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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team

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  3. Venting over argument with bully online.

    Unfortunately, I've had my work cut out for me with online imbeciles too. There's not much you can do besides getting a new alias, because things that happen in a virtual environment are hard to report, unless you know who the person is who is pestering you. Even then, local law enforcement rarely act on reports and if the person lives overseas, expect to fork out a lot of cash finding a lawyer. I know it's hard to stop Internet harassment completely, as I also tried to pinpoint who was causing this abuse, and gave up hope. I've been put through stressful situations too. One guy follows me around forums, puts my videos on torrent sites, edits Wikia pages about me, adds films I'm in on other databases, and harassed me on a forum a few months ago, where I was even unfairly banned, just because he asked them to. Without any moderators, the administrator just got rid of me to shut him up, but he returned anyway, because he probably suspected I'd try to post there again with a different account. He knows where to find my videos even if I don't publicly list them on YouTube, because of where they are embedded. He knows what things I like to talk about too, which is why he found me on so many other sites and started harassing me even more. Well, I know what state he lives in, but I'm not in America. He lives in New Jersey. The police need to act on complaints, every single time something occurs, because small amounts of abuse can quickly expand.
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  5. A few final notes and I am saying this because in a few discussions with some friends, some of them jumped all over me. I heard everything from why are you so mean to it's none of your business to why do you care. The answer is this. I seek out the truth, information, listen to what others say because the more I know about such things the more I will (hopefully) be able to help. I am saying there is nothing mean spirited intended in my post here. Before, (due to my research) we learned the boy has Aspergers, I often wondered, why is he so selfish, why is he rude, why does he never shut up about history, why when people in the room with him tune out his rambling does he not get the signal to shut up. And from reading and talking. Now I know. Ciao Ciao
  6. Also. I don't know why under my name it says Norfolk Broads. I didnt put it there. Just sayin.
  7. Hi. I am new here. I have but one issue to discuss. My fiance's 19 year old son (5 ft 10, 200 pounds) is a great guy. I am "the" father figure in his life as well as good friend. He is a riot. Honour roll into University. Great sense of humour. He has most of the typical symptoms of Aspergers. What I would like some feeback on is this. He regularly crawls on his mom when she is lounging and kisses her on the face, sometimes on the lips. He also regularly comes down in his housecoat and hugs his mom kind of in the way a couple does. Kind of. He regularly kisses her arms and hands. He constantly nuzzles his face in her neck and kisses it. He often calls to his mom in the morning and asks his mom to come and give him a hug before he gets out of bed. He does so in a baby voice. I should have said this before. When he does these things he does it in a baby like voice. His mom thinks it's okay and hey, maybe it is. He has never been out on a date. Has no interest in doing so. I will say this. If he ever brought a date home and his date watched him crawl all over his mom I guarantee you his date would run for the hills. (Again I am not saying it is right or wrong). Recently his uncle visited and he said to his uncle, " wanna see how I snuggle with mom?" He then crawled on his uncle the way he crawls on his mom. Afterwards his uncle pulled me aside and expressed (in his words) "how creeped out he was by it". Is this a case of "not "getting" the social cues? As in he has no idea that right or wrong, this sort of behaviour is not cool or kosher as it were? I understand there are two issue here. One being the teenagers behaviour the other being his mom allowing it. I could have gone on with more examples but most of you probably get the gist of what I am asking. Any input would be much appreciated. Thank you in advance.
  8. Hi, Just finished a selection of artworks that are expressions of my autistic state. This is my site mraspie.com which if anybody wishes to take a look please feel free. Thanks
  9. Books on ASD suggestions please.

    Jessica Kingsley Publishers have a lot of books on the subject: http://www.jkp.com/uk/autism-and-related-conditions.html
  10. Sorry if I sound cynical, but when I read this supposedly heartwarming story I had a bad feeling about it: Sister asks the internet to help celebrate her autistic brother's 21st birthday Remember Craig Shergold?
  11. site working now? hi there,im from manchester

    Hi, Trekster. Of course there are things which can be done to make life better, that's partly what I meant by learning to live with it. Ivan.
  12. site working now? hi there,im from manchester

    There are other things we can do to make life easier for ourselves like finding autistic friendly spaces, going off gluten and dairy. There are some folk who believe chelation and other treatments can help their or their childs autism.
  13. My parents totally ignored my disabilities. They really seemed to think that if I did well at school and passed exams everything would be alright. They didn't think beyond that, about what sort of career I might have taken up. They only cared about academic stuff and failed to see that the education I really needed was in social areas. Thinking about it afterwards I concluded that they behaved in this way because they were teachers and couldn't think beyond what they'd been brainwashed with in university. I passed a few O-levels, which have never been of the slightest use to me. I had no intentions of carrying out my parents' dreams of further education as that just smacked of more school and I'd had enough of that. My first job was a disaster. I couldn't get on with the other staff. The boss was very kind and tried really hard to understand me but couldn't. I drifted round various other jobs before I realised that I did best working by myself. Even then, I had problems with time management etc. Because I seemed to be "bright" I was completely let down both by my parents and by the educational system. It was life skills I needed, not algebra. Ivan
  14. I wouldn't have thought that the army culture would be appropriate for many aspies, little scope for individuality, huge pressure to comform, crude humour etc. Probably even worse than mainstream school. However I'm sure that many aspies gave their lives for their country in various wars. Ivan
  15. site working now? hi there,im from manchester

    Asperger's can be utterly disabling, far more than some people think, and the only "cure" is to learn to live with it.
  16. The objective of the Internship Program is giving a chance to students with the opportunity to relate their academic learning in the course of study to a proper work environment. This experience will improve their ability to adapt when joining the workforce in the future. Internships are programs where higher education meets employment. An internship Program may be structured with a Major Project. Internship program allows students to get some important experience from an organization while studying at college/university. Here are some definitions, Internship is: Please Help. Thanks ! I didn't find the right solution from the internet. References: -http://educoop.com/threads/5826-11-What-is-your-main-focus-while-choosing-your-internship-institute -animated videos
  17. The objective of the Internship Program is giving a chance to students with the opportunity to relate their academic learning in the course of study to a proper work environment. This experience will improve their ability to adapt when joining the workforce in the future. Internships are programs where higher education meets employment. An internship Program may be structured with a Major Project. Internship program allows students to get some important experience from an organization while studying at college/university. Here are some definitions, Internship is: Please Help. Thanks ! I didn't find the right solution from the internet. References: -http://educoop.com/threads/5826-11-What-is-your-main-focus-while-choosing-your-internship-institute -animated videos
  18. hello, M wanted to be a gunner in the Army (Defence Force). He was a young, sensible and studious man at 20 and was about to complete a course at Computer Power Institute. During the latter part of his course, he worked in IT part time and went to full time after graduating, assisting with the new photo Driver Licence Register; updating database tables, moving GUI screens, generating systems and providing administrative support. When he was ready to apply for the Army, their response was, “You have experience and an IT qualification and you could be more help in the technical arena!”. He completed a couple of extra tests and was assigned to the Signalling Core as a Communications Systems Officer, where he stayed for two years. Please Help. Thanks ! I didn't find the right solution from the internet. References: -https://bettereducation.com.au/forum/yaf_postst7186_Serving-in-the-Defence-Force-with-an-IT-Qualification.aspx -explainer videos
  19. hello, M wanted to be a gunner in the Army (Defence Force). He was a young, sensible and studious man at 20 and was about to complete a course at Computer Power Institute. During the latter part of his course, he worked in IT part time and went to full time after graduating, assisting with the new photo Driver Licence Register; updating database tables, moving GUI screens, generating systems and providing administrative support. When he was ready to apply for the Army, their response was, “You have experience and an IT qualification and you could be more help in the technical arena!”. He completed a couple of extra tests and was assigned to the Signalling Core as a Communications Systems Officer, where he stayed for two years. Please Help. Thanks ! I didn't find the right solution from the internet. References: -https://bettereducation.com.au/forum/yaf_postst7186_Serving-in-the-Defence-Force-with-an-IT-Qualification.aspx -explainer videos
  20. hello, M wanted to be a gunner in the Army (Defence Force). He was a young, sensible and studious man at 20 and was about to complete a course at Computer Power Institute. During the latter part of his course, he worked in IT part time and went to full time after graduating, assisting with the new photo Driver Licence Register; updating database tables, moving GUI screens, generating systems and providing administrative support. When he was ready to apply for the Army, their response was, “You have experience and an IT qualification and you could be more help in the technical arena!”. He completed a couple of extra tests and was assigned to the Signalling Core as a Communications Systems Officer, where he stayed for two years. Please Help. Thanks ! I didn't find the right solution from the internet. References: -https://bettereducation.com.au/forum/yaf_postst7186_Serving-in-the-Defence-Force-with-an-IT-Qualification.aspx -explainer videos
  21. hello, M wanted to be a gunner in the Army (Defence Force). He was a young, sensible and studious man at 20 and was about to complete a course at Computer Power Institute. During the latter part of his course, he worked in IT part time and went to full time after graduating, assisting with the new photo Driver Licence Register; updating database tables, moving GUI screens, generating systems and providing administrative support. When he was ready to apply for the Army, their response was, “You have experience and an IT qualification and you could be more help in the technical arena!”. He completed a couple of extra tests and was assigned to the Signalling Core as a Communications Systems Officer, where he stayed for two years. Please Help. Thanks ! I didn't find the right solution from the internet. References: -https://bettereducation.com.au/forum/yaf_postst7186_Serving-in-the-Defence-Force-with-an-IT-Qualification.aspx -explainer videos
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    Hello. Thank you for letting me join your forum. I am 68 years old and I had never even heard of asperger's till I was 50. I had a terrible time at High School and always had trouble socialising. As I got older my socialising improved in familiar situations purely through experience but I could still get it horribly wrong in unfamiliar circumstances. Mostly by myself I succeeded in some ways and really struggled in others. I had at least two breakdowns caused by stress and socialising problems. I saw a psychiatric nurse, a hypnotherapist and an alcohol counsellor. None of them were much help. Eventually, when I was 50 I went to see another counsellor. He listened to all my woes and then lent me a book on Asperger Syndrome and told me to go and read it. It was a revelation. As I read it I kept saying "that's me". At last I knew what was wrong and that I wasn't the only one in the world. I've never had an official diagnosis and don't want one but so much of what I've read about Asperger's and observed in other sufferers applies to me. Now in old age I feel much more adapted to my condition although there is no 'cure' and you never grow out of it. I'm hoping that I may be of some help to others on this forum. Ivan
  23. What is your experience learning to drive.

    I'm a 68 year-old aspie who's been driving since I was 17. I think my driving was pretty terrible back then but the test was easy then and I seem to have improved over the years. I remember my driving instructor saying things like "keep in" and I just didn't understand what he meant. Recently I gave a young friend of mine some driving lessons with mixed success. I gave instructions in a way which made sense to me but, apparently not to him. For example, I said "Stay close to the middle of the roundabout" and he thought I meant to drive in the middle of the two lanes. To him, the middle of the roundabout was the middle of the road, to me it was the grass thing that the road goes around. We just see things different ways. So my advice to the driving instructor who started this thread is try to make sure that you use terminology that your student will understand.
  24. They now have an office in London: Want to solve the trickiest problems in the workplace? Employ more autistic people
  25. New member

    Hello everyone, this is my first post and not sure what to say really or where to start. I am a female in my mid 50s, diagnosed with OCD four years ago but having watched that Chris Packham programme last week, and done some Googling since, I am pretty certain that I am an aspie. So much of what he said rang a bell, a loud one, with me. I was pronounced as "gifted" as a child, had a reading age of 12+ at age 7 and ever since I can remember, have had seriously heavy duty obsessions. I can remember basically living in my own world (my own never ending adventures in a serialised tv programme which I refused to miss - ever). My parents used to organise outings etc and stuff for us to do, but told me on many occasions that as I never showed any emotion, they could never tell if I was having a good time. I was pretty well behaved at school although, especially when younger, played up a bit if I thought rules were childish or stupid, hence my parents weren't strangers to the head's office. My obsessions have varied over the years and have included rock stars and actors, for whom I have gone to great lengths to follow their careers (and in one case, actually get to know as I was seeing him so often) but, without exception, each one has taken centre stage in my life and, when not required to think about work etc, occupied the remainder of my thoughts and my number one priority. I have always felt a bit "different", a bit out of step with the world, but have managed to make and keep friends and get married to a very understanding man who just accepts my idiosyncrasies. I find comfort in eating the same things all the time, learn routes and stick to them when driving (even when it would make more sense to go another way) and find animals much easier company than humans. I struggle to maintain eye contact when talking to people, hate small talk (which I find boring and pointless), like being on my own a lot, in fact I need to be on my own a lot. I get lost in hotels and restaurants a lot, feel sometimes that my public interactions in shops and what not are, well, not the norm (whatever that is) as I tend to make off the wall comments that others find, well, odd. I also talk to myself, out loud, and do the rehearse thing if I need to tell someone news. I am not sure what all the above adds up to, but if I am aspie then many things make more sense than they did and I find comfort in the fact that this may explain why I am like I am and help me in the future to worry less about being who I am and trying to fit in. So, there you are, that's it for now.
  26. News article

    Could this game with its ability to help people mentally better filter out noise, be of use to Autistic people (perhaps reduce overwhelming due to noise): http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-4993574/Brain-training-game-help-people-understand-speech.html Sorry about duplicate posting, shortly after the first attempt there was an error message which lead me to believe that the post hadn't been posted.
  27. News article

    Could this game with its ability to help people mentally better filter out noise, be of use to Autistic people (perhaps reduce overwhelming due to noise): http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-4993574/Brain-training-game-help-people-understand-speech.html
  28. BBC Chris Packham - Aspergers and me

    An excellent program well worth watching.
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