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Like your daughter i have no problems with eye contact but like her I still have as.Not usually clumsy though as you say your dayghter is.last weekend I was away staying at a posh hotel in London and managed to bump into a chair in the middle of the night and bashed my toe which is now turning nicely black.I think i turned the air blue!!!Ouch even the thought of it makes me wince!!! Anway glad you are getting lots of support within the forum.they are a friendly supportive bunch on here.

Sorry forgot to add.There is many people on here myself included who believe there is a genetic link involved.I am sure many people will offer you their advice and support.

I personally can't help you too much only offer a sympatheteic ear.I dont have any children on the spectrum.I have a daughter of nearly nine and a son of three.My daughter suffered a really bad reaction to an mmr vaccination booster.This left her severely autistic for six months but I am happy to report she made a full recovery.I myself have quite recently realised that I have mild AS.Not sure if it would be enough if I wanted to get an actual diagnosis though.I also have ocd.Pleased to meet you and welcome to the forum.

Welcome to the forum.You have found the right place you will find loads of help and support on here.What a beautiful name your daughter has.Best Wishes

I second that Noetic!Lets move on pleeeeease!

Noetic I too am baffled by people who say people with as traits get on great with each other.I don't think that is the case.My husband says that this is what the problem is.I have a sister as well(who isn't hidden gems sister- complicated!!!!) and we get on really well.She and I haver actually never disagreed or argued but we are very very different and she doesn't have any as traits. Hidden Gem and I are much more alike but like you said in an earlier post with different as traits presenting themselves differently. What i would like to do is make some kind of deal with hidden Gem that we never discuss Hidden Gem and As again either on here or face to face unless he really really feels he has to for some important reason or other but I don't think he will agree though.i hope we can work this out though but I dont know if hidden Gem wants to really. Anyway I wonder if there are many cases of two people with As that are married or in a relationship.I just wonder how it would work.Maybe I should start a new thread on this one.

I said COULD HAVE, NOT DEFINATELY HAD.which is exactly what Noetic was saying.Neither do I think you need help living on a day to day basis.Neither of us do.You don't read waht I have written properly.You just read what what you want it to read.

So glad that you have a conclusion, though I am sure you must have mixed feelings.Treat yourself to that glass of wine when you are feeling better.

Hidden Gem I dont mean help in that sense.You don't need help.I've all ready said it.I just meant a fresh pair of ears to listen(Noetic's in this case!)and someone elses view point in this case Noetics other than my viewpoint.But we seem to be all agreeing. Me you and Noetic I mean that you could have mild aspergers.Are we reaching some kind of conclusion yet because I have the champgne on ice!!!!! I think we are moving a little closer to some sort of understanding.Are we?Please say we are!!!

Noetic I cant thank you enough.I owe you big time.What you are saying is exactly right.We do clash and we are very alike and we do have traits that manifest themselves in different ways. Thanks so much and I really mean it.

Elaine1 That is sad and wrong.It shows no understanding of AS.Things like this make me really cross.He is excellent on the computer.Yet he has poor eye contact in an interview.It's ridiculous.His eye contact doesn't interfere with his ability to do the job.Many people with As including me will struggle in an interview but it does not mean they cannot do the job.What happened to equal opportunites???

Noetic I love the quote at the bottom of your posts ''I am not a people person.I am a one person at a time person' I'll second that! Forgot to add thanks for trying to help my brother.I appreciate it.I have learnt so much from you about myself.I have suffered from depression.Not sure if my AS makes me more prone to it though my daughter was seriously ill with autistic encephalius, so guess that doesn't help.

Hidden gem Noetic knows her stuff and her posts are always really informative and useful.I certainly have learnt things from her.I would also say that you are fine as you are.You do not need help and support but some people do.No not me!I would also agree with Noetic and say that if you have As it is fairly mild.

I hope so tto but I have my doubts.I personally would like to draw a line under the discussing if hidden Gem has aspergers or not.I would be happy never to discuss it again either face to face or on the forum.I think it is the only way forward.I have all ready suggested this that i keep my posts on the forum general or about me and aspergers or my father and aspergers. Trouble is Hidden Gem doesn't want to let it go and I can understand this.But I do feel it is destructive to our relationship.I feel there is no point in continually discussing something there may never be a conclusion to.

No we are not talking in real life, sadly.Hidden Gem has said he doesn't want anything more to do with me .He has also said I make up conditions to gain attention and to gain sympathy.I wish this were true.As many of you will know my daughter had autistic encephalitus for six months following her mmr but for personal family reasons nothing to do with me or hidden gem, we didn't know each other then.We have only been in contact for two years, which kind of makes this all the more sadder. I was asked by hidden gem if I thought he had aspergers.He suspected he had because he had seen bits on the t.v. and thought that was just like him.Because of my daughter I answered yes I think you might have and basically he has never forgiven me since.Through knowing Hidden Gem I began to suspect i too had AS.The reason I stated it was mild is because many of the traits I dont have.But I do have problems in communication, social interraction and emotions.I also have OCD which I had always known about. From things Hidden Gem has said about our Father and things that my mum has told me I would suspect that a lot of his problems stem from AS but I could be wrong. To be honest it makes absolutely no difference to me if Hidden Gem has As or not.I just needed to find out answers to why my father does not want to know me and to find answers why Hidden Gem was behaving in certain ways. I don't want to change Hidden Gem in any way even though I find it hard sometimes.He is just my brother and I love and care for him regardless.Even if we have no further contact which looks likely my feelings remain the same.

I hope so too.My husband tells me I am a nice person but I dont feel it at the moment.I said to him if i didn't have as I would be different to which he replied but your as makes you you.I wouldn't want you to be any different.Bless him!!! Yes I care for my brother very much and would do anything for him but it might not help much now!!

Guess I need to eat a few less chocolate bars then or stop nicking the kids!!! :

Keep posting if this is helping you.This is a brilliant website, the best one of it's kind and the people on here are really knowledgeable, sensitive and open minded.(perhaps excluding me!!!!!)

Hidden gem's puns are great.He's actually really funny and like he has all ready said really good company.Mr Jaded has some competion then!!!!

I love my brother deeply just as i love my sister .I have been so worried about him which is why I came here.In doing so i and my husband have realised that I have as.This forum has been a god send to me and i thank you all for your support.Hidden gem is a great person with so much to give.

Daisy Proudfoot Thank you so much.Your post nearly made me cry!!!Thanks for understanding.

It's a really well written post.Hidden gem is a very talented writer which hopefully you will all be able to see if he continues to post on here.

I am Hidden Gem's sister and i hope there are people on here that can give him advice, help and support.Thanks

Happy Birthday to your son Lauren.Hope he has a good stress free day without too many surprises!I don't like surprises either!

She seems like a typical teenager to me, but then i have those joys to look forward to!Haven't got there yet.I am not sure she needs councelling though but then without actually knowing her it's hard to say but just from what you've said.hope you get it sorted out.