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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team

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  2. Seen on the BBC news website, "Birthday drive by for boy with autism in isolation": https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/uk-northern-ireland-52159567/birthday-drive-by-for-boy-with-autism-in-isolation
  3. AARG is Autistic Artists Research Group, they have put a YouTube video up titled "Introducing AARG - Autistic Artists Research Group!":
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  5. Aspie meet ups

    What about virtual meetups? That's all we're advised to do in the current circumstances.
  6. If it's pretty obvious and what you are doing are still not effective, I believe working with a medical specialist or counseling will help.
  7. This is a great study that has been released, I hope this will greatly help and put more awareness to the community.
  8. The (forum) Renaissance...

    Hello Ben, I am glad to meet you, it is an honor.
  9. The (forum) Renaissance...

    Well thank you, I never thought I'd be getting all nostalgic over social media...! Refreshing the page to see if there is a reply - a week later...? I actually thought the early days of Myspace, Facebook, forums, were very positive for people who found socialising in the "real world" problematic at best. That's why I signed up for the Myspace 1.0 replicating site FriendProject.net, out of sheer nostaligia, by the by. My own experiences are tied up with the SA-UK site, a very prominent one for me in the noughties as I found my way in the neurodiverse universe. Re:Asperclick - Ahh, so I just missed the party. That would explain why I didn't receive that confirmation email.
  10. The (forum) Renaissance...

    Nah, that was a rather on-topic analysis of exactly what's going on out there - during the heyday here, there'd be a new post every few minutes. Now it's every now and then: in fact I'm willing to be that in a single night during 2012 five of us collectively racked up seven years worth of posts. I actually thought this place was about to blow up into its own social media app at one point. Willow scrapped Asperclick right at the end of 2019. Not only had it quietened right down, but I think we all said everything that could possibly BE said - there was no where for it to go anymore, not without repeating ourselves anyway. She's putting a collage of posts together I think, but for now, she seems over all of the Aspergers stuff.
  11. The (forum) Renaissance...

    Ahh... forums, emoticons/"smilies", how very early-noughties! I'm not sure about this place in particular, but communication in the digital realm seems to be shifting towards more intimate one-to-one platforms, whereas "social media" is now 15 years old and quite often becomes a cess-pool of hostility and trolling. The other exception to this that I've encountered is the Ravelry forums for knitters and crocheters, not the most venomous bunch to begin with to be sure, but there you go! The internet is changing and things like websites and using a PC (or even a laptop!) may once again become the domain of the geeks, techies and nerds (thank goodness!) as everyone else is on Instagram and the Youtube comments section. Goodness me that was a digression! What was the question again...? Also Ben, is the Asperclick site still running as I haven't got my confirmation email yet?
  12. The (forum) Renaissance...

    It's a shot in the dark given how quiet it's been (and forums don't exactly scream 2020) but let's try and bring something back. Those of you with an extremely long memory will remember me as that moderator guy from 7 or 8 years ago... And... For those of you who are from the other side of the tracks - yes, I am Ben from Asperclick. For everyone who is new, well, let's go from here... Hi.
  13. What is your expectation of entering 2020?

    To go for more travel this 2020, and I am attaining it 1st quarter of this year. YAY
  14. Aspie meet ups

    There's a very good group in Carmarthen, that meets monthly. I went to my first meeting yesterday. They are very friendly and great to talk with if you want to talk, but you can just go there and be quiet on your own too. They just have a private group on Facebook as far as I know. https://www.facebook.com/groups/931469243883658 The person who runs it is also organising an Autistic Pride event in Carmarthen this summer, and already runs one in Cardiff. https://www.facebook.com/groups/570304943699848/
  15. Jamie Oliver

    I wouldn't rule out someone on the autistic spectrum being capable of being a TV chef. In fact, I could see how someone who struggles with social situations finding solace in the physicality of handling food and the rule-driven procedure of a recipe. Working in a noisy restaurant kitchen could be a challenge for someone with auditory sensitivities, but on the other hand some might find the blunt style of communication used by chefs easier than that used by office workers where you're expected to work out what people actually mean. That said, I don't think Jamie Oliver is autistic. Not simply because of how he comes across as a presenter, because as Chris Packham has showed it's possible to develop a separate persona as a performer. I just think we would surely have heard about it by now if he were. Given how open he's been about his dyslexia diagnosis, it would seem out of character to keep an autism diagnosis secret. Nor do I think it likely that he would be autistic and unaware of it, because he would surely have learnt about it via his children. Although there wasn't as much awareness of autism when he received his dyslexia diagnosis in the 90s, I'm sure he would quick to notice if any of his children (how many does he have? 4? 5?) were dyslexic and be rooting for them to get all the assessments they need, including all associated conditions.
  16. Aspie meet ups

    In addition to the Meetup groups I have already mentioned there is the Autism One on One group which meets on the second Wednesday of every month between 18:30 and 20:30 at the Kenilworth Sports & Social Club. Apparently they've been in existence since before I moved to the area, but they only advertise their presence on Facebook and are not included in the NAS directory.
  17. thanks. Alas, it seems every single "disagreement" results in him going from 0 to 1000 in literally 2 seconds. There is no in between. In the past, hes assaulted me 3 or 4 times and has put his mother in hospital once (shoved her over and broke her arm). Yes non-glass cups would be one less thing to break and throw of course. BUT it'll be something else. In the past we;ve had office chairs thrown at the wall, walls punched, glass doors smashed, etc etc.
  18. Hello

    Hello and welcome to the forum. feel free to ask any questions and tell us a bit about yourself.
  19. New member

    Hello and welcome I used to play shinobi on my Sega mega drive console as a child. I didn't talk until age 3.5. alfie
  20. New Here

    Hello and welcome I have cptsd, fibromyalgia and elhers danlos syndrome alongside autism. There's an annual autism conference for and by autistics at the end of July called Autscape. this year we're in giggleswick school.
  21. hello

    Hi and welcome I'm half Scottish and half scouse.
  22. Aspie meet ups

    I run bath autism and neurodiversity spectrums (bands) cic which offers social opportunities for over 16s in the Bath and Frome areas. Feel free to message for more details. We meet on Thursday afternoon and evening depending on what you prefer to do as an activity. choices include, cafe, cinema, pub, board gaming, annual Weymouth trip and bowling (by request).
  23. Aspie meet ups

    the Bristol pub group has been absorbed under the 'diverse' umbrella which also runs a night club group at basement 45, a cinema group at Cabot circus, a gaming group at 'game' and a pub group alternating between venues. always a Tuesday evening. For more details look up 'diverse' on Facebook or private message me.
  24. autistic people seem aggressive rather than are actually aggressive. for me a number of things cause me to 'kick off' (something that's rare for me nowadays), 1, being in physical pain from my fibromyalgia and elhers danlos syndromes 2, having something with sodium or similar benzoate in it (a yukky preservative found in drinks like Pepsi max and a number of liquid meds) 3, having a cptsd flashback without realising that I'm too scared to talk about it is often the result of an inappropriate joke. 4, angry depression (which resolved itself within a year when I could communicate my physical pain better as a result of going off dairy, gluten and pineapple (last one is for my elhers danlos syndrome)) hope you find a solution soon and that no one gets hurt by the broken glass. could you have a "plastic or paper cups only allowed in your room" rule? that would prevent further incidents of broken glass.
  25. Always a problem with this - determining whats bad teenage behaviour and whats aspergers.... He plays on his PC a lot. More than we'd like but its his safe zone and calms him down - mostly. In the past, hes got very annoyed and smashed cupboards, thrown chairs etc in his bedroom. We moved the PC downstairs so we could keep an eye on. Hes been good for about a year so we let him move back upstairs to his bedroom. HOWEVER, he told us a few weeks ago (before he moved) he'd broken a glass. Theres more to it. We found pieces of glass the other side of the room, all in his little sisters (whos 6) toy box. Also, there is a strange dent on the wall. There is more to this glass breakage and 99.9% certain hes thrown it. If hes lost his temper thats fine. But he's left glass everywhere. Also we asked him about it and he immediately started getting VERY VERY aggressive. Thats his way. He feigns indignation that "no-one ever believes me" and then tries to front it out - but if I had a pound for every time we'd had this and hes later been found out I'd be a zillionaire. Of course, hes made it 10 times worse now by not only continuing to lie about it but get aggressive (this is a big NO in our house - we've had VERY bad experiences with him getting violent in the past) Thing is what do we do? Speak to him again and it WILL escalate. Let it go and it WILL happen again. He'll know he can "front it out" by denying all knowledge because he knows if he kicks off we'll back down.
  26. How do Members with travel with ASD and Aspergers

    Or this little gem from Host Unusual: Kudhva George "Amazing Spaces" Clarke would approve of this.
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