Laddo
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Lord it over me because you're neurotypical
Correct me when I'm right
Be the superior, the pedant, the critical
Throw yourself in the limelight
You're better than me
I am broken
Don't let me be
The NT has spoken
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Calm the rudeness then, please
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Oh thanks for clarifying that for me, I would never have guessed otherwise. Really appreciate the rudeness once again. Pretty ironic you saying that considering how often you've gone off topic just to say how much life sucks.
Being an actor has nothing to do with being autistic.
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I can confirm that grammar schools do still exist in the UK. I went to one for a start. There was a huge drug problem and a lot of students were not encouraged to follow their ambitions, rather being pushed into more academic subjects. It's ridiculous, really - I only went to a grammar school because a fair few of my friends went there and I would have been murdered at the local comprehensive as most of the tormenting, bullying berks at my primary school went there. Needless to say, going to a grammar school stifled my creativity over the years and I lost interest in art after my GCSE art teacher lost my coursework!
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Academic qualifications other than maths and English GCSEs seem to be largely ignored by employers these days. They are pretty meaningless to me, too. Having a GCSE in English does make you good at English. Someone I know in my English class when I was doing my GCSEs somehow got an A in both English Literature and English Language despite him having one the worst writing styles I have ever seen and his spelling and grammar being atrocious. I still have no idea how he got As, but it certainly seems as if actual written communication ability has nothing to do with English GCSEs.
I totally agree with Waterboatman that education begins once you leave school. I estimate about 5% of everything I learnt at school has actually been useful in real life. Schools also don't teach important life skills, such as managing money, gaining employment, understanding politics etc. There is far too much focus on academic subjects at school, too. In my opinion, kids should be able to choose to do more vocational subjects from a much younger age than they currently do and I definitely think there should be optional social skills lessons as well. After all, they are skills, hence the name 'social skills'. Most people take them for granted but obviously some of us need help with them. Driving lessons would be useful at school, too, considering how important a skill driving is these days. If you don't live in a city, you can't drive and you're looking for a job, you're pretty much up the creek without a paddle in many entry-level jobs.
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An interesting thought: I wonder if physical attraction is aspie women is just different in general? I say this because (and not to blow my own trumpet here) I seem to be quite attractive to aspie women but not really to NT women. On another ASD forum I was a member of I got quite a lot of messages from female members after putting a photo up with a couple of them calling me hot and in person I've noticed girls who appear to have aspie traits seem a lot more interested in me than NT girls (who generally act as if I don't exist). Even a lesbian former friend of mine frequently called me sexy, hot and even beautiful. Maybe I'm just reading too much into it all but I just find this all a little too much of a coincidence that NT women act as if I'm invisible but aspie women find me attractive. Thoughts?
By the way, I say this about just aspie women because from what I've seen, aspie men find NT women just as attractive as aspie women, as do NT men find aspie women attractive.
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Not sure I agree with bullying being a male thing. Men are getting such a bad press these days and decent men are often ignored as they are blanketed as being inherently bad by the media. Notice how men are often suggested to 'get in touch with their feminine side' and romantic fiction often focuses on men having to 'change their ways' for a woman's sake. The whole thing smacks of the notion that women are 'better' than men when really we are just different. A very NT notion, I might add. It feels like apologist culture to me, where an entire group of people is made to feel guilty for the historical actions of people within their group. The same thing happens a lot with white people - for example, calling someone a 'cracker' on TV is generally seen as acceptable but the N word is not. Same goes for portrayal of men - recently the Disney film Frozen got bad press because of its unrealistic depiction of women for the main character being stereotypically pretty but the main male character was also an unrealistic depiction of men - muscular, handsome and generally a bit of a tool. However, this depiction of the man was totally ignored. To me, this is very dangerous towards either sex as one being portrayed as 'better' than the other always causes problems.
The way women tend to bully people is usually different from how men tend to bully people. (Having been a regular victim of both types, I became to notice the differences.) Men tend to be quite blunt in their bullying, while female bullying seems to be done in a very 'female' way - unravelling the victim's self esteem slowly but surely, excluding their victims in the workplace and subtly making them feel like they don't belong as part of a social group. Male victims of female bullying are also almost entirely ignored because there is still the assumption (from both other men and women) that men should take it on the chin - there's a good reason why the phrase 'man up' exists.
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I've just realised that this post could be seen as offensive to those who have embraced their diagnosis. I'm sorry if I have offended anyone - I really didn't mean to. Maybe I should class myself as Asperger's myself - I certainly can relate in some way or another to almost every aspie I've met, both online and in real life. I agree with The Exodus' view that Asperger's represents a higher, more evolved state of mind. After all, aspies are renowned for their honesty and loyalty and at the end of the day those traits can only be a good thing.
So yeah, I take back what I said about rejecting the diagnosis and would like to embrace my fellow aspies as my spiritual brothers and sisters.
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That's what is depressing me - people feel helpless and powerless to do anything about inequality and injustice. I believe that with enough people changes can be made, even if they're small, but so many people are made to feel like there is nothing they can do so nothing gets organised. I feel like there's no hope, no future, for both myself and a large portion of the population.
My most recent post was a little harsh and I'm sorry for that. I just feel overwhelmed by depression and anxiety at the moment but that's no excuse.
Life is so unfair for so much of the world
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Evidently not. Sigh. Does anyone even care about making positive changes any more or do people just enjoy being trodden on their whole lives?
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Prepare to trip off your nut as a result of this video:
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Amphibian
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I've looked around the forum and there actually isn't a poll anywhere! I find it quite irritating that someone claimed 90% of members feel the mods are playing favourites when the poll doesn't actually seem to be available to the majority of members. How many people actually voted in the poll? 10?
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That's not my point. My point is that people living in a fantasy world - e.g. people like David Cameron - should not be allowed to be politicians. However, I would think that this is far more likely in people who went to private schools rather than state schools. I'm very against the whole notion of private schools anyway - in my opinion it's elitist.
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No one living in the southeast is up for a meet up then I take it? Shame...
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What poll is this? I never saw a poll...
The moderator system on here is nowhere near as corrupt as I've seen on other websites. You should see the system on Wrong Planet - if a popular member is being a berk and is reported to moderators, nothing will be done about it. The site owner actively encourages full-blown arguments between members and 'wars of the sexes' because he finds them amusing to read. So yeah, to all the members who have complained about moderation here: It could be far, far worse
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Personally, I don't think it should be a case of autistics vs non-autistics running the world. You can, after all, get selfish and greedy autistic people, just like you can get selfish and greedy NTs. I think it should be a case of people who have actually experienced the real world running things, i.e. not privately-educated toffs who live in a fantasy world. As well as this, MPs should not be above the law as they currently are (look up allegations of child molestation against MPs in the 1980s and the police reaction to them) and should be paid far less than they are now. Their salary is, after all, paid at the expense of the taxpayer - the very people who MPs like to royally screw over. Politics should also be properly taught in schools so young voters actually understand what they're getting into instead of blindly assuming that the only political system that works is a two (or three) party one.
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Incidentally, frustration with inequality directed at me was the main reason why I acted up in school, but because I had that oh-so-damning Asperger's label, people wrongly believed I was just nuts without knowing anything about me. Also, does anyone ever find so-called 'normal' people frequently trying to contradict you about something when you know you're right? It seems to be some kind of knee-jerk response that as I'm not 'normal', people need to display their arrogant feelings of superiority over me. So so tired of it all. I just want it to end
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I don't feel bad about being different. What I mean is my diagnosis has brought me nothing but trouble from the assumptions people make about anyone with any sort of psychological differences. Why is being a selfish, greedy psychopath like so many politicians acceptable but being introverted and not always understanding social stuff unacceptable? I guess I'm just furiously frustrated with the injustice and inequality that runs rampant throughout the planet.
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So apparently thousands of students protested in London against rising tuition fees today. It's very fishy how the media rarely reports on these things until they're actually happening... And surprise surprise, the media focus is on the minority of protesters who turned violent rather than the cause behind the protest.
Did anyone know about the protest prior to today? Anyone take part in it?
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This is something I've been playing around in my mind for a while. In my case, I don't think of Asperger's as a medical condition, rather a different personality type. Yes, I have some weaknesses in socialising (which, I suspect, have been exacerbated by always being told I'm a different, a freak) but I also have many strengths. Why, then, should I be classed as being Asperger's when other personality types aren't seen as a diagnosable condition that at the end of the day must be treated? Why must I have that label and categorised into a little box? It only leads to people making false assumptions about me based on negative and incorrect stereotypes in the media. I frequently see people say 'X behaviour is Asperger's' when I have seen people who most definitely are not Asperger's exhibit similar behaviour. There are also a large number of diagnostic criteria for Asperger's that don't apply to me, yet I am still somehow classed as having the condition.
As well as this, to me, the purpose of a diagnosis is to make accessing relevant support easier. Yet it is near-impossible for adults diagnosed with Asperger's in my area to get any kind of support without having to pay a substantial amount of wonga towards some organisation or another. I was diagnosed as a child but I didn't get any helpful support then, either. No, I was put on heavy doses of Ritalin, a drug which is essentially a legal version of cocaine and carries all the same side effects and risks of addiction. (It is no surprise that I have struggled with addiction to alcohol and drugs in the past.) This led to me being put on a massive, bulky heart monitor which further added to the humiliation of constantly being told I'm different to the other children and always excluded from them. I was forced to sit at a desk away from all the other kids. I had teachers calling me mental to the other kids. When anything went wrong at the school, it was always blamed on me, because I was the 'mental kid' (despite there being quite a few 'mental kids at my school, some of whom are now in prison). So why was I always singled out? It is simple. Those other kids who frequently misbehaved were largely not diagnosed with ASD, ADD, ADHD or even AC/DC. No, because they didn't carry any labels they were seen as normal kids by the school who were just a bit of a handful. I had no time to myself because an LSA would constantly follow me around at break times.
Did anyone ever think to ask me why I misbehaved? No. It was always just a case of 'you're mental, that's why. Let's punish you by publicly humiliating you, turning all the other kids against you and physically isolating you from your friends'. All that humiliation really does ruin your self-esteem. It can also lead you to start believing everything you have been told about yourself - you're a freak, you're broken, you're insane, you're a bad person... And those feelings carry on into adulthood, making it even harder to develop friendships, which leads to loneliness, which inevitably leads to unsavoury behaviour such as drinking and taking drugs cut with God-knows what.
I don't mean to rant, but this is something I feel strongly about. I hope that if anyone else who has had similar experiences reads this, they might start to question just how much good being labelled as Asperger's has actually done them. So there we go - I reject my diagnosis of Asperger's. From now on, all I will think of myself as is introverted. And that's fine. It's okay to be introverted, even if the media frequently tells us it is not. We're living in an extraverts' world and they want things to be good for them and them only.
I will still post on this forum as it is good to speak to people I have things in common with, but from now on my stance is I'm different, not Asperger's.
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Yeah I know it's possible to have both ASD and PTSD but I was just saying just PTSD fits the bill far more than either ASD or both ASD and PTSD. To be honest it's getting to the point where I feel like an alien on this forum
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To be honest I think being shy has always been seen as antisocial. It is quite ironic considering the loudest and most 'outgoing' people tend to be horrible, corrupt human beings when you chip away the surface. They tend to be the type who feel most comfortable complaining about other people behind their backs. They are usually very manipulative, too. Correct me if I'm wrong, but there is something very wrong with a society that praises the manipulative and demonises those that are shy. Most of the shyest people I know are incredibly nice people once you get to know them, but the trouble is the twisted society we live in doesn't allow them to come out of their shell. Introverts are essentially the 'runts' of the human race
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