KezT Report post Posted July 27, 2011 I had the whole day without DS today. Admittedly I had to swap him for my mother!!!! and niece... So it was me, a crotechety old woman and three children aged 6, 7, 8 plus the baby. We were out for the whole day - a bit of shopping, to the beach, lunch in the local Weatherspoons, then the afternoon in the park, followed by a longish walk home, making supper, tidying up, then bath & bed for the kids.... Not a cross word was said all day. There was no shouting, no fighting, and no-one ran off. I got to spend quite a lot of the day sitting on my bum vaguely "keeping an eye" on where the kids were, rather than trailing around behind trying to extricate him from escalating situations. In the pub, a lady actually came over to us near the end of our meal and complimented me on how well behaved the children had been I'm still not quite sure whether to feel proud of my kids or utterly despondant that I know it would have been soooooo different if DS had come along too We have never managed a fully sucessful day out with DS - even with both parents along to help - I wonder if we ever will? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JsMum Report post Posted July 27, 2011 Happy you had a nice day out with the family defo a yes. Your son has different needs compaired to the family thats all so its obvous that the results are going to be different when you spend a day with your family than when you spend it with your son. Try and not feel bad that youve enjoyed todayx Your son has different needs thats all. JsMumxx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Adam Mars Report post Posted July 27, 2011 We have never managed a fully sucessful day out with DS - even with both parents along to help - I wonder if we ever will? You will. It can be more difficult - and a longer process - for parents to know and understand their ASD children than their NT children. It's a more difficult and longer process for an ASD child to know themselves than it is for NT children. It's a more difficult, longer journey but it still has a destination which will be reached eventually...and like most long, difficult journeys the arrival is all the sweeter. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites