leasam

thanks for your replies, the school is having a meeting tonight about moving up to secondary, so im off there later, ive also tried to explain to my son that he might not be able to go to the same school as his friends, but he seemed to start worrying already and anxious behaviours are already showing i have my fingers crossed and hope that it will all turn out ok......

thanks alot, im going to try and get hold of all relevant people today....... wish me luck

thank you, i was pretty sure that it was going to be difficult. So im wondering now that if he doesnt get in to the prefferred school, what action can i take to make the transition as easy and as comfortable as possible? will he get any help with moving to somewhere that he knows noone, but at the same time, im not sure whether i want him to be noticed automatically as being "different" by the other children there...., Even though he finds it difficult with transitions, children DO like him and they tend to look out for him and become friends with him. Even so this is worrying me sick. I am soooo unsure of what to do for the best. His needs will be greater if he has to be moved to a school near us than tey would if he can go to the school near his primary. Also could i get him statemented or is it too late, I have no idea about any of these things and i suppose im feeling pretty much like a failure because i know im really not going to beable to get the best for him this time.

hi, my son is 10, 11 this year and off to secondary school , ive just received the pack and im worried. As with probably most of your children he doesnt cope with new situations very well and as a result when we moved house 2 years ago i kept him at the same primary school even though it means driving him there and back every day, but this also means i have taken him out of the catchment area for the secondary school i want him to go to and he wants to go to and all his friends are going to. Foolishly i thought that it wouldnt matter and that the primary school he went to automatically filtered him into the particular secondary school. Now i find out i have to choose 4 schools and priority is given to children in the catchment area, then aload of other things. Now i know that i can apply with a written letter from doctors etc, but how do i go about all this. He is not statemented, he only recieved help when he started the nursery and when he moved up into the infant school, he needs alot of help settling into places, this is the reson i want him to carry on with the other children he's spent the last 6 years with. He hasnt seen a pediatrician for about 5 years and clinical psychologist for about 3 years. he does get DLA at the middle rate for personal care and the lower rate for mobility. How can i go about getting a letter from someone? does anyone think he is in with a good chance of getting a place at his chosen school and has anyone else experinced similar things? thanks for your time and help in advance... leasa

hi, thanks for ALL your replies, he has mentioned that he doesnt get enough time to eat at school, i also know that he finds the dinner hall difficult to deal with, what with the noise and everything, i spose i just struggle with the fact on some days he will eat and others he wont. As for his eating being a long term problem, yes it has, he's never been a good eater right from being weaned onto solids. the milkshakes sound like a good odea, im just concerned that he will like them so much that thats all he will have, it seems like he cant have things in moderation, if he likes something he will just keep on and on, but then the other problem is getting him to try something for the first time........ thank you all i will look into some of the suggestions made

my son (9) wont eat. everyday he comes home from school with his packed lunch uneaten, he then says he's hungry so will have some toast, then at 6.30 when he has his dinner its horrible and cant eat it, i can see he's going to end up ill at this rate. i ask him what he would like to eat but when i give it him he cant eat it. i feel like im going to crack up, he cant see the point in eating, im not even sure that he knows when he's hungry, some dasy he can just eat and eat and eat others nothing......, can someone please give me some suggestions or something, im sooo desperate

hi, my names leasa, im 27 and i have a son who is 9 years old. he was diagnosed with autism when he was 2, later his diagnosis changed to aspergers. he functions well at school, but his social skills are poor, his eating is very limited and he gets obsessed with things very quickly. His speech is ok, he struggles finding the right words for things and it takes him a while for him to tell you things. He went through a research project when he was 2, and had play therapy, speech and language theraphy, music therapy, a dietician, pediatrician and clinical psychologist up until he was about 6 then they all decided he was doing ok, and discharges him. Now im having problems, i think i know where they stem from but im struggling with what to do with him. My partner doesnt really understand him and thinks he's just cheeky and disrespectful he can be at times, but i think the lack of social skills doesnt help. his eating is awful, he wont eat the food he's given, the food he's asked for, everynight its the same, "i cant eat it, tastes horrible" everynight almost the food goes in the bin. I dont know if he's underweight atm, but he wasnt a few years ago. I dont know what to do really, i think he needs to see someone, back to the pediatrician or something........ i know its a horrible thing to say but i hope theres other people here in the same boat because i'd really love some support and suggestions and just to know my son's not the only one....