jane molyneux

wow can you get cards to say they have asperger?oh i would love to hand those out when im out with my 20 yr girl.we can be at the doctors or dentist if they ae running late over her time she will go up and ask them why.she use to kick off to the receptionist but now she will come back to her seat and kick off to me.the looks i get.they certianly dont expect someone that age to behave in that manner.the mumbles and grunts.perhaps if you could show us a card we could make up our own for each type of disabilty our children have?what do you think? jane

phoebe i have had the same with my girl.she just did not like alot of people about.it was the noise the activity around her.she just wanted mum one to one or her brother one to one.she excluded herself from everyone.we could not understand it as she was raised with a loving family around her.at school she would rather stand in the corner of the playground than mix with other children how i wished for her to make friends.she just felt safer at home.but now she has slowly not completely at 20yrs got to make more than one friend at a time.she drops them if it gets too much for her just becasuse she cannot take on too much at one time.the same as her activities at school and in life.as a mum i dream of her life being normal.her father does not except her having a disability nor her grandparents and i think being over 50 what would happen to her.i believe if we offer all we can give they know and they understand that deep down inside.they have to do what that makes them happy and if they are we are.

i also like you caroline did the same with my girl.she found it was too many people and too much noise that she did not like.so it was a great system.if she was distracted from what she did not like things got done.thats why she did not like school.the change the noise the children there was too many for her to cope with.but every child has a different level i suppose of the illness.17 years down the line she has over come this.how i pray all will do so.because i know the drama and the stress it causes.

Hi my names jane i hope i have this right this time.im new at these sort of things.i have a daughter who is twenty with asperger.i have been looking for help for 17 years and to read about all you wonderful people the advice is great and learning i am not alone struggling to help my daughter.my daughter is twenty now she has gone to college to finish what she has always wanted to do.this is great until something in her world goes wrong.as long as her jigsaw puzzle stays together we make progress but we take 20 steps back if it goes wrong.she is also a young mum so i need to help out as every day to day living is hard for her.i have found no help from social except to them she needs to go to the mental unit for help....i dont think so that was 7 years ago.to me we have achieved so much.ok we did not plan for her to be a young mum.we do have the aggression but thankfully it is now more at me than the public or family.i have to help with the everyday sorting out of living for her but she has her own place for her and the babes.she copes from a wednesday eve to a sunday eve without me.of course i get the 10 or 20 calls a day when im not there but with praise of how well she is coping seems to help her alot.cor it is so good to share with people who understand. could i just say a big thanks for this post to be able to express to all of you who understand.