worried about being thrown out.

[matzoball]

situation at home is very tense atm.

 

mother's mental health is deteriorating rapidly and I am getting the brunt of it. brother has wrecked all doors in the house, and used it as his own storage place. also lives with us rent free and chore free.

 

he's moved to my dads as of nearly 2 weeks ago.

 

house is a state - and it's taking a while for me to try and sort it out as mum hasn't been home much. she's been ill in bed for 3 days now during which time i have taken care of her. however she is being very abusive and outright nasty to me (calling me scum, retard, fat cow etc). she was alright with me yesterday as i had had an argument with boyfriend so i guess was giving me a break :S

 

this morning i got up early to get her prescription for the chest infection which i paid for, bought groceries and started to tidy the house. i decided to sit for an hour on the laptop to which she gets up, starts thumping about the house and then comes downstairs saying the house is a tip and its all my fault etc

 

she tried chucking me out at the beginning of the week after a build up of the aforementioned treatment. now it's building up again and i am really worried she is going to throw me out. i have literally no where to go and no money because i pay digs with my jobseekers allowance.

[KezT]

get yourself down CAB/DIAL or somewhere similar and see if they cn sort you out yourown place - soundslike you'd be better off eotionally and financially as you could claim housing benefit for the rent.

[JsMum]

You could request your own Assessment from social services to see what your Needs are, in relation to housing, benefits, social care.

 

This will need specialist proffessionals to fight your for your rights though, so I advise you to contact national autistic society helpline who which I only just recently found this out have this.

 

http://www.autism.org.uk/en-gb/our-services/advice-and-support/community-care-service.aspx

 

In the meantime you could aproach your local Authorities Housing Department to see if there is any tempary housing/accomadation until you have had assessments that determine a more permanant placement that meets your needs.

 

Depending on your age there are organisation such as STONHAM Housing, or Medcap, may of know of accomadation that meet your needs.

 

If your mother is deteriating there are also helplines that maybe able to support you further such as MIND

 

http://www.mind.org.uk/

 

It maybe that your mother may need further assessments too to look at her care and provisions too because by the sounds of it you are taking on the role of a carer.

 

It sounds like you have a lot of stress on your young shoulders and you are coping with far more than you are really meant to.

 

JsMumx

Edited October 23, 2010 by JsMum

[matzoball]

You could request your own Assessment from social services to see what your Needs are, in relation to housing, benefits, social care.

 

This will need specialist proffessionals to fight your for your rights though, so I advise you to contact national autistic society helpline who which I only just recently found this out have this.

 

http://www.autism.org.uk/en-gb/our-services/advice-and-support/community-care-service.aspx

 

In the meantime you could aproach your local Authorities Housing Department to see if there is any tempary housing/accomadation until you have had assessments that determine a more permanant placement that meets your needs.

 

Depending on your age there are organisation such as STONHAM Housing, or Medcap, may of know of accomadation that meet your needs.

 

If your mother is deteriating there are also helplines that maybe able to support you further such as MIND

 

http://www.mind.org.uk/

 

It maybe that your mother may need further assessments too to look at her care and provisions too because by the sounds of it you are taking on the role of a carer.

 

It sounds like you have a lot of stress on your young shoulders and you are coping with far more than you are really meant to.

 

JsMumx

 

sorry i have not replied - not been in the house since my last post - am back now.

 

i have been advised to present myself as homeless as there are no real facilities to help someone like me in ayrshire apparently.

 

things have slightly improved however as i have gotten to the bottom of the bad treatment - mum has been trying to alientate me as she is scared i will leave like my brother.

 

things aren't brilliant but i am pushing forward with finding a way to leave with the relationship mended. she has a lot of mental issues and from what we talked about when we resolved the current argument, she has come to the realisation she is like me e.g. on the spectrum. i'm not sure of that, but won't dwell on something that is making her so unhappy.

 

i have booked an appointment with her doctor who wants us to both attend so we can discuss whats been going on lately and perhaps get my mum referred for some sort of mental help.

 

in the meantime, i just have to keep my head down i guess. but i will be calling the nas about getting help!

 

thanks for the kind words - you guys are awesome xx