beckyjen

Hi all First of all thank you for your support and advise i have found it more than helpful and has gave me a clear picture for what it is i need to be focusing on next. i have spoken with his teacher and she is now writing up a report which will include any assesments that have been done this school year also groups hes attended, progress etc etc ... i have also attended a local support group who may i add were brilliant also very supportive and helpful, we will be attending a number of organised events with them in the near future and i'm hoping that my son will make some new friends. i've found out the numbers for our local parent partnership and also NAS so i will be spending tomorrow when i have some quite lol phoning them and getting some advise. (mad cat lady) i've spoken to his current teacher about our concerns over the job share and she has promised me that she will provide me with photos and a time table of working hours so i can make a chart for liam to see what teacher he has and what activities he needs to prepare for. hopefully i will have time to come on line later and fill you all in, in ore detail but once again thank you for your help and i will keep you informed of our progress.

Hi sally just a quick message haven't managed to read your message in detail yet but alot of what you have said had made real sense. Me and my husband have literally been thrown into this with no knowlegde and are feeling a little out of our depth, although we get the odd note from school saying that my son has been involoved in these groups it has never been explained to us what they are or how it is he was placed with them. seems that i have a lot to be getting on with over the weekend. Thanks for your help will let you know how i get on.

hi again diane S.U.L.P = Social use of language program, just looked it up lol sorry still trying to get my head around all these abbreviations

Hi Diane I have informed his present teacher that he is waiting for a diagnosis and this info was then past on to his new teachers, i'm now wondering if i should go over their heads and straight to the head to see if there is anything he could do to get things moving. I have arranged to see his teacher after school so will ask about the action plus as i've never heard this being mentioned before, he has been given an IEP and hes also being attending a group at school called S.U.L.P (not sure what this stands for). I'm currently sitting here sifting through all of his school paper work to try and see what it is he is getting help with and what he needs if that makes sense. Thank you for your advise i'm deffenatly going to push this with the school and will be asking to se the SENCO like you suggested will keep you updated.

Hi all Just come back from a meeting at my sons school in preparation for him moving to upper school (year 3), not at all happy feel like I’m back at square one. My sons year 2 teacher has been so helpful and has tried her best to get him lots of help, only when we introduced ourselves to his new teachers they pretty much laughed at us and made out that we were fussy interfering parents that had dreamt the whole thing up. To top it all off we have also found out that he has 2 teachers next year as they will be job sharing which in its self is going to be a big problem as my son doesn't cope well when his routine is changed. Liam has good days and bad days, today was one of them good days when he comes home happy, he has no worries about work he didn't finish, friends noise etc but on a bad day the slightest little noise really irritates him to the extent he will remove himself from the classroom, he has a really poor concentration span and very rarely finishes work although he seems to learn and store the info in his head. I’ve known days when I’ve walked past the school at play times and he will be sat by himself and complains about this on regular occasions. I don't expect the teachers to fix these problems just help us make his school life easier and more enjoyable, but instead we have come away feeling that he will be receiving no extra help next year and will be expected to get on with like every other child in his year. Has anyone had this problem with their school?? We are yet to get his official diagnosis and we are still waiting on follow up appointments. The school seems to want proof that he has aspergers before they will help him further with his education but not sure how I can provide this?? We have also been informed that he will be receiving swimming lessons in September, he is terrified of water and I feel like this is going to be a big embarrassment for him, what’s more the school are saying that everyone has to do the swimming lesson as it is school policy ?!?!?!

lol thats fine will keep your advice in mind mosey, i totally agree with what you say but i suppose the main thing is that our kids have a loving caring family. it certainly sounds like your boy are well loved <'> take care x

Hi mosey I’m also new to this site what you mentioned about feeling lonely at times and having trouble with friends is exactly how I feel at the moment, I find it so hard to keep my cool with people when they say things like "he's handful " and " it’s a shame " I feel like we are walking round with 2 heads sometimes. Some people can be so ignorant !!! any way nice to meet you

hi all Just thought i would give a qick intro to myself and my son, i'm hoping that you lovely people can help me and point me in the right direction as my head is spinning from all the info i've found on this condition. My son is 7 1/2 currently still waiting for a diagnosis (been going on for nearly a year ) not sure how long these things are ment to take, we have had 2 appointments with CAMHS and they are now reffering us to several other people also not sure if this is a good or bad thing. i find that nothing is really explained to you, all you get is a lot of if but and maybe's. As a family our lives have been on hold for the past 5 years we struggle to go to any public place and find it very stressful trying to control my son in public this seems to be when he is at his worst. A couple of holidays have resulted in us coming home early. My son is a very kind, loving and intelligent person, he is very lucky to have a very understanding school that have already offered him lots of help, they do however not understand all his needs which we find a constant battle. Socially my son has a really hard time is doesn't keep freinds easily and has been bullied on several occasions. although his teachers say he is way ahead of most children in his year is has nothing to show for it has it doesn't manage to get anything down on paper. He loves maths and anything to do with numbers, his seems to obsess over certain interrests and these interrests last at most for a couple of years then he will replace one with another. there is so many things that i could right here the whole thing seems to have taken over ours lives at the moment, one of our main concerns at the minute is how other people react to him, i have found relationships with freinds very strained at the minute as they don't understand what we are dealing with. At a party the other day my son hurt another littke boy who was younger than him, he mistook a play fight for the real thing, the boys mum was very rude and didn't seem to want to except his appologie, she didn't understand why he acted the way he did. i would love to hear from anyone who could offer any advice or anyone going through the same problems at the moment. sorry to go on becky