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Thanks. Don't worry about the booze i'm not an alcoholic or anything. That statement was really me reflecting on a wedding I went to a couple of week sback - lots of strangers and too much attention my way, plus being surrounded by free champers...who wouldn't have a few?! As you say, coping strategies have been formed throughout early development and I am a rather good actor
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Again, thank you all so much. Suffice to say, I know that I have AS now. This is an excellent forum and long may it continue. I don't think I shall go through with an assessment at this time. It's not really what I need but an understanding of my behavior is and I am finding that here. Ian BTW don't worry, MH services are, in my experience very good, I wouldn't be a part of it otherwise. And as far as how AS affects my ability to do my job, I think it actually helps me retain healthy professional bounderies with clients and remain objective.
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Thanks for all the 'meltdown' info, i prob only get this twice a year but now i understand it more. Last time was just after moving house when I had argument with girlf and found myself running to the laundry room and began growling and hitting myself. Happened in what seemed like a second and tbh was strangely enjoyable though scary. Ian
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Lets not forget that we also care for ourselves. I would say that the word "care" means to protect from harm.
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Thanks for all the replies. Just to respond to Lucas: Are you joking about the alcohol? I think you are, pedant! I read the term, 'Borderline Asperger Syndrome' recently and agree with you about it's uselessness really, it's a about the degree to which one sit's upon the 'spectrum', isn't it. Most mental health workers are emotionally hard as nails and totally desensetised, their attitude tends to be, " If you aren't psychotic or suicidal stop moaning".
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Thank you all very much. I don't see the need for a diagnosis really, other than to forgive myself for years of feeling like a social idiot. re: social situations, it's funny that i do think "what would Matt do?" (he is my close friend) and before that it was The Dude from the film 'The Big Labowski' Ian
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Hi. My name is Ian and i am 36. The funny thing is, i am growing certain that i have BAS. I shan't go into detail why, suffice to say that mostly i have always felt like an alien, am compelled to collect stuff, live in a fantasy world and am very sensitive to texture. I also have diagnosed Dyspraxia. The problem as i see it, is that i work for the NHS in mental health. I know that to be referred for an Asperger assessment i need to be taken on by my local mental health team and that's where i work. They would never take on the person that they see at work every day, but they don't see the stress i feel in social situations and the learnt interactions that i fake. They don't see the sick days i have had for 'flu' etc that are really about about the fact that i can't bear to be with people sometimes. Plus, i know a bit about the assessment process and it seems very long and requires family interaction and i can't do that. So what do i want? I don't know. Maybe it would be good to know that i am not alone in feeling this way. In always being called 'weird'. i have been waiting 36 years to 'grow out of it' and am realising that this isn't just childhood shyness. I do have a girlfriend, funnily enough she is a social worker for adults with learning disabilities (i reckon thats why she can deal with my oddness) and she agrees that i have the traits, my best friend too (my only true friend i might add, who is a lovely primary school teacher and amazing social crutch for me) agrees too. Still not sure why i am writing this, but i found the forum and joined so i shall follow my nose. Maybe some tips on handling busy social situations without resorting to alcohol?! Best wishes, Ian.