KalamityKat

Okay, so as a minor, the internet is a wonderful place for me. I get to speak anonymously to people which helps with the confrontational side of real life. It's just pixels sending messages. But, in those pixels lies no intonation. I can no longer detect sarcasm, and when people leave a sentence unfinished, I can't detect what they're implying. "Kat..." could easily turn into "Kat... I can't help but profess my love for you :D" or "Kat... shut up, you annoying person." It's usually the latter, but how on earth am I meant to know? NTs get even more annoyed when I ask, extremely politely in response: "Please finish your sentence so I know you're not confessing your love for me. It's always a possibility for me, LOL!" How could that possibly be interpreted badly? Do they not see the "LOL"? They suddenly accuse me of trolling. I tell them I have ASD and suddenly they rant at me for lying. When they finally believe me (which often they don't), they have no idea what it is, and tell me to control myself. This happens nearly everywhere. It's getting to the point where I'm considering to just stop playing any games, and just leave the internet. It's always the same scenario. I just want my questions answered, and they say I'm trolling. Does anybody have any advice on dealing with these people? Making them treat me better? I really don't want to leave. Note: They tell me I can never be a trainee (what I aspire to be in the game) because I'm not mature enough, despite me being a very mature teacher that has taught other kids very easily, most with behaviour problems. I'm sure I can handle a game.

We could, quite easily insert a chatbox on the page. That could be handy for both quick and idle chit-chat. I know many forums have a chat box.

Web. I was told as a child that spiders knit their webs. I now know better.

I'm up for skype/Bitwise IM. I made a Bitwise IM profile with the same username as on here. The skype is also the same. I am I frequent user of skype and I love the rapid pace with it, which is a lot easier than forming a response here.

Hey, I'm in the North. I'd love a meet up, but I just noticed that it's quite possible some would be apprehensive about meeting up because of age/appearance issues. I'd see why maybe a 15 year old female might not want to meet up with a 30 year old man (for example, not necessarily true), especially if they had never physically seen this person, as opposed to general discomfort in meeting others that they only met online, despite their similarities. If there was any way to resolve this, I think more would feel more comfortable about a meet up?

Dear Not-Mildred Regarding my hair, it does seem rather contradictory. My mother is encouraging me to get my hair cut, and I am considering it. I used to be able to sit on my hair, but I attacked it with scissors myself when something got stuck halfway up it. Oops. I could grow it back, but then my mother raised the issues, on how it would be more difficult to comb it, style it (I don't do it anyway, but that's still an argument) and the longer I left it, the more it would cost to get it cut professionally (so I told her how I could get a friend('s mother) to do it). I have a cousin who used to have their hair down by their thighs. They were Sikh, and only cut it because she tripped up and injured herself. Even then, she cut it so she could still sit on it. They just aren't near her legs anymore. Unnecessarily mine, Jane (not my real name, either.)

Dear Matt and Ian, I believe you are both correct in some respects. It would be pleasant to know that I don't have anything on the AS. And I can work towards not being as eccentric. But that's not who I am. It's quite blatant that I almost definitely have something up with me. As autism.co.uk says, "Having an explanation for the problems that your child has been experiencing can bring a sense of relief. It also provides you with the information you need to get access to the most appropriate education and services." and I think that's very accurate. I will attempt to convince my parents to take me to the GP. I already get discriminated in certain respects, but all it does is makes me laugh because they think they are being mean but they are actually being pathetic. I know that I am better than them so what ever they do to "hurt" me is futile. And it makes me laugh. I am me, and I can't do a thing about that. All I can do is be happy that I AM me, and not somebody else that isn't me. Because I am awesome. Yay! Being positive is good. Although I don't think this constantly, this is my mantra to keep positive. I'm not actually this conceited. I promise. Yours positively, Jasmine.

He sorta is without realising it. Nick doesn't want to hurt his mother, but he is hurting her. "I just find it so sad, and every year I hope it will be different, but it never is!! " means that Soraya is upset by Nick's actions, even if Nick didn't want to upset Soraya. We all have different ways of resolving things, lets see what Soraya has to say herself, and then maybe we can decide what to do, if anything at all. Leaving Nick alone might be the best solution.

Dear Mihaela, Thank you! Your response was very sweet and you are a nice person. You made me laugh about my hair. I meant that if I'm not doing a lot, like sitting down, when I stand up again, I have to comb it through because it gets all knotty again. It's very annoying because there are spots I miss and it sometimes doesn't hurt then it REALLY hurts. It is not alive at all, although it would be very interesting - not necessarily good, however - if my hair was alive. I can't sit on my hair just yet, but it stops at my hip bone, meaning I shall sit on it soon! One of my friends offered to get their lovely mother to cut it for me in a non-hairdresser environment. I'm a bit wary, but I might give it a go. I'm not sure if I trust her mother with the scissors though :/ I love writing for writing's sake also! I agree with the splurgy and unnecessary part of that. What I meant by the complicated brackety bit was that I'd be diagnosed with nothing, not "not diagnosed" and I said" hopefully", as in it's a good thing that I don't have AS or any of the other stuff. But then again, having AS isn't what I'd consider BAD, per se, but rather just a thing. Yours unnecessarily-but-here-all-the-same, Jasmine (now that's my real name )

Special, sorry, that was directed at Soraya, but yeah I get it. Christmas is hard for me too so I stay alone. I usually have cereal on Christmas About Nick, he should do what he want, but it might be a bit helpful to know, because it's unfair for Soraya. I know that its a time where sensory overload can happen a lot, but Soraya clearly puts in a lot of effort for a Christmas, only to be rejected. All illness aside, it's hard when you try hard to do something right and it all fails. Nick must mean a lot to Soraya because she gets upset and feels hurt when her own son doesn't want to spend time with her. (Obviously for different reasons but you still feel hurt) And of course, it is different for everyone, but the same in many ways, so that's why we all talk about it, right?

Christmas is very hard for people like your son. It can be just as hard for you. He obviously hates the whole hustle-bustle associated with Christmas. I hope you don't mind me asking a few questions. 1) How many other people do you invite around for Christmas? 2) Do you know what Nick does in his room? (If you don't, don't try and find out yet) 3) What kind of stuff do you serve at Chirstmas dinner? 4) Do you do presents? If you do, how do you go about doing it? If you answer these, I think I can give you a quite direct answer on how to help with Christmas. It's quite apparent this is causing you distress. I feel for you, it's not nice to see a Christmas that's meant to be fun and joyful be wasted on unhappiness.

Dear reader, Thanks for reading this. I don't know why, but I'm guessing you want to be friendly, which is therefore awesome. I don't really know what to type here, but I'll say my medical state and a general bit about me. Wanting to keep it positive, I'll start off with me, ignoring the general self-centered-ness about it. I'm a female minor (not divulging my details) who is of above average height, brown hair and brown eyes and of a Indian-Caucasian descent. I am currently a monoglot, but aiming to be a bi, even multilingual, in preferably Japanese (I'll stop here if it's too difficult - hopefully not ), Italian, German and Dutch in that order. I have awful vision, which makes it necessary to wear glasses around the clock. Except when I lay in bed, for it's uncomfortable and unnecessary. And pretty damned pointless when I fall asleep. My hair is my pride and joy, meaning it is constantly maintained, although it tends to get knotty without being the slightest bit active. It hasn't been cut in a long time because hairdressers are scary. I am physically of average/above average strength, but nothing too impressive. I don't do too much physical exercise (I'll state why later), but I have a black belt in Taekwondo and I am a competent swimmer and have a basic knowledge of first aid. I think I am a pleasant, honest and trustworthy person and I hope you also perceive me that way. Others that don't understand about all this call me bossy when I involve myself with others. I tend to keep my distance, but when forced to work in a group, I suppose I may come off this way simply because I feel I know what's right to do, especially academically. I admit I may not know what to do in social situations, but then again, that's really not my forte so I don't combat it. And I'm not a genius (although I'd love to believe I am) so I don't actually know the answer for everything, contrary to popular belief. Well, I'm glad you now know a lot more, (probably) unnecessary information about me. I just thought I'd be polite, although, thinking about it, all this is quite unnecessary. I have used "unnecessary" a lot in this so far. Okay, medical side now. Officially, I am not diagnosed with anything on the AS at all, but on every online test I took, mainly the same EQ test again (scoring 42 every time) points to high on the scale. My parents will not allow me to see the GP, for they believe what I suspect to be something on the AS is merely an eccentricity and a part of my personality. I suspect I also have a heart condition, called inappropriate sinus tachycardia. It's basically a type of arrhythmia which causes problems when I do too much physical exercise, stuff such as vomiting, fainting, and worse of all, potentially a heart attack occurs. It hasn't happened yet, mind! Again, not officially diagnosed, but I really do suspect it, as a pain reported by others with this is identical to the ones I feel. After running one circuit at my Taekwondo club caused me to projectile vomit all over the floor and black out in the puddle. It's actually quite hilarious now I think back to it. The thing that alerted me it wasn't just something weird was, when they checked my pulse, they said "Oh gosh, her pulse rate is over 100" which worried me. Again, this is the only thing that is officiallly wrong with me, and that's an inflamed patella tendon on my left knee. It's an annoying problem caused by a car crash that physiotherapists are sorting out, so I'll get some money out of it I haven't done physical activity for 12 weeks. Y'know, I think I might be a bit of a hypochondriac, regarding the heart condition, because I'm just generally out of shape. Alas, there will always be something wrong with me if I try and pin all my problems on actual problems, not myself. I know I'm a really awful person in some regards (i.e; modesty, tact, always wanting to blame my unhealthiness on a condition...) but I am honestly a really nice person (see? I'm really not modest!) who I hope can get along with all of you. I also noticed as I've been typing this that this is just really a splurge of words to get all the thoughts out of my head, while making friends in the process. I'll gladly accept any suggestions about getting diagnosed (or not, (hopefully(?))) and this is a really long introductory post. Yours Sincerely, KalamityKat (it's not really my name, just an internet alias.) (TL;DR: I am just a new person that's up for friends and not officially diagnosed (although wants to be))