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  3. Posted · Edited by bid · Report reply

    Everyone was doing the same.

    I was just picked out because I had AS.

    The teachers had a go at everyone In general too start with then just me when the found out I had AS.

     

    Doesn't make it right to behave like that, though, does it?

     

    If 'everyone' was nicking stuff from shops, would you do it too? I hope not!

     

    Bid :)

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    And on a Monday night too :shame:

     

    Don't worry - you can blame it on the heat, I mean you've got to drink SOMETHING in this kind of weather!

     

    Have one (or several) for me. :wine:

     

    Oh lordy, is it only Monday?? :lol: Just finished 4 nights on, so it's anyone's guess :wacko:

     

    Big week this week: tomorrow Meg has her cast off and starts OT for her new hand, plus it's B's PROM!!! :band: Then Leaver's Day for B on Wednesday :crying: and Thursday she's coming into my work to spend the day with the SALT. And my mum finds out the date for her surgery :unsure:

    More wine needed!!

     

    Bid :partytime:

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    OMG!!

     

    Talking of kids...

     

    I have just severally :crying: my way through DD#1's speech she's got to give on her Leaver's Day on Wednesday, and then the Leaver's DVD from DH's special school. This was made by one of his year 11's, with HFA, and it is absolutely awesome...

     

    Next I'm gonna :crying::crying: through Big A's old Leaver's DVD from his residesi ('Oooh look it's A!!' :clap: ).

     

    I really, really shouldn't drink on an empty stomach and 4 hour's sleep...

     

    Bid :wine:

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    Hi Spottydog,

     

    Sorry to hear things are so tough.

     

    Personally I would insist on the sunblock, and also I think you are right about the coat too.

     

    Of course as parents we need to be aware of sensory issues (my son was the opposite, t-shirt in the winter), but we are the parents and as such we need to be in charge and have more sense when it comes to things like sunblock, etc.

     

    Sometimes I think you just have to say 'No, this is how it's going to be'. I think you are completely right over both issues and the SENCO doesn't have a clue!

     

    Bid >:D<<'>

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    Doh! You were supposed to say 'Garlic Cigarettes? Shouldn't that be "clove cigarettes"?' and I was going to say 'no, garlic cigarettes - like clove cigarettes but with garlic cloves instead... they taste foul but keep the cyber-goths at a safe distance'...

     

    oh well...

     

     

    Fail me :lol:

     

    Bid :wacko:

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    :lol: cybergoth and darkwave :wacko: I imagine asking for 'snakebite' in there is a double edged sword...

     

    I expect he's got his own 'skinny puppy' tankard behind the bar and the fag machines loaded with garlic cigarettes :rolleyes:

     

    But don't tell him i said so... :whistle:

     

    Shhh...it's a Skinny Puppy tat!! ;)

     

    Bid :D

  15. Posted · Edited by bid · Report reply

     

    I find so many things about these discussions (on the forum) downright confusing because on one hand I see people tell others to essentially shut up and get on with it, and on the other see things where major problems occur that have to be dealt with.

     

     

    Hi again Darkshine,

     

    I think if you look through the forum you will see that people actually go out of their way to give practical help and advice when someone says they have a specific problem.

     

    What I think people can find very frustrating are the posts where someone actually doesn't want to entertain any constructive suggestions, prefering not to take any personal responsibity for their situation and where they are resistant to taking any proactive steps to change a negative situation. Especially when such people use aggressive language or take it upon themselves to talk for 'all' people with AS or make unacceptable comments about people who aren't autistic, etc, etc.

     

    I don't think anyone minds you asking for clarification, or being unsure of using a forum for the first time...we were all new here once too :)

     

    Bid :)

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    Hi BID your comment is very just, maybe I should have explained better what I meant by such a comment. No my view wasn't disabling but valid. The type of tactics you gain from a parenting course are largely mind control and manipulation tactics, and you can't necessarily use those successfully unto a child with some type of spectrum disorder, because their brains are different.

     

    I know the ask, say and do routines work for my child, but to minimise hyperactivity, anger and improve concentration a lot more, no I can't say Ive learnt anything on the parenting courses that have managed to help cure those issues. I have made adjustments to diet, lifestyle , mine included in order to help.

     

    The lady who commented, sorry I wasn't ignoring you, It's nice to hear of other people's experiences, and Im so pleased that you managed to get the help for your child.

     

    Unfortunately it's not like that for every parent, and some of us have to go through more steps.

     

    Thank you :thumbs::robbie: :robbie:

     

    I don't know what else to say, Forgetmenot...

     

    My son is now an adult, living independently amd working full-time, after going to a residential special school.

     

    Of course, we made many mistakes as do all parents. But the advice we were given, and followed to the best of our ability, by the specialist autism team around behavioural therapy was basically what posters like BD, Kez and Kazzen are suggesting.

     

    It is also exactly what we do at the residential special school where I have worked for the last 6 1/2 years. And we have young people with the most profound difficulties and challenging behaviour.

     

    All I can say to you is that it works.

     

    Bid :)

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    I believe that parenting courses are beneficial , but I do not believe that they can cure a problem that cant be cured.

     

     

    But surely that is a very negative, disabling belief?

     

    Of course, autism can't be 'cured'...but it needs a 'can do/pro-active' approach to parenting rather than an a 'can't do/can't help it' approach. That is the only way to maximise your child's full potential.

     

    Bid :)

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    I dunno. You'd have to be careful to keep your dx quiet else those coming along to 'be' ASD (of course no one would do that... :wacko:) would get confuzzled about what behaviour's expected from them. If you were there, we'd have to make it very clear that the only required behaviour is to hand over wads of cash (to the Mumble Charity, of course :party:).

     

    Hehe...it'll be fine, I'm an undercover Aspie, 'cos like I said I can't do sums n that ole stuff!! :D

     

    They'll never know!! Mwahahaha :devil:

     

    Bid :P

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