult to know what to say. There is a local Aspergers group but there was no-one there in his age group. I wish he could just find a friend who he could meet with now and again. Jazzy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
windylou Report post Posted March 3, 2013 Hello, Jazzy I am also new to this forum.,nd my 8 yr old son has just been diagnosed with Aspergers so I don't think I can be of help really due to the age difference. I just wanted to say hi. I don't know how to word this so please do not take offence at anything I may say. Was your sons diagnosis something that wasn't expected? eg was aspergers pointed out to you and everything went from there? or was it something that you have known all along and has taken sometime to get the diagnosis? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shnoing Report post Posted March 3, 2013 You might give him Luke Jackson: Freaks, Geeks, ... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jazzy Report post Posted March 3, 2013 Hello Both Thanks for taking the time to say hello. In answer to your question regarding my son's diagnosis - i have actually suspected for many years that he had Aspergers but initially thought that he might have ADD. It was only when he became involved with a Mental Health Counsellor who suspected that there was more going on than him suffering from simple anxiety, that he was then referred to a Psychologist who made the diagnosis. It has been a long time coming as he has lots of problems throughout his childhood, but he now feels relieved in a way as he now knows why he behaves the way he does and no longer thinks that he is an 'alien' (his words!). I came across a very interesting website earlier entitled A Survival Guide for People with Aspergers Syndrome by Mark Segar who also had a diagnosis himself. My son has found this very interesting and perhaps it might be useful for any young person struggling to understand some of the 'unwritten' rules of the world. I have also read about a befriending/buddy scheme available in some areas which allows young people access to a 'friend' who can accompany them on days out etc, in order to gain confidence. I am hoping to find out more about this. I would also appreciate any further suggestions if available. Thanks Jazzy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
windylou Report post Posted March 4, 2013 Hello Jazzy, While surfing the wonderful world wide web for strategies to help my son, I have seen this chat site mentioned many times http://www.wrongplanet.net/ it is for adults with Asperger's, it has live chat and also forums which your son could use. I know that this wouldn't help with helping him to leave the comfort of his room but maybe if he was to become a part of a community with similar difficulties, it may help to boost his self esteem and maybe open the door to other possibilties. What are your sons interests? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
trekster Report post Posted March 4, 2013 Hello and welcome, age isn't a problem for me when finding friends. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shnoing Report post Posted March 6, 2013 ... website earlier entitled A Survival Guide for People with Aspergers Syndrome by Mark Segar who also had a diagnosis himself. ... A bit ambivalent, as he did not ... I found it complicated enough to read, at (then) 37 or so. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lyndalou Report post Posted March 6, 2013 Aspie Village is a UK based forum. I know someone who uses this forum and they go along to meetups which I believe are arranged throughout the country from time to time and (I think) there's also live chat. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
trekster Report post Posted March 6, 2013 Aspie village is closed this month. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shnoing Report post Posted March 8, 2013 Further reading: http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2007/aug/07/health.medicineandhealth Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
