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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team

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    Some great information here, thanks
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  4. "Cat café" offers free sessions for autistics

    In Japan there's even one on a train! Passengers enjoy Japan's first cat café on a moving train
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  6. Hi everyone, I am still looking for people to interview (Skype or online text chat messaging) as I am seeking your insight (as part of my masters research) about your past educational experience and how we can make education a more positive experience for children with HFA. If you have HFA /Aspergers yourself I would really value your input! My email address is lydiabeeuk@yahoo.co.uk. The project has full ethical approval through the university of Nottingham. Many thanks! Lydia
  7. Ok so I started a simple discussion on a website I mentioned before, que one of the regular guys who loves to think hes clever saying his was X opinion, I ask him to explain why and just got back "because its my opinion" so I give him a few questions to why he thinks that trying to be careful what I say as this guy always twists things and he still did that challenging my opinion as wrong and trying to get across only his opinion is right, and saying what I found mildly offensive opinions till eventually I said he was stirring things and he was like "no im not, I demand an apology" and how I was the one stirring as I couldn't handle other peoples opinions even when they were valid (shows the attitude he has) each time trying to make himself seem to be more and more morally superior. I have been very ill the last week and had enough and threw my keyboard at screen shattering it, so now have a broken screen due to this guys attitude. I did get agressive back and said im blocking further communication with him and some colourful words, im expecting him to justify that as me being a terrible person and him calm and intelligent.
  8. greetings

    This is where our prognosis differs, milo. agreed. en totale... and 3. and 4. 5. 6. 7 and 8 are accepted. 9. dear milo. i would only add that the fact that it bothers you /not/ to go there, is where my concerns lay. having been a student, for want of a better term, or rather a time served apprentice, of the 'abuse' system, i am maintaining my position that to participate in the nas debacle any further would only 'bother' me. even now, i am co-opted by peerage into a discussion regarding the shortfalls (and pitfalls) of that institution - alas there seems no getting away from the nas and it's decomposition.... what a whiff! touching briefly on your observances - yes, i had been aware (and am aware) that the site has the psychology embedded in it. even now, the offer of 'participating in a vote' is a classic abuse tactic - the pretense of choice, and thus the lure, for the abused to yet again engage and perpetuate the cycle of abuse by willing co-operation in the hope that the outcome will be successful. *heavy sigh* monkey traps. not very sophisticated, still ensnare effectively. i find the nas' approach increasingly exposes the 'indirect accountability' pattern. ie there is no direct accountability, instead there is the fog of faceless bureaucratic piecemeal to achieve the illusion of 'inclusion' and 'consultation' where none exists. one would never be able to get past the parapet, and instead remain in the killing field as those aloft looked down using their arrows in moderation. the nas clearly is using is users to beta-test a system which should already have been tested, and insomuch as carry out a partisan social experiment at the same time. war by attrition. my question would be: was a consultation not already carried out? the answer of course is yes. therefore, why have another one? were the issues being raised by users not already raised? and if the answer is no, which of course it would be, then the next question is WHY. of course, if the answer if yes (issues were raised by users in the consultation process) then again WHY were they not acted upon? either way, yes or no, it highlights a flaw in the consultation process and furthermore, indicates the direction of the cause. UP. upline. to the decision makers.... wherein, of course, the power ultimately lays. all else is illusion. look to the place which cannot be seen... the hidden from view.... moriarty.... meanwhile, i shall enjoy the sun, the fruits of the earth of the garden - very good apples this year! - and i shall remain here, in quieter more peaceful surrounds unencumbered by the hoi-polloi as ever, your faithful sherlock f.
  9. Learning to interact with people

    I sometimes search how to interact or how to start conversation. It helps me sometimes ^_^
  10. Help with a few things

    Why not go out with the family. Have vacation.
  11. I dont have children yet but learned a few things by reading here hehe
  12. Eating problems

    Had the same situation before but i just tried eating vegetables and fruits.
  13. Social Anxiety and confidence

    Try not to overthink Just think positive. Everything will be alright and the right person will be there soon.
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    1.) Well with the co-morbid lobotomy, necrophilia and the rotting corpse theme being somewhat premature at this stage of things, what with the proverbial necrosis currently being by far more analogous to gangrene, an amputation of sorts is though as such required, and reconstructive surgery is certainly not impossible. The N.A.S. is also learning this (for however long that may take) but denial and transference of responsibility was of course not in anyway unexpected, as is more usually the case with habitually embedded NT behaviour patterns as involve at least psychological humiliation and annihilation anyway, or of course more simply put ~ 'normalised abuse' or 'antisocial behaviour'. This I went about explaining in the "switzerland posts" as you describe them, with the present summation there in the other place being as now more relevant apparently here as follows: 2.) "N.T. society currently shares in and enforces psychological humiliation; according to the habitual and thus pervasive repercussions of generalised ageism, sexism and tribalism. The importance of being younger or older, more or less masculine or feminine, and more or less numerous and deserving of means and resources ~ depends upon the physiological humiliation and annihilation of one or more other people, or peoples. 3.) Thus as such a state of mass-psychosis exists, as being a traumatised habituation of psychological inferiority ~ involving to various extents and degrees a variable add-mixture of inferiorities, mediocrities and superiorities, which have been developing >societally< since about 1500 B.C., as is therefore in general considered normal, and acceptable for the most part in terms of being traditional. 4.) Hence for the most part there is a pervasiveness of normalised and therefore concurrent abuse going in N.T. society, as you may or not recall happening as you grew up, and those conforming to it in the sense of having Inferior Inferiority Complex; they very much need affirmation or validation until the depravation of affirmation is ameliorated ~ just as for instance someone dying of dehydration needs progressive rehydration with fluids and minerals so as to live; for as long as that may be required. 5.) For those who have Mediocre Inferiority Complex, they do not seem to be so dehydrated, and those with Superior Inferiority Complex - seemingly even less dehydrated. But the thing is of course that drinking the proverbial seawater and effluence of normalised abuse is both a dehydration and an intoxication of sorts; all in itself, and hence we have the addictive and unwitting nature of social abuse ~ so as to gain compassion and understanding. 6.) Being consumed by individualised elitism (as in the psyche-analytical sense of being possessed of an inferiority complex) is one way of learning what is not to be done, and as such smarting or wising up to this or growing out of it eventually is to be done by way of affirming life. 7.) Everyone then has their personal path to tread and journey to make, and every step taken is increasingly more meaningful as a comprehensive understanding of our particular types of consciousness; our particular characteristics of experience, and the specialisations of our awareness ~ as directly and indirectly corresponds with everyone and everything else in >at least< the material environment." 8.) So as returning to your question: 9.) It is certainly not the responsibility of community members to do the moderators work for them, being that each community member is responsible for their personal interactions, and regardless of whether it is wittingly or unwittingly done in jest or not ~ antisocial behaviour (i.e. inverted insults etcetera) remains as normalised abuse however much it is characteristically dressed up or not as being otherwise. I merely address or ask then for clarifications regarding architectural ambiguities in linguistic structures that appear not to be concretely grounded, or as may be excessively abstracted, as they are rather nonsensical and counter-productive as far as I am concerned ~ which we have already discussed previously. 10.) Now as far as pressurising myself goes, your concerns are thankfully acknowledged, but are no longer relevant, as conversing with you has helped make lighter work of things regarding the nonsense of the other place, and I have also been progressively regaining my composure and maintaining my progressive gait once again anyway. So as your questioning appears to follow a "Why bother?" theme, the answer quite simply is that it is no bother for me, whereas attempting to do otherwise is.
  15. greetings

    there comes a point when even the most inept individual realises that death is part of life, and that attempting to resuscitate a rotting corpse leaves a bad taste in the mouth.
  16. greetings

    There is a 'Poll: should the Community keep the Leader Board? Please Vote.' post by NAS Moderator, with last voting day being 31/08/17. If you feel so inclined to do so of course?
  17. attention research students before you post.....

    That's a great reminder Ma'am..Thank you!
  18. Choosing the most suitable job

    Do you have a problem with multi-tasking? try to apply online jobs.
  19. I don't like Facebook...

    wow!! Expensive Talent Fee huh! sounds funny with extras.
  20. It's hard to relate when you don't have it, sorry dear!
  21. How's your son right now? did you consider counseling?
  22. Yvonne27 - I agree with mina that if there are really serious problems at school you should consider home educating. There are many supportive groups out there.
  23. Awarded PIP

    They are making it harder to get benefits. Given that the PIP is about money, I'm wondering why that excerpt is focusing on things that would require some kind of support worker. Is that what it was for? I know someone who got money to pay for a few hours of support work. It seems like you have to demonstrate some crisis-level of need, like you're about to try killing yourself...
  24. site working now? hi there,im from manchester

    ProudAutie - sounds like you may have had a difficult time. I know what you mean about animals - my cats are far easier to deal with than humans. Interesting that you have that wide musical interest. I'll listen to Jazz and Classical as well as some quite extreme metal music...
  25. Newbie here

    trekster, do you mean "parent of autistic child" or "autistic parent"?
  26. I've actually registered before under the name "raenur", tried to log back in recently and found that account had been banned for some reason. However I posted so little and so long ago that I may as well start again... Starting with essential data: Single father with two children, and they primarily live with me. I was diagnosed in 2012 as far as I recall. I work with computers which fortunately leads me to get paid reasonably well. The marriage that produced my children was highly stressful and miserable, and I'm not sure how I managed to keep going through it. I was stronger than I was giving myself credit for at the time because I was suffering from depression. It's a bit difficult to summarise my life without making it sound terrible! I think it's hard to sound positive when you've mostly experienced life through depression and isolation. I've got a tendency to sound like Marvin (you know, the depressed robot from the Hitchhiker's Guide) Now that I have children I tend to relate more to them than Adults. I have often played computer games as an escape and this is something we can do together. Generally what has sustained me is my interests, which are of course quite solitary. Reading about Philoshopy, Economics, History, Psychology more recently, history of British Railways because why not? I watch Anime, read Manga. Very rarely will I read fiction, but I have always liked Tolkien, and he wasn't that keen on modern fiction either. I have a big interest in music, although I haven't learned to play anything competently. I've made music on the computer and find music technology fascinating. I just wish more of my interests had produced something... Typically for me, I'm staring at these sentences thinking this summary of myself is a bit fragmented. I often spend 20 minutes staring at a sentence I'm writing in a basic email, checking that I'm making sense. I get annoyed at everyone else leaving terrible mistakes, and also responding to the first line and missing half the points. I've often tried to use email as a way to get to know people but most can't be bothered to communicate that way. At the moment I feel quite isolated for various reasons so I'm making another effort to connect with people who are actually like me. The problem these days is that I have so little energy for any sort of social interaction beyond what I must do regarding family and the children. Otherwise I tend to want to just retreat and forget the world exists for a while.
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