pingu Report post Posted October 2, 2007 (edited) Hello there everyone. Im taking a break from my "book" as i have a bit of brain freeze going on. Writing about the past seems to have stirred things up and now my brains having a meltdown. so im wondering if anyone fancies joining me for a beer / wine or spirit. soft drinks are also available. Im having them all. lol. Whilst we are sharing beverages here, could i start the ball rolling on the conversation side of things, and ask when your children/ yourself/ your loved one connected to ASD. Started Nursery / preeschool. You see, we were advised to start K early and he actually started very early. so im trying to ponder when is the norm to start nursery, and if anyone started their children early becuase of early problems. I.E language / social skills etc. Drinks are on me........ shaz Edited October 2, 2007 by pingu Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pearl Report post Posted October 2, 2007 Ooh thanks Shaz, make mine a pale cream sherry JP was kicked out of his first nursery at just 2 years old (thats ma boy) Looking back I think I started him early cos I was finding it so hard to cope with him & couldnt understand why, just thought I was a lousy mum, yet I knew I hadnt struggled like that with S. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pingu Report post Posted October 2, 2007 Ooh thanks Shaz, make mine a pale cream sherry JP was kicked out of his first nursery at just 2 years old (thats ma boy) Looking back I think I started him early cos I was finding it so hard to cope with him & couldnt understand why, just thought I was a lousy mum, yet I knew I hadnt struggled like that with S. Ill have another with you. lol We started kieran on the advice of the health visitor. because he wasnt talking and hated other kids. looking back now i cant understand why i agreed to it?? shaz Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Clare63 Report post Posted October 3, 2007 Oooooooh I am too late for VAT !!!!! C started nursery at 3, I was working fulltime at the time and DH had to take him, he used to cry all the time so my husband had to stay with him for weeks, bless him he found it all very embarrassing as C stuck to him like a leech and having to sit in a circle with all the little ones singing the wheel on the bus !!!! Clare x x x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mumble Report post Posted October 3, 2007 Can I put in an order for later - mine's a white wine please - I reckon I'll be needing it around 2pm this afternoon. I started school at 2 1/2 in a class with kids almost 2 years older than me - it was an independent school that took funded kids in 'special circumstances' - my brother was needing 24 hour care at the time and I was being a right pain in my 'abnormal interactions' and insistence on wanting to know everything that it was decided it was best for me to be in a full time environment outside the home. I'm not sure it worked for me - when I went to 'normal school' at 6 I'd already done all the work and so I was a complete nightmare because I couldn't get on socially (and at that time out of sheer frustration I was quite violent with my peers) and I refused to do the 'stupid pointless work'. (I am of course now, a totally innocent adult ) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Lya of the Nox Report post Posted October 3, 2007 cava here please ( ooops wee bit early ) meggzie nearly started at 2 cos i found her hard work BUT was very ill at the time she went to school at 4 years and one month, her bruv nt was 4 years and 5 days lol mean mummie r me lol she coped, but we did not get diag till she was 11 so it kinda not matter if that makes sense x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nic m Report post Posted October 3, 2007 Hi, my daughter started at a creche at 20months and did not like it one little bit, and was hitting and biting any child who came near her and was withdrawn i put this down to change of routine but only kept her there a fortnight as the distress it was causing her was too much. Up until then she had me all the time so i was worried about trying somewhere else but i got her into a fabulous nursery two months later and she was settled and although she did not join in with other children to play, she played alongside others and enjoyed storytime, music time etc so it was a great success. Only diagnosed a year ago but i had my thoughts on A/S at this time. Enjoy the drinks cheers Nicola Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kizzy Report post Posted October 3, 2007 hiya my ds started at the local school nursery at 2 1/2 and within 6 months had been sent home several times and eventually been asked to leave. they were told that he had problems interacting with children and 1 to 1 was put in place but they had a job finding someone to do the job in the end i managed to get some support from the educational psychologist who got him into an assessment unit at the age of 3 1/2 its absolutly fantastic and he's loving every minute of it Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shortcake Report post Posted October 4, 2007 Ryan started nursery at about 3.5 to be honest that is when I started to notice his problems Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathrynh Report post Posted October 4, 2007 B started nursery full time at 2. Previously he had stayed at home with his dad. I work full time. I sent him when I became worried about his lack of development. I had thought at first it was due to lack of opportunity to socialise. Dad would't do mothers and toddlers etc and just stayed in the house with him all day. So glad I sent him cos then the differences became obvious very quickly and soon sent us in the direction of diagnosis and support. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bagpuss Report post Posted October 4, 2007 Can I have half a lager perlease?....actually, make it a pint....because I'm worth it Our youngest dd began nursery at around 3. The local primary school nursery wouldn't take her, as she wasn't potty trained, so I enrolled her in a private nursery 5 morning a week. They said she had no difficulties whatsoever, and fitted in really well. I had my doubts.....at home she was totally in control of us all, and I was close to tears on many occasions. When the EP went to visit as part of an assessment for poss ASD, she found a very different story. She reported that dd was being allowed to do pretty much what she wanted, and was causing mayhem, and was not interacting at all with any of the other children She advised a move to an assessment nursery, within a mainstream primary, in another town, and she's been there ever since. Moving on to the reception assessment class, and then the infant assessement class. Eldest dd began nursery at around 3 too. It was a private one, which I chose over a school one, because my son had attended it, and I trusted the staff. She'd already been dx with ASD, although DH and I didn't believe it one bit. I remember saying to the manager of the nursery...."Oh, she's been dx with autism, but of course, she isn't". The dx was later reversed, and then she was dx AS last year. We had to eat our words She was no bother at nursery, very placid infact, and even now, is far too kind for own good and conforms totally with school rules. Don't suppose there are any crisps to go with the lager is there...or some salted nuts.........chocolate??? Getting abit peckish Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sesley Report post Posted October 4, 2007 well i attended mother and toddler group up till he was 2 and a 1/2 he was obvioulsy developing differently to other of his age,i started noticing things when he thought it a great game to push babys over watch them cry and looking blanky over my shoulder when i told him off. he wouldn,t join in the christmas party he prefered to stay away fom the noise of the disco and obccessed over another childs digger toy. When time to start playgroup he wouldn,t do anything told to and just ran around ignoring everyone. Then i was advised to withdraw him until he was 3 so i waited for after christmas hoping he would be better,but he wasn,t so i with drew before thye told me to, then in tears at a health centre for his 3 year check, iwas refered to a speech and language thearapist,who refered us to a peadiatric doctor,(which in the end lead us to consultant to get his ASD statement) and recommended going back to playgroup and she would intervene and arrange one to one. he then progressed to nursery age for 4,with one to one and then i took the option of staying back in nursery rather than starting primary 1 with his peers and i am glad i did for the extra year in nursery,for age 5 which ment they could work more on his social skills to prepare for school and by that time we had had our statement.his progress has been at his own capabilites as he has developed. His social age is now about 4/5,despite his chronolgical age of 7 going on 8.so no matter how early or late you start them in social enviroments,they develop skills according to their own individual abilites Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pingu Report post Posted October 4, 2007 Can I have half a lager perlease?....actually, make it a pint....because I'm worth it Our youngest dd began nursery at around 3. The local primary school nursery wouldn't take her, as she wasn't potty trained, so I enrolled her in a private nursery 5 morning a week. They said she had no difficulties whatsoever, and fitted in really well. I had my doubts.....at home she was totally in control of us all, and I was close to tears on many occasions. When the EP went to visit as part of an assessment for poss ASD, she found a very different story. She reported that dd was being allowed to do pretty much what she wanted, and was causing mayhem, and was not interacting at all with any of the other children She advised a move to an assessment nursery, within a mainstream primary, in another town, and she's been there ever since. Moving on to the reception assessment class, and then the infant assessement class. Eldest dd began nursery at around 3 too. It was a private one, which I chose over a school one, because my son had attended it, and I trusted the staff. She'd already been dx with ASD, although DH and I didn't believe it one bit. I remember saying to the manager of the nursery...."Oh, she's been dx with autism, but of course, she isn't". The dx was later reversed, and then she was dx AS last year. We had to eat our words She was no bother at nursery, very placid infact, and even now, is far too kind for own good and conforms totally with school rules. Don't suppose there are any crisps to go with the lager is there...or some salted nuts.........chocolate??? Getting abit peckish Bagpuss some of this is similar to what we went through. The school insisted that he was ok, but i still had to stay with him for 20 of the 22 months he was in nursery. . ggggggggrrrrrrrrrrrr cant find any peanuts btw, will salt n vinigar crisps do? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bagpuss Report post Posted October 4, 2007 S & V crisps sound good to me Right, is it my round now? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pingu Report post Posted October 4, 2007 S & V crisps sound good to me Right, is it my round now? Certainly is. ill have a please. double, no make that triple. in fact ask the barman to cork the bottle and leave it with me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
