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doesn't matter if anyone agrees with you, everyone can have their own opinions

what do u not agree with? non uniform days?

mine has the option to create 'playlists' so i can create playlists on my mp3 and then choose what playlist i want to listen to. my old 'cheap one' i was able to connect it to my PC and put diff songs in diff folders. lol i thought i was the only one who played a track on repeat! Since i lost the sound on my PC i miss this as i always had one songe on repeat for the evening while i was online!

Also a thing to remember back in the 'old days' things like this still happend, people still got upset and left, so changing the number of boards will not stop threads going out of comtroll and arguments starting. Back then their was less members so their may have been less of it. But it still happend. I left the forum after one of those 'behinde the scenes' disagreements it did not directly involve me but did involve a friend of mine at the time who had helped me through a lot and without the support from her i didn't have a need for the forum. sorry i went on a little too much their.

Children in need website video here is a video too, though i have not watched it since i have no sound on my PC at the moment so cant say weather its good or not! Their are also other videos etc on the site

Chris Pudsey is the bear who is the mascot/symbol of children in need.

thanx clare

old Pudsey new Pudsey

well done glad things went well for you

glad u have managed to get a dx at last!

I know you are only suggesting this because you want this forum to be a safe and happy place for people to get support and advice, we all want that.

I think off topic is an important part of the forum (for me) I like the social aspect of little games, posting poems, quizzes, things from you tube etc (like my remember these posts). I enjoy reading other peoples posts on off topic even if i don't always reply. I left the forum for a long time, but came back recently and i would hate for the off topic section to dissapear. I believe in my experience most cyber bullying happens via PM anyway, so its better to have a public place to chat where things can be moderated.

I like the beyond adolesance board and the off topic board so reducing it to just Education and Help and advice for me would be unsuitable. I also think the meet and greet board is essential.

i put Scottish usually.

ooh maybe i should have in dx in process as a choice too!

Question about autistic traits in adults who use the forum.

in face book i am quiet lass

yes i am happyest on my own on top of a snowy mountain! thats what life is for! alone time at the 'top of the world'

another one Life What's the meaning of life Why are we hear Is their a purpouse Its not very clear.

I think the best thing is to know the child well, then u know exactly what will set them off, also u will be able to see when they are ready to 'blow' and intervene with 'time out' in a quiet room or go for a walk with an adult, as a child gets older they will be able to sense themselves when they are 'simmering' but with most the adult will dictate when its time for some 'time out'. diff strategies will work in diff situation and with diff kids. distraction probably will not work as i feel its best to get out of the situation/area that is causing the difficulties. of course not all meltdowns can be avoided so when one does happen: 1: stay calm 2: * make sure the child and anyone else around are safe. * if not move child to a safe place this may mean u have to physically remove them. 3: allow time to cool off/calm down. give them space to do this (unless they need touch to feel secure or are self harming) 4: when things have calmed down adult will discuss what happend with the child. 5: the adult will decide when child can return to activity and what should happen next. my advice may be rubbish as i am certainly not a proffesional and have no qualifications but this is just my opinion.

fantastic! well done connor!

I agree with you bid. I had a quick look at the site to but had not seen that section. Every child has to know that the parent/carer or teacher is in charge and learn respect and right and wrong, also they have to learn that their are consequences for their behaviour having autism is not an excuse for bad behaviour in my opinion. I agree with not discussing anything mid meltdown, but when the child has calmed its up to the adult to decide when the child is ready to discuss this behaviour, what went wrong, when they can return to the class when in a school setting. what should happen next. the part i looked at was the 'traffic lights' system, it may work for some children, but first the child must have an understanding of what red ambur and green actually stand for, to them they are just colours, many people see red as 'danger' and green as 'safe' but many kids will only see them as colours, even with a happy face on green and a sad face on red the system could be difficult to understand. But as i said it may work for some children. that was the only section i read and didn't look at anything else so their may be good strategies on the website.

how do you take signs of affection? You're often embarrassed by displays of affection, and are speechless if someone buys you dinner. Friends from work clubbing together for a birthday present brings a tear to your eye, and if you're partner buys you flowers, you wonder if it's a special day you had forgotten about. You don't feel comfortable accepting other people's affection for you, at work as well as in your private life. Whenever you are offered more responsibility at work, you can't help but think you're out of your depth, and suggest a colleague who you know wants to take on more. You don't make the most of the feelings others have for you, in fact you often feel like an imposter, who isn't worthy of their esteem. This can spoil things and stop you from enjoying moments when you should feel happy and proud. try to understand why you have such a low opinion of yourself that you can't comprehend why others would have such feelings for you. If you lack confidence, learn to accept yourself the way you are - after all, you deserve other people's love, make the most of it!

most childminders will not do just a school run as it would take up a place where they could have a full time child.

i thought that most schools had kids who eat school dinners sitting together, and all the packed lunches kids sitting together too.