something_different Report post Posted January 4, 2006 well i asked one of my online 'friends' who has met me a couple of times if he noticed anything about me. I did not mention AS or give him any cues as to what type on info i was looking for here is what i got... i was surprised when i met you i have never met anyone like you before i know you said you were shy but you were just too shy people who say they are shy are not like you I thought you were unusually quiet yes, never seen anyone as quiet as you before you dont seem shy just dont like to speak you dont make much eye contatc you seem a bit insecure about who you are he also mentioned how i am wirth food, i'm so fussy, and never ate when i was with him. hmmm, kind of confirms that i am a bit different, i said i was weird but he said he wouldn't say i was weird i was just 'different' I said what he had told me was a great help that made him a bit confused though as he didn't really know why i was asking Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
adamsmum Report post Posted January 4, 2006 It was brave to meet this man i bet you was nervouse. Will you tell him about AS or keep it private. Do you know for defanat you have AS. It sounds like you cope well with it Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
something_different Report post Posted January 4, 2006 Hi I am unsure as to weather i have AS or not thats why i asked his opinion and did not mention anything that might lead him on to say those things i wanted to see what he came up with on his own. and i only met him, because i have no friends other than those online, and i feel i need some sort of friendship offline. it didn't work out though. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OPooh Report post Posted January 4, 2006 i have no friends other than those online, and i feel i need some sort of friendship offline. it didn't work out though. Why do you think that is? Do you think it's because you are underconfident? I hope you get to be very good friends and feel you can tell him. Hope you find many more friends offline too (if that's what you desire) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Viper Report post Posted January 4, 2006 Sd, I hope you are careful when you meet people you talk to online. It is a dangerous world out there and you should always meet in a public place and never go to their house. You should also tell someone where you are going and make sure you have a mobile phone to stay in contact. I know you probably already know all this but being a mum I feel I have to say it anyway. Have you ever tried to get a diagnosis of AS? It may help you understand more about yourself if you had a reason for the way you are and help others understand you better. OLmum Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
something_different Report post Posted January 4, 2006 Thanx mum Yes i do know all the percautions to take when meeting people from online. But thanx for caring about me. And about the diagnosis thing i have thought about it, and thought about it a lot I really don't know weather i am just shy, or if their is more to it? Thats why i asked his opinion. I don't think I would meet him again, but he has been a good help in telling me what he thought of me. So am still working out why i am the way i am at the moment. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
something_different Report post Posted January 4, 2006 Why do you think that is? Do you think it's because you are underconfident? I have no friends off line (in person) because i find it much more difficult to communicate with people in person. I find msn and yahoo a lot easyer to use. PMs on here and e-mails are even more easyer for me to use as i have the time to think about what i want to say, andh ave time to gather my thoughts and words, unlike msn and yahoo as they are 'real time' conversations. so thats why my friends are all online Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Viper Report post Posted January 4, 2006 Sd, maybe you could go to your GP and tell him how you feel. If you find it hard to talk to him write down what you would like to say and let him read it. Then he can give you advice on what help you can get. Do you have any of the symptoms of AS, like obsessions, not liking to be touched etc? Or is it just that you are very shy? OLmum. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DAS999 Report post Posted January 4, 2006 Be carefull on line my GF had a bad experience. It can be a nasty online world. GP is a good idea. Best of luck <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
something_different Report post Posted January 5, 2006 thanx I need a bit of time to try to explain OLmum every time i try to i mess it up Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OPooh Report post Posted January 5, 2006 I have no friends off line (in person) because i find it much more difficult to communicate with people in person. I find msn and yahoo a lot easyer to use. PMs on here and e-mails are even more easyer for me to use as i have the time to think about what i want to say, andh ave time to gather my thoughts and words, unlike msn and yahoo as they are 'real time' conversations. so thats why my friends are all online I think maybe you just need some more patient friends offline - people who will give you time to think and stuff. Where you find them I don't know though - unless you lived by me - becuase I would try my best Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
something_different Report post Posted January 5, 2006 ah thanx OPooh Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nikrix Report post Posted January 5, 2006 Hi something_different I know things are hard for you at the moment and I hope you find what you are looking for. I always enjoy talking to you. I hope you will become more confidident and make friends. We are all different in our ways and I think it is hard for a lot of us when we first meet someone. I don't know the answers for you, but I am sure in time you will meet someone you just click with. Nikirx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
something_different Report post Posted January 5, 2006 I used to think that too nikrix that i would meet someone who i would click with, but now i don't think so. I don't talk all that much to people i know very well (family) never mind to new people. People say it is difficult having a one sided conversation all the time. I am very confident in other ways I would rather jump out of a plane and do a parachute jump than have a 'normal' conversation with someone. (i have done parachute jumps and other daring things) those are a LOT easyer than socialising. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
baddad Report post Posted January 5, 2006 Hi SD - At the risk of sounding overly 'twee' there's a great saying (attributed to Kate Bush's mum on one of her album tracks) "Every old sock meets an old shoe"... You never know, one day you might be getting ready to jump out of a plane and the bloke next to you says "Lovely view from up here, isn't it..." It's not how things start, it's how they finish that matters... Whatever it is YOU want, I'm sure you'll find it... It may not be what other people might want, but happinness IS a personal construct. Who knows it might just be a NEW SOFA and a cup of hot chocolate! Very best BD Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
something_different Report post Posted January 6, 2006 thanx BD Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
