Jump to content
  • Announcements

    • Kris

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team
Louis' mum

HFA and severe social anxiety

Recommended Posts

Hi all

 

My son was recently diagnosed with HFA at the age of 21.

He has had social anxiety since childhood and is now virtually agoraphobic and would never leave the house alone. His therapy has been mainly CBT which has been completely useless. He has steadily got worse and now spends most of his time in bed. I love him dearly but don't know how to help him and feel at my wits end :( , so much so that I have been offered CBT myself! He seems unconcerned by this situation but admitted to being 'unhappy'.I worry for his future, Does anyone have a similar experience?

Edited by Louis' mum

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hello :)

 

I have a similar experience in that I'm diagnosed with Asperger's (earlier this year) have social anxiety and agoraphobia and during the last 10 years have spent way too much of that time in my bedroom (and at bad stages in bed)...

 

Currently I spend 90% (minimum) of every week in my home.

 

I'm waiting on CBT...

 

I don't know what it's like from a parent's point of view though - hope you find what your looking for

 

Best

 

Darkshine

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

i was agorphobic before being officially assessed or diagnosed with AS which is why mum took me to docs as wouldn't leave the house without parents was scared to was having panic attacks is your son depressed too? if spends his time in bed and is 'unhappy'? have you thought of meds for anxiety disorders? may help him take the anxiety edge of the situation? does he have an support worker or social worker?

 

XKLX

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

i have not been agorphobic but have had mental health problems counselling and other forms of therapy. I am wondering if those you have had therapy with or will have therapy with have experience of working with those with ASD I have have found this and spending time with others who have ASD has made a big difference.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thanks for the replies everyone,

 

Louis is on moclobemide which is an old drug for anxiety which works quite well to take the edge off his symptoms. I have been told he isn't depressed by the psychiatrist but I'm not convinced.

Louis has always been treated in a mental heath context and did attend a social inclusion facility for a while but couldn't relate to the others and said they were 'mentalists'!! I have suggested he attends a group for people with ASD, which I could attend with him but he won't even consider it. I've tried to get one to one counselling with a woman who specialises in ASD and anxiety but it is out of area and I won't be able to get the funding :(

I really don't know where to go next.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hey I was wondering about something....

 

Louis is VERY keen on an on-line computer game called World of Warcraft.

Its a blessing and a curse because he has a kind of cyber life through this game and does communicate with others through it but on the negative side, does it stop him from trying to go out into the real word? :unsure: Does anyone on here play on this game?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Tally   

I don't see any harm in someone getting enjoyment and social contect through the internet, whether it be forums, games, or whatever. The problem can be when the person gets so involved that they stop going out because they find the computer easier or they have become addicted to it. In those cases then yes, it can stop people from getting out into the real world. If he's playing it all day, having fun and socialising easily, then what motivation is there for him to do anything else?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

That's good news that he's agreed to try :)

 

As for the game - I refuse to buy it because a few years ago a friend of min lost around 8 solid months of their life to that game (and several month either side) - and I've heard of several others who have done the same. I watched my friend play it when I visited and it is very alluring, the control, the fantasy, the interactions - it feels like you could be something better than in real life, and people come up to you for help, so people need you, and you can look like and be like whatever you want and you aren't different or weird, and being able to control it and be in charge of the actions, and all actions have very clear and obvious consequences (less confusion), and the skills you acquire make you better but in a clear and visual way - the progression is clear and easy to see. And the gaming world is just huge - it feels like there are endless possibilities that are actually attainable.

 

The positives of playing this (in my opinion) far outweigh the negatives - until self-awareness comes back and people realise what they are doing (i.e sitting in front of a pc way too much!!!)

 

My friend is ashamed now that they spent so much time sitting playing a game and living in a virtual world - but me, I can see the appeal because real life is not like the things I listed about the game is it?

 

It can be a very addicting escape...

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now


×