Toiletting troubles

[Toiletting troubles]

Thank you for your reassuring replies and your advice. When I say wiping properly I meant that he cannot seem to wipe himself. We use flushable wipes in the toilet because I dont think loo roll wipes well at all. I encourage him to wipe his bottom and check if the brown is still there until its all gone. ( a tip i read on a toileting tip for kids) I dont make a fuss and remain calm. Just to give you an example, yesterday he had been to the toilet and there was an awful smell, and so i asked him, has he been? he said no. Then I asked him politely if he will let me check, he refused and said there is nothing. I had to struggle to wipe him when I did i showed him a lot of brown and encouraged him to tell me the truth in the future. He is getting really strong and all I want for him is to be cooperative. I dont expect him to be obidient, he is strong willed.

 

I will try your suggestions. Many thanks.

 

 

[Keeping him off school.]

Thank you for that,I know I will have to educate him at home for now because I began to go through this process early in the year in fact this was for both my son's,they were both being bullied and racially abused constantly so I removed them for three weeks in the end I decided it was best to re locate cause the village was just not my cup of tea!My eldest son is happy at the school they attend,I have two younger kids at home and I am studying so would I seriousley manage to educate him even if it is temporary???Also the education authority said someone would come and see what I will teach and do with him before it is approved so worry that if by chance it is not approved he would have to return to school dont know how he will cope with that,not really sure what to do,there are no special schools nearby but the area I want to move to does have that option but still he may think me teaching him is long term so therefore may be even more upset in a year time when he has to return to school.I would love to teach him until high school or even beyond that but I am a single mum and want to develop my skills so I can work and provide for my four kids,hence the reason why I am studying.I just feel at a loss he is always crying after school and everyday begs me not to take him,he keeps saying nobody listens and teachers just tell him to be quiet when he has a problem I have tried talking to them without success.

 

Wondering what you decided about the children Education. I had a similar problem when Nigel was in year 2 of primary school, he was isolated and there were other issues. I took him out while i was considering homeschooling. This was extremely difficult as Jack was only 2. Hope everything worked out ok in the end.

[Toiletting troubles]

Dear all, This concerns my little boy Nigel, nearly 7 we have noticed a trend in the last 6 months or so. For some reason he has not learnt how to wipe himself properly after he has done the toilet. He was diagnosed with Aspergers Communication/social impairment in dec 08. I am wondering what other parents of children of similar ages have got these challenges and how they are tackling it. I find this most astonishing because he was toilet trained at 2 and a half. However I will point out that he seemed to get engrossed in whatever activity he did that he used to wet and soil himself at the age of 4. I have continued to help him wipe his botton but he is getting older and a little shy and its a shame as he is just trying to be independent. A friend was suggesting a incontinence nurse? I am not sure and wonder is anyone had this problem.

 

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Hi all, I have tried to find ways of posting on the introduction, this did not seem to work,I even emailed Kris for some guidance, So I will introduce myself here and I am sure my post will be put on the appropriate part of the site

 

 

Dear all

 

First of all, what a fantastic job the administrators of this site are doing, this is really good and will give people hope, its heart breaking to read some stories,however it helps others so they dont feel so alone and isolated.

 

I have a two boys 6.5years and 3. My oldest was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome in 2008 Dec, it came as a relief and particularly for me it was an eye opener. We have been frustrated by the education system for the first 2 years, the whole experience nearly broke my family. But now in his third year, things are settling a bit. I am happy to share my strategies with others and discuss things.

 

many thanks