One of those people looking disapprovingly and not helping days

[peaches]

I used to lug a double buggy to and from the car to help me complete the school run (3 yo and 16 month old). I bought a buggy board this weekend. Used it for the second time today for picking up from school.

 

Raph began crying then went off on one because he couldnt go on the buggy board. It got worse all the way up the school path , through the grounds, until he was kicking and punching the buggy shouting stupid buggy and generally kicking out at anything including the car. As I have had a difficult few weeks, a hectic day I just couldnt take any more and burst into tears.

 

People very kindly walked past and pretended not to notice or laughed at his antics. People are nice arent they?

 

Im sick of doing all this on my own, asking for help, getting none and then having people just look at you .... One of them was a woman who always used to say hello too and chat to me, but I wonder if she was just chatting to me to find out about our circumstances. Ive found people do this a lot, they find out what they want to know and then presumably tell everyone but dont bother chatting with you any more.

[NickyB]

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[Enid]

Yes probably enjoy passing the gossip on!!! rise above them, you are worth a lot more than any of them, like to see them try what you are doing! or anyone really <'> chin up, hope you have a better evening Enid

[bikemad]

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[kinky j]

Oooh people like that make me soooo mad!!! So content in their own 360 degree patches of ignorance, the only time they ever take an interest in anyone but themselves is to pass judgement! They ain't worth the scrapings from the bottom of your shoe! You know what a fantastic thing you're doing and that you're doing a bl**dy good job at it despite the fact that the system keeps repeatedly failing you!

 

<'> <'> <'> you have so much on right now, it's not surprising you get sometimes! you may be doing wonderwoman's job but you're still only human.

 

I was thinking about this last night, does R's school do a walking bus?

(taken from the kent county council website)

 

Walking Buses

A Walking Bus is the name for a supervised group of children walking to or from school.

It is made up of at least two adult volunteers, who act as a 'driver' and a 'conductor' to escort the children. Adults and children all wear high-visibility waistcoats.

The bus follows a set route and 'walks' along a defined route to a published timetable. Children can join or leave the bus at set points along the route.

Each school decides when their Walking Buses operate. A Walking Bus doesn't have to operate on both mornings and afternoons, nor does it have to run every day.

 

I considered this option for C before my DP got his driving licence, because it's the same 2 adults that supervise every time, it follows the same route everytime and its clear what is expected from the children. Do you think this might be an option for R? If there's not one running you could always approach the school to see if they'd set one up (you never know if you don't ask )

 

Hope you have a peaceful evening <'> <'> <'>

[peaches]

No, there isnt a walking bus. Its not that far away, its just that the road is incredibly busy, the crossing lady is always off sick, and with 2 little ones in a buggy plus an unpredictable 6 year old ... well you know the rest.

[av16]

I do feel for you. <'> I've got to the stage now where I don't even think about other people as I'm dragging my 11 yr old around!

You're doing a great job

[NobbyNobbs]

sorry to butt in but does raph count as looked after or a child in care? if so does he have a PEP (personal education plan)? if he does count but doesn't have a PEP he should, and if he does provision for getting him safely to school should be included in it!

[sesley]

oh swimming on the floor of Tescos in Perth:crying: and because the game he wanted wasn't on the shelf and screaming he couldn't leave with nothing and entertaning joe public very nicely,when you can have a nice glass its hard not to shut them out but you have too, for your own sake and so you can try to concentrate on you childs needs,the gawping public are the ones with the problem not you.

Edited November 21, 2008 by sesley

[zaman]

S*d em. You are worth a million of them.

 

But for what it is worth, I'm sure there are many of us that have also stood and cried. My boy had a wobbly in the school playground once and chucked his book bag away. I wouldn't go and get it, and insisted that he get it. We went into class about 30 mins late, both red eyed!

[peaches]

This story has a sequel.

 

Yesterday our 3 year old was poorly and couldnt go up on the school run so I had someone sit in with her.

 

I thought, I know, I will still take the buggy board and then Raph can have a go on it. He will like that.

 

Got to school, told him he could go on buggy board, so he got on it. Went 2 yards and said, I will be jumping off at the gate (another 5 yards!). He jumped off unpredictably just before the gate, and didnt show any further inclination to use it, but ran off with one of his class mates and I couldnt retrieve him.

 

Isnt that absolutely typical?

 

On the up side, I have got a number of someone who does breakfast club and youth work, she may be willing to do the school run for me.

 

THANKS EVERYONE FOR ALL YOUR SUPPORT, DONT KNOW WHAT I WOULD DO WITHOUT THIS FORUM!

Edited November 22, 2008 by peaches

[sesley]

oh the joys of autism so unpredictable good days bad days.. I was at a autism parents meeting last night planning the christmas party and it was so relaxing being able to discuss things like food and who eats what and no aspertain and no competive games, they get taken to seriously and it was great to laugh with other parents over the odd things that are people do. If you can have time to laugh as well it helps.

[peaches]

Youve just reminded me about the no competitive games ... must mention it at school or anywhere else.

 

At Center Parcs this week DGS went to a Pirates and Princesses party with his sister. They said they had problems with him because he didnt win a prize. FGS! dont they know how to rig these things so everyone gets a prize? His sister came out with 3 prizes.