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    Thank you to everybody...the good news is...I have now FOUND my book -- yahay! I happened to be out with my camera yesterday and it was at the bottom of my camera bag.

     

    I can now move on and continue where I left off. And incidently, non-verbal language was the last thing in the book I started to research.

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    Hi SmileyK

     

    I can really sympathise with you as I have been there zillions of times throughout my working career - even now at times. If people look at you and think that you are weak, they will use you as a scapegoat for their inadequacies and make you feel anxious and depressed. This came to a head with me in the early 1990s when I suffered serious clinical depression and indeed tried to end it all (on two separate occasions). As Tally says, this is not Aspergers speaking but the onset of clinical depression and that downward spiral. I get days when I feel great and full of confidence, then I get dark days and don't wish to talk to anyone and just want fall down a bottomless hole

     

    Easier said than done, don't let them get to you. If they can see what upsets you, they will continue. This smacks of workplace bullying. Do you have anyone at work you can confide in?

     

    Please feel free to PM me

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    Yes one thing I really need to work at and learn is interpreting non-verbal BL so any advice from you guys would be appreciated. I understand skilful observation is the key and I really try to make the effort at work - but do not know if I am overdoing things as I have no ally to tell me. This includes staring at strangers for too long and wonder why I get dirty looks. Is it because my face looks ugly or I stare at people for perhaps up to 4-5 seconds? Is this too long?

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    What happens when the American Academy of Psychiatry change the goalposts - the current DSM-IV is about to be superseded by issue V which will make it more difficult/less likely for children to receive a diagnosis of ASD/AS/PDD etc etc? Call me a conspirist but I wouldn't put it past them to remove Aspergers altogether from the spectrum.

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    I started my book before knowing about this forum so yes, I can now learn from you all. But I will never remember everything so will still need a handy reference. As I don't have friends to go out with, I have fewer situations in which to feel awkward. I also see a lot of children with ASD and AS in my job which enables me to learn and connect with them/their parents better.

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    Thanks for the link pabs.

     

    Darkshine. Yes I went nuts first of all. I felt the inside of my head was at war. Fortunately I did not outwardly express my frustration much. Every day, I look somewhere different. Tonight, it's another of my places of work...tomorrow it's the car.

     

    I have however bitten the bullet and started again. But will I remember all the little snippets I've written (i.e. my experiences)? It will never be the same again

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    Thanks guys. I spent a week not looking in the hope that my mind would clear and I would magically remember...no such luck. Cheers Pabs for the link, will try tonight. Yes my book was the start of a good survival guide including body language etc which I find difficult to understand at times

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    This smacks of cust-cutting and the Government washing its hands of responsibility. It's all very well giving control to the parents but how many parents really know/understand what services are out there? How will parents know when and how to spend "their budget" and whether they are spending it wisely? What happens when the "budget" runs out?

     

    Personally I feel that the numbers of special needs children will only rise further in the future and the Government wants rid. Absolutely scandalous IMO.

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    Some of you may remember from previous posts that I only recently discovered most of my problems in life were down to Aspergers. It was unheard of during my childhood and although I knew I was different, I never knew why.

     

    Over the past few months, I did a lot of research and made up my own little "black book" of what to look for and "how to be NT"...or rather, trying to be NT. It was my own little "private rule book" that I could carry around, use for reference, keep as a diary and learn from others.

     

    The problem is now I have lost it...

     

    I have hardly lost anything in my whole life (apart from girls) and I just don't know how to describe what I feel. I know "its only a book" but I spent a lot of time and effort on it and the thought of having to do it all again feels me with dread. Some things I won't even remember. It has helped me more to "survive".

     

    I feel really lost now and don't know what to do. I cannot remember when I had it last and have looked everywhere for it. I don't suspect anyone has taken it (why would they?)

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    Hi Annea

     

    There is huge debate/research about what causes autism and autoimmunity and huge denial by companies that make medicines. There is some concensus that some medicines /vaccines cause one or the other (or both) that is poo-poo'd by some very high-ranking public service employees. Autoimmunity can be inherited or started by certain chemicals whereas there is a growing body of evidence that some medicines/vaccines cause autism.

     

    Autoimmunity is where the body cannot recognise its own healthy cells and sets about destroying them. Something to do with RNA.

    Autism is brought about from toxic insult to the nervous system but this is heavily denied.

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    Thanks A-S Warrior, yes have been absent for a while due to other commitments. I can't even remember the last time I had a night out lol.

     

    Another suggestion perhaps... I see many people who (like myself) own 2 mobile phones. I have one contract and one PAYG. If anyone goes on a night out, take the PAYG mobile because if it gets lost/nicked, there is only a finite amount of credit on it before it runs out and the phone becomes useless. I would not dream of taking my "best" (contract) phone out (and it's not an iphone btw).

     

    Also, if you live with somebody and they're not coming with you, let them know where you are going and an estimate of when you'll be home. That way they will not worry.

     

    Just my 2cents...

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    Being a loner and not having any friends means I can't really say from experience. However, my thoughts are that close friends should be your best friends who share, accept you for what you are and be there for you in a crisis. Any friend who isn't "close" should not qualify as a "best" friend.

     

    Have I got this right?

     

    robert7111a

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    My daugher complains she gets too much homework and that is about 10-12 pieces a week if she's unlucky.

     

    Would it help if nobody did any homework at all as a protest?

     

    Can't understand why you are getting the blame for all of this when clearly, it wasn't your parents that phoned up to complain.

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    My wife is my only true friend (and in fact my only friend). She is always there when I need her (even at the end of the phone when we are apart), she is the only person who really understands me and has certainly put up with me extremely well for the last 16 years. She is the most loving and supportive NT person on the planet!

     

    Then there is my sister who I only started to know from my early 30's (she was adopted away at birth). To me, she is the second most loving and supportive person in my life

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    I probably have a mild(ish) form of AS. My only real problem is lack of social skills lack of friends and participating in group activity. To me, this is a big deal as I yearn for these skills but because I don't have any friends, I have nobody to show me.

     

    I do have fairly rigid routines and get a bit upset if plans get scuppered but I am able to show flexibility. I get a bit moody/low at times but that is not an Aspie trait

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    I like a wide gamut of music from classical/choral to pop/rock/dance etc as well as the famous group album cover as your avatar. I recently brought the vinyl version again as my old one disappeared.

     

    I listen to music as the mood takes. Sometimes I like repetitive continuous rhythm as found in some 1980s electro/hip-hop, sometimes I play long repetive melodies on the piano (autistic mode on)...it all depends. If I wish to go into depressed mode (which isn't often now), I have particular types of music that I relate to more easily especially if I listened to it previously in my depressed years. But in terms of artists, I love some songs and hate others. I may not like all songs from a particular artist.

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