Interview for college

[Paula]

My son has got his interview for college this friday.............fingers crossed.........hes hopeing to go in at a slightly higher level because he can read and write and do maths and knows how to tell the time and knows the money system........hes hopeing to get onto the skills for life and work course..............he should be ok.

 

After all the upset we had before xmas with him running away from home because he was scared of leaving his special school hes now all geard up to going to college he even bought a bag to put his stuff into............i just hope it works out for him and doesnt go pear shaped.........

 

Im hopeing to get myself a little pt job once i know hes settled in ok maybe after the first term say end of october.......fingers x

 

just cant beleive hes leaving school this time........dunt time fly when youre haveing fun.........

[emmasmum]

I know what you mean - it's so scary - I hope the interview goes well.

 

My son (not ASD) has learning difficulties and we've been lucky to get him into a college where he can live in Monday to Friday and come home at weekends. He'll actually have a social life!

 

He's going to do skills for working life course at the lower level.

 

Hope the interview goes well,

 

Carol

 

xx

Mum to Emma, 14, Aspergers

[Suze]

Paula , what along way you have come.I can still remember you joining the forum and having all those toileting issues.Then the school problems, and eventually getting him into a better school.What a long way you have come together.You must be very proud.Really hope it goes well on friday :thumbs:I,m sure it will.best wishes suzex

[baddad]

Good luck for Friday - and for College when he gets there. :thumbs:

 

L&P

 

BD

[Kathryn]

Good luck - hope all goes well.

 

 

If it's a supportive environment and they're used to dealing with young people who have AS, it will provide just the right kind of bridge he needs between school and "the world out there".

 

 

K x

 

 

[pearl]

Keeping everything crossed, for him & you xx

[Paula]

Yes thats why i first searched out a support forum on autism because of my sons toileting issues............i was desperate for advice on what to do he was in a right old state with anal leakage and constapation and refuseing to use the loo ,i thought it would never end..............it did............this place made me realise i wasnt alone and it was quiete a common problem .........

 

The college has a special has numerous kids on the spectrum and ive been down there and met all the tutors and kids and had a good nosey round.........he will be invited to go in for a week in August to do a trial week to settle in and get to know the other students and meet the tutor ..............of course if he doesnt like it he can then pull out.Fingers crossed he does and it goes well...........

 

Good luck to all those kids moveing into a new phase of there lives its exciteing but scarey at the same time specialy for parents.

[Paula]

Yes thats why i first searched out a support forum on autism because of my sons toileting issues............i was desperate for advice on what to do he was in a right old state with anal leakage and constapation and refuseing to use the loo ,i thought it would never end..............it did............this place made me realise i wasnt alone and it was quiete a common problem .........

 

The college has a special has numerous kids on the spectrum and ive been down there and met all the tutors and kids and had a good nosey round.........he will be invited to go in for a week in August to do a trial week to settle in and get to know the other students and meet the tutor ..............of course if he doesnt like it he can then pull out.Fingers crossed he does and it goes well...........

 

Good luck to all those kids moveing into a new phase of there lives its exciteing but scarey at the same time specialy for parents.

[Paula]

Oh i forgot.

 

Just recently our son announced he wanted to knock himself into shape and join the gym me and his dad go to....he went along and did the induction i explained to the young lad who was the instructor he had aspergers ect and he was brilliant with him.So now he goes three times a week and is realy enjoying it and the lads there make a point of saying hello to him and he was dead pleased when one shook his hand..................its the small things that make all the difference.

 

hes also started showering most evenings and even...............cant beleive im saying this.......even started to use deodarant on his own chooseing to use it normally wed have a struggle and have to try and spray him.I think hes thinking if he packs on some muscle and smells nice hell pull at college...............lol

[Suze]

oh paula, that brought a tear to my eye .....not many years ago he would,nt go near loo paper and all that tough stuff you were going through.Sounds like he,s really embracing stuff at the moment, long may it continue

[pearl]

Brilliant news Paula. JP goes to the gym regularly

[oxgirl]

Best of luck Paula, wishing your lad all the best in his new college.

My lad is leaving school next week too, it's a scary time isn't it.

 

~ Mel ~

[matzoball]

That's brilliant Paula, you all must be chuffed to bits for him! So glad to hear that everything is going great for him Good luck! jxx

[Paula]

Oh he still doesnt go anywhere near toilet paper or paper napkins ...............ive given up on trying to sort that out ive tried talking to him tried finding out what it is he doesnt like about it but you cant get any sence out of him ...........it just is......luckily though the fact his bowels sorted themselves out eventually with a bit of help in the dietery front he no longer gets into a mess and he showers more regulary and baths all be it under supervision that soap actually contacts his skin else hed just sit there.............its progress even if it does take time,you get there in the end.

 

It is a scarey time oxygirl ill be glad when his first week is over and then his first term once i know hes ok and settled and things are going pear shaped im determined to try and get a job even if its just a temperary one for xmas.Ive spent a long long time at home brining up the kids being a stay home mum and housewife 18 years in total.........ive had the odd part time job,used to escort on the buses takeing special need kids too and from schools but got fed up with ignorant drivers whod id to keep reporting for being rotton to the kids and then they made me life hell ,,the drivers, and i was branded a trouble causer so that was that too stressfull.

 

One thing for certaine this time next year things are going to be realy different.

 

Its only when i read posts from parents whoes kids are younger than my son that i remember behaviours and problems he had that id forgotten about and then realise just how much progress hes made with the help of a great school and though i say it myself a not too bad mum.

 

 

[Mandapanda]

hes also started showering most evenings and even...............cant beleive im saying this.......even started to use deodarant on his own chooseing to use it normally wed have a struggle and have to try and spray him.I think hes thinking if he packs on some muscle and smells nice hell pull at college...............lol

 

Hi Paula

 

You could've told us to sit down before reading this

 

Mj is nearing the end of the first year at college and we're still waiting for the shower thing to kick in...

 

It's amazing to hear things are going so well at the moment. You'll no doubt have setbacks, but as you say when you look back its incredible the progress they make.

 

Well done and good luck to you both!

[Paula]

Well he still chances his arm...........hell say things like ............ive had a wash...............meaning its rained on him so that will do.............he doesnt like showering or washing or deodarant but has started to realise its a necesarry evil.He was also told that if he wanted to go to the gym with me and his dad then he would have to jump in the shower ever time afterwards or else he wouldnt be allowed to go............

 

 

Theres bound to be set backs the roads never that smooth but thank god at the moment things are ticking along.Weird isnt it with aspergers you go mon ths and months with no apparent progress and then suddenly all of a sudden things click into place and loads of progress is made.