Husband may have aspergers

[lindymo]

Hi all.

 

My husband us showing all the classic signs of aspergers. However, I don't know where or how to go about getting a diagnisis for him. We live in Bolton and our doctor seems unable to help us. Can anyone suggest a course of action for me. I feel that my relationship with him is deteriorating and I think it would help us both to mend our relationship if we knew he had aspergers. I'd be able to make allowances and he would get help in overcoming difficulties.

 

I'd really appreciate some help from someone.

 

Thanks. Linda M

[matzoball]

Hi all.

 

My husband us showing all the classic signs of aspergers. However, I don't know where or how to go about getting a diagnisis for him. We live in Bolton and our doctor seems unable to help us. Can anyone suggest a course of action for me. I feel that my relationship with him is deteriorating and I think it would help us both to mend our relationship if we knew he had aspergers. I'd be able to make allowances and he would get help in overcoming difficulties.

 

I'd really appreciate some help from someone.

 

Thanks. Linda M

 

Hi Lindymo

 

It's always difficult seeking diagnosis, but I would suggest asking your doctor for referral to adult psychological services. They will go through things with him and ascertain whether he should persue a diagnosis. I am not an expert by any means, it's just how it worked for me. At the very least whether he finds out he is on the spectrum or not, he will at least find some help with dealing with whatever issues he has. I would also suggest that you seek couples counselling as well. In relationships both parties contribute to difficulties they face - it's how they deal with it that matters.

[Adam Mars]

If he does have AS then I'd recommend "An Asperger Marriage" by Chris and Gisela Slater-Walker. In fact, I'd recommend it even if he doesn't have a diagnosis of AS: if he has many of the characteristics, it's still a useful read.

[JsMum]

You need to go throw your GP for a referral but I would also look into contact National Autisctic Society who can help you with understand what AS is and the process for assessment, diagnosis.

 

http://www.autism.org.uk/

 

There is information on NAS for specific areas too you listed Bolton on your profile so if thats were you live then Manchester is not far from you and they have support for that area.

 

 

http://www.autism.org.uk/local-services/find-local-services/manchester-services.aspx

 

Other ASD support services in the manchester are here.

 

http://www.asgma.org.uk/

 

and a NHS link here that may be of interest

 

http://www.salford-pct.nhs.uk/healthguide/thedirectory_listing.php?id=268

 

There is support throw Relate who also have experience of couple who have AS/Other specific needs so just express you suspect your husband has AS.

 

http://www.relate.org.uk/home/index.html

 

It is increasingly more difficult to access the right professionals to get a proper assessments but if you feel strongly and your Husband wants to go ahead with the assessments just keep trying until you have got somewhere, put it in writing so you have evidence of the request of referral of date.

 

Let us know how you get on.

 

JsMumx

[ScienceGeek]

If he does have AS then I'd recommend "An Asperger Marriage" by Chris and Gisela Slater-Walker. In fact, I'd recommend it even if he doesn't have a diagnosis of AS: if he has many of the characteristics, it's still a useful read.

 

I too am married and my wife and I both found that book to be rather patronising. We still haven't found a book that we agree with that doesn't completely lay the blame solely on the autistic spouse, a relationship is two way and the compromises should be as such