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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team


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  1. Christmas!

    Just needed to have somewhere safe to rant.... F***ing Christmas & ASC's do not mix!!!! Just had screaming row with my son, culminating with him staying at home when we went out for our traditional Christmas Eve meal in his favourite restuarant! I try to keep it as to routine as possible but I can't cancel Christmas for the whole family just for one 18 year old:/ Now I'm feeling really mean & guilty:(
  2. After School, what then?

    bit late to the discussion, but some pointers. If he has a EHCP that goes up to 25 years old (max, depending on what he is doing) and should include trasition arrangements If he is going to p16 education of any kind, you can make transition arrangements with them, either with or without an EHCP Some p16 provisions are very ggood and can put in place individual leaning plans eg: Maths A level, plus a lifeskills class and social skills class to mke a full tiem study plan. Ask around different providers to see what they can offer If/when he gets to Uni, they will also have transition arrangements and SEND specialists available to help. Start asking sooner rather than later:) Hope that is helpful
  3. Son is turning 18 next week. He is still signed up at our local FE college for another 2 years. He recieves PIP in his own name. We have repeatedly failed to get disability child services to even come out and assess (I know they have to legally, but they still didn't!), and we have not had a paed since the only specialiset in the LA retired in 2012, so no professional support currently in place. He lives at home, but would prefer not to as there are youger siblings that make it a bit noisy/chaotic for him.... Any advice as to what i should be looking at doing/applying for/advising him? TIA
  4. I don't think this is restricted to parents of AS kids. Many parents will emphasise the importance of exams - because they are quite important in many aspects of your future life. I try to be balanced with my kids - concentrate on getting exams at school, as it is by far the easiest time to get them. Teachers on tap, everything (almost) paid for. Lots of peers doing the same as you. However, it is not the end of your life if it doesn't work out at 16 years old. I know many people who didn't get their GCSEs at 16, but went on to be very successful in life. they all did get their exams eventually though:/ Without GCSEs you are unlikely to be able to get many jobs, and so you will have restricted what you can do - finding something you enjoy will be harder, and parents want their kids to find jobs they enjoy!.
  5. Pissed off with staring women

    Not sure what line they might cross? Seems to me you have a fairly bigoted view of people that haven't done anything other than socialise in a public place:/ You say they have no social skills, then complain they "stare" at you - but if they have no social skills they may not even realise they are staring or understand it is not appreciated. Sounds like you are doing the right thing by ignoring them. *If* they actually make any comments/call you names I would suggest you discuss quietly with the cafe manager.
  6. It was worth it:)

    Another update: DS is now in mainstream college, and it's all going really well! He is doing A levels, split across four years, and is currently getting As in his maths:) He also attends a "fun" subject one day a week and the ASD unit for life skills 1 day a week. He takes the public bus to each venue and attends a community social group once a week. He got a weekend job!!!!!! (unpaid). Every day I do a little mental happy dance when I think about how far we have come:)
  7. It was worth it:)

    RESULTS DAY! 1 × A* 4 x A 3 x B 1 x C Not bad for a child who was considered unable to access education a few years ago:)
  8. university 3 years i wont get back...

    your tutor ought to be able to give you some suggestions/point you in the right direction. talk to them:/
  9. Mature adult diagnosis

    the only real reason to get a dx later in life imo is to understand yourself better. I doubt there would be much in support available, but it may well help you understand your triggers and self management techniques. If you have had episodes of poor mental health that have led to professional input previously, a dx may be helpful for future therapeutic programs
  10. Suggesting ASC to a teenager

    Thanks:) You were quite right - she got there long before I worked my way round to it, and was more than amenable to going through the dx process! phew.
  11. Hi all. It's been a while since I was around regularly. Son is doing well now - taking GCSES atm and looking forward to college and A levels next year. My older daughter is nearly 13 and over the past year it's become more and more obvious that she is also on the spectrum. Been to see school today and they totally agree so we have referred her to start the dx process. Any advice on how I broach the subject with her?
  12. Does anyone have an ECHP yet?

    Our LA has also dumped it on the school(s) to put together, but at least they did turn up to the second meeting. On the plus side, the school is on side so we have batted it back and forth between us for a while and will present a pretty finalised version to the LA;) At work we have the same issue - the LA (sometimes) turns up to the meeting, then expects the school to do all the paperwork:/ We have sent several in now and the LA doesn't seem inclined to disagree with whatever we say, which is promising, although we haven't asked for anything very interesting yet;)
  13. Does anyone have an ECHP yet?

    well, the date finally arrived. I took the day off work. Set cover work the DAY BEFORE my class sits their maths GCSE exam! Traipsed 75mins accross country in the freezing rain to attend sons ECHP meeting at his school today. Sat in reception for 5 mins to be told the LA aren't coming so the whole thing is cancelled (the school haven't even seem LA's ECHP paperwork yet!) and will have to be rescheduled> Traipsed back through the freezing rain for another 75mins and arrived back at work just as the lunch bell went:( REALLY, really pissed off! And I'm going to have to do it all again when they rearrange, which will really, REALLY, off work:/ Can I bill them for the petro, do you think? Can work (same LA as the one who didn't turn up) bill them for the cover?
  14. Does anyone have an ECHP yet?

    we had his AR in January, then another just recently (bought forward so we would have documentation in time to put in college applications). Not had any new paperwork through from either yet, so mstill only got his Statement which is a couple of years old now..... College is stating all students must have ECHP prior to enrolling. LA is saying they are behind with the paperwork - they give deadlines but happily ignore them:/ There will have to be some fair few changes from his S/M to ECHP - not least because he will be changing settings, and passing the age of 16 soon.....
  15. It was worth it:)

    Just recieved Son​'s report ready for his year 11 Annual Review today. In 2.5 years at Priory Group​ he has changed from a child who was out of school, often violent, and spent hours most days in a catatonic shut down to a "lovely, thoughtful, sensible young man", who is hard working and keen to help others. He is described as "a great ambassador for the school" Although there are obviously still issues to deal with I can't put into words how proud I am of him:) The amazing academic results are a bonus too;) For those of you who don't know/remember, the fight to get him into the school lasted over a year, included having the whole family considered "at risk" by social services and very nearly broke us, even though we are a very strong family generally! We went right to the wire with the Tribunal, and borrowed money to get the reports required as the LA didn't do any! I spent almost every day in tears, and honestly contemplated a wide variety of awful scenarios. Since getting the place, we have regularly had to fight the LA to ensure they complied with his statement and provided suitable transport! BUT.......I have been totally and utterly proven right! It was the right thing to do, it was the right place to go, and it was worth it! The future is looking bright. To anyone else out there going through this. Never give up! PS: A massive thank you to Sally who pretty much coached us through everything. I couldn't have done it without you (I didn't even know there wrre ASD schools without you) and my son would now be another one of the governments statistics!