Jessica's_mum Report post Posted January 19, 2006 Hi all Iwas given this link from a friend on another site, I have had a few issues about my little girl and someone mentioned to me it sounded like aspergers, I have to be honest I dont know anyone with aspergers or maybe do but havent realised and I dont know what I'm looking for so if its ok I will tell you a little about Jessica. She is my third child and is 4 yrs old, I also have twins aged 9 who have tic disorders (possible tourettes but not as yet diagnosed) the twins have displayed vocal and motor tics for 5 yrs now but the consultant is reluctant to say its ts even though the criteria is met because according to him it doesnt effect them enough, so they have a diagnoses of chronic tic disorder at the moment. Jessica was a healthy weight at birth but very demanding and spent a lot of time just crying, she didnt sleep through until after 2 yrs old, she has never been very confident with people, and for the first yr would not even as a tiny baby be held by anyone else other than me by the time she was 1 she would go to her dad too. If people speak to her family or otherwise a lot of the time she just puts her head down and ignores them, they just think shes very shy which sometimes she appears to be but other times she looks as if shes bubbling with confidence. The first time I became a little concerned about Jessica was last september when she went back to preschool, they had introduced a new thing when she went in she had to find ehr name and put it in the pot, for weeks she kept telling me she didnt want to go and the staff even said she was not her usual self and had been seen wandering round looking sad at times, it all came back to the introduction of a the new pot and name thing, it took her 4 weeks to even consider picking up her name and even now she most of the time will just refuse to do it and I end up having to do it for her. She also didnt like the fact she had to sit down on the mat when I left her, they have recently changed this to just being able to go in and play which Jessica has taken too very well. She has shown some signs of tics over the last yr but at the moment I'm still working out whether they are or not given her age, she has had throat clearing come back twice and also licking, she went through a phase recently which lasted about a month where she licked all her toys, me, her dad and brothers, my coat, the railings at school and even once licked the outside bin. Thankfully this seems to have passed and the licking is now rare perhaps once a week or fortnight. She has a set group of friends at school who she gets on very well with, she does hit her brothers a lot but not had any reports that she is doing this in school as I know she just cant cope with being told off. She seems to get on well with her teachers in school but out of school she will put her head down and refuse to talk to them. The last couple of days she has been doing a high pitched scream..not constant but a various times such as yesterday it was when the bell rang at school and three times on our walk to her preschool which is 5 minutes away. I'm not sure what else if anything I need to be looking at or whether she has any signs of aspergers, hope you can help, any advice would be appreciated. Thankyou Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
UltraMum Report post Posted January 19, 2006 Hi Jessica's_mum and welcome. It's difficult for any of us to give advice on something like this - have a read through some of the threads in the discussion forums and see what you can glean from there but I think part of the problem is that there are so many things that this might or might not relate to. The best advice I can give is that I think that if you have some concerns then you need to see your GP, in the first instance, and tell him your concerns re your daughter, he would then be able to refer you to the appropriate people to follow this up. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ceecee Report post Posted January 19, 2006 I too would agree with mother eve, might be a good idea to see your g.p and voice your concerns to him. Welcome to the forum.Stick around it's full of knowledge and experience Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica's_mum Report post Posted January 19, 2006 Thanks very much for your advice, I will stick around and have a read of other peoples views and experiences, I have just started keeping a diary. When I took her to preschool before they had changed the routine to going straight outside to play she was not happy at all and one of the staff come over and said oh she doesnt like this bit, its ok Jessica you can go back inside, she was fine as soon as she was back inside its strange because at home she loves to play out but at school she doesnt like it. Anyway thanks again Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Report post Posted January 19, 2006 Hi Jessica's mum, I agree with Mother Eve too. I think a diary is a good idea. You can record everything you notice, however trivial it seems at the time and then see if a pattern emerges over time. If you do decide to go down the route of referral and diagnosis, you will be asked in detail about your child's behaviour and your notes will come in useful then. Welcome to the forum, by the way, and do keep posting and asking questions. K Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Suze Report post Posted January 19, 2006 Hi Jessicas mum, have a look on Tony Attwoods site(you,ll find the link in resources section), you,ll find a few pointers to look for re Aspergers, that may help.Does your daughter spin, line up toys, flick her fingers in front of her eyes?..............is she a fussy eater?.........obsessed with certain video,s..or toys?Does she cover her ears or eyes in noisy or crowded situations?........I would note anything that appears relevant or slightly unusual, keeping the diary is an excellent idea ,if the nursery staff could note Jessicas quirks aswell this will all help if you come to persue a diagnosis.This forum though has a wealth of information I,m sure you,ll find the answers you need here, good luck Suzex. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
UltraMum Report post Posted January 19, 2006 I have just started keeping a diary. Excellent idea! May be an idea to get the pre-school to put their concerns in writing as well - more ammo for the visit to the GP. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
neda Report post Posted January 20, 2006 Can't the pre-school get an ed psych to come in. I approached my little boy's nursery about my worries about his behaviour, because they were noticing this as well, they suggested hearing test and speech therapist checks. I had already had these done, they asked if I would allow them to have the educational psychologist involved. He had a meeting with myself and HT of nursery and agreed formal assessment was necessary and this has now begun. I'm in Scotland so not sure if its different down south. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jill Report post Posted January 20, 2006 I agree wholeheartedly with Neda. It was our son's private nursery that suggested getting the Ed Psych in (we didn't realise there was anything wrong, with The Boy being an only one). If you do this then the ball will start rolling & things should come clearer (it's hard when you find out, but MUCH better than not knowing as you can start to help your child so much more.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DaisyProudfoot Report post Posted January 20, 2006 Hi JM, Welcome to the forum - I would agree with Mother Eve - get as much evidence as possible and go to your GP. I don't know what age they can give an official dx of AS but its worth knowing as much as you can if the signs are there as it will help Jessica a lot. Take care, Daisy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
