RudeBoy

Hi, I really don't have much to reply, except to say I can very much identify with the traits discussed. It isn't always bad

Hi Everyone, Sorry for the slow reply. Thanks for not making me feel bad about a routine. I know we like to do it as it assists us. A lot of us use lists to keep the world in check. I just have a paranoia about them. However I will give it a go and report back! The original reason I asked was I just felt that if I start down this road I could be become more inflexible and obsessed. I tend to obsess on things once I start. As for the name, I remember RudeBoy as a character from a film (or it may have been RudeDog) It's just an online name, as I felt if I used my real online persona, as it where, I could not be honest in what I said. The anonymity the net provides is good.

Hi Everyone, Everyone will be pleased to know that work is getting better for me after my recent issues. I now have a mentor that is willing to understand. Now this seems a very strange question but is routine bad or uncool ? The reason I ask this is because I have created for example the weekly dodo sheet (It is called that because it's the rubbish I don't like doing but need to do, but forget to do) I think I could expand this and have a routine, that if I can stick to it will make me more efficient. Especially as part of my issue is lack of "get up and go" However I am prevented from doing this as routine, and having to rely on a routine will make me feel like a failure, inflexable and so geeky. I didn't realise I already do this some times, or at least my partner tells me, but I don't realise I am doing it. Example of where routine could help: Getting to the gym (Thats a personal one) Doing chores (Again, personal, but clustering it makes big jobs small) Create work plans for me and my staff Plan regularly what is going to happen with our busy work schedule However I just feel it is a geeky thing to do and a sign of failure. What do other people think ? Regards RudeBoy

Only me again. I have an issue. I have to explain to my boss (Line manager) that I may well have Aspergers. I tried to explain today but failed. I am just worried he will think I am a simpleton when I tell him. He isn't the most understanding person. I tried a bit today but waffled and tailed off. I looked at NAS for a simple leaflet I can hand to him and say "This is what I do and this is why I do it" type thing, but even NAS is bereft of info for employers on "what we do". Any suggestions ? Thanks RudeBoy

Hi Everyone, Sorry for the late reply but things have been a little off the wall. I got annoyed last night, just going over the conversation in my head. I have therefore set about composing a letter of complaint to the practice in question. I don't know why but I couldn't let it drop. I have actually asked them to confirm in writing they are not willing to diagnose me, due to lack of funds, despite the fact the action was recommended by two professionals. So I will get fobbed off I hear them cry. Not when you copy the local PALS, and the HR dept of a government dept who know all about this. Mind I may still get told "No" but at least I can say to HR I have tried. I am getting in touch with Access to work, who help people covered under the DDA to get changes that help them (At no cost to the employer. You get assesed by an independent (Qualified) consultant who feeds back possible coping strategies, or equipment etc) I mention it because it may be of use to others. Link: http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/DisabledPeople...mmes/DG_4000347 I will keep you informed. I have calmed down a little now, but you know how we tend to obsess sometimes The question was asked, could these people not help. It's difficult because I am closely related to one and the other, unfortunately, has had a stroke and cannot really help as she has issues of her own. I may however drop her a kind email and ask. Coming from a pro it may help. Nothing ventured and all that! As for DLA, doesn't bother me. I won't be applying.Although a disabled rail pass would save me thousands a year in my commuting costs. All I want is a diagnosis really. I may well end up going private. However HR may pay for it. I will ask. I just know I haven't got the money. It's very strange because the person who held my post before me was V V high up the scale as it where. It's strange how we tend to gravitate to certain jobs.

Thats what I was told by the Dr on my last visit. I have visited again today and was told that they are not prepared to spend the resources on me to get me a diagnosis because I am now an adult. Basically it has been a bit of a whirlwind. I went on a stress management course and on the Myers Briggs I scored off the chart as an introspective introvert. The teacher asked if I had cheated to which I replied I hadn't. She asked to see me after the rest had gone. We stayed and spoke and she asked me "Did I do this?", "Did I do that etc" I replied yep I did. It was like a lightbulb going off. I was lucky enough that her PHD was ASD research related. I asked my parents about me as a child. Apparently, I had a thing for taking phones and such to pieces and putting them back together again. That and I was labeled "A naughty boy". At school I was a library person, never really socializing. I would rather do books that talk to people etc. To cut a longer story short, I display many many traits and have even been told by an LD nurse I display all the classic traits. Including terrible verbal skills, no eye contact. I don't do crowds, getting quite anxious. If my routine is disturbed I get quite upset. Even if my girlfriend comes in an hour before she said she would, it makes me all on edge. Yet another example, I don't like writing because I fear people may see what I write. This goes to the point where I just don't write things. I also have a strange thing where non sensical words pop into my head and I feel compelled to say them. Other bits include saying inappropriate things, not bad things, but not taking into account social contexts. Poor humor you might say. Ruminations - yep. I ruminate on how many seconds I have left on this earth. Triggered usually by adverts that advertise interest free for x years The Dr just wasn't interested and refused to refer me. She even said it is better I don't have one because nothing would be achieved and a diagnosis would mean it was harder to find a new job. I was job smacked at her lack of understanding. I will write and also include my HR dept who said if I can get one they can help me work better as it would be classed as a disability and they are obliged to help Can anyone offer any advice on getting a diagnosis as an adult ? Thanks RudeBoy

Hi Everyone. Thanks for that. I will try and do as suggested re: lots of colour etc. It's a professional course, rather than academic. all the same stuff still applies though. Just thinking it would be amazing if I could re write the material (copyrights and that aside) for people like us, or to make it easier to understand/recall. It's awful dry and full of TLAs As for diagnosis. I really think I want to keep it to myself because there is still a stigma attached (in my opinion anyhow) Anyhow, when the exam is passed I shall come here and let you all know. Aspergers explains so much as to why I was shockingly poor at "institutional learning" but give me a PC and I am loving it (Well did, when you fix them everyday all day it gets a bit teadious but hey its a means to an end.

Hi Everyone, Please go easy as this is a first post For a while people joked with me about my aspergic tendencies. It only really hit home, when my girlfriend, a Learning Disability nurse, came back from her Aspergers course and told me she recognised about 85% of the "classic" behaviors. On top of this, I got told by a specialist in autism that I was more than likely on the spectrum because she gave me a test (Myers Brigs) and it was off the scale and at the extremes on everything more or less. Although I have no formal diagnosis (don't want one, because I would have to declare it in future interviews etc) it explains a lot of issues. It explains the lack lustre mark in my FE. So making a good fist of it (as in moving onwards and upwards) I am now doing a course in my chosen field that will allow me to get on and start learning again. The problem is I learn best with visual displays, hands on and such. How can I apply this to dry book learning. If I see pages of text, I try and skip ahead and end up re reading the page several times and only taking in 10% of it. I get impatient and cannot take in the written text, especially big pages of switches (My chosen field is data networks) What I guess I am asking is can anyone point me in the right direction to learn and retain this stuff. Ta RudeBoy