tracey Report post Posted July 29, 2005 Anyone else have this problem stupidly allowed my teenage daughter to buy some glittery aladdin type shoes yesterday (material with little gems sewn in them) sat in the shop ages explaining thet would soon get spoilt and wouldnt last. she begged and pleaded saying she wouldnt worry. Today is a different story panicking already checking them every 2 minuites this is before they have actually been worn Cursing myself for letting her get them but it seems such a shame not to let her have pretty things Once shes had them abit I know this will wear off and she'll relax (a little) but now its obsession of the moment T Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ceecee Report post Posted July 29, 2005 I can understand this.I have mild aspergers myself but I also have ocd.Part of the way that my ocd affects me is everything must be perfect and nothing must get damaged lost or broken.Not just my stuff but my childrens too.I can feel very stressed if something isnt perfect.I bet you are thinking shes odd!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tracey Report post Posted July 29, 2005 hI ceecee My daughter has always been like this so I should probobly be used to it by now. Its just that as shes got older the result of a blow out when her things do get damaged are far worse I try my best to keep her calm but when things do get spoilt she can trash her room and be aggressive and you cannot reason with her I hoped as she got older this problem would calm down, how wrong can I get. T Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amanda32 Report post Posted July 29, 2005 (edited) Hi Tracey I can understand what your saying as it's too much money to waste in the end if they destroy their clothes or even things in the house. My son destroys things in frustration/anger, if he cant do anything such as pulling his zip up tidy, putting shoes on anything really clothes/computer/xbox etc he gets very frustrated. He has a tantrum and he doesn't care about the affects of his actions. He needs to calm down, if we go out and he wants me to buy him something I may say no because he has alot of things anyway so he tells me to shut up. The best way for me to get him to look after his toys, clothes etc I punish him by banning him from certain activities for a day and so on if he gets destructive..seems to work SOMETIMES.. Take care Amanda Edited July 29, 2005 by Amanda32 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tracey Report post Posted July 30, 2005 Hi Amanda Most punishments dont seem to work with my daughter because at the time she is so focused on the item when it gets spoilt. The thing is she is so careful with her things so that they stay in perfect condition that when things happen to them she cannot understand why. I try and tell her not to worry so much and just enjoy the things, which she does try but cant seem to let go and relax, she knows shes a worrier and it really gets her down. T Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
